I can go up to them but can't make myself ask for a dance. I don't want rejection, even if there's a good chance they'll say yes it scares me.

I can go up to them but can't make myself ask for a dance. I don't want rejection, even if there's a good chance they'll say yes it scares me.





There really isn't any advice except to get over the fear of rejection. You're not asking them for a date. You're trying to sell them a dance. Men come into strip clubs TO buy dances.
Maybe also think of it like... if they were such hot shots, they wouldn't be in a strip club where they have to pay for female attention. They are in YOUR territory and you have the upper hand.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."
Use your actual attraction to them to help you! I love approaching hot guys and honestly telling them how hot they are. I say things like "wow, you're someone I would actually want to date, you're SO hot!" They seem to love it! And who cares if they say no...





1. Think of it as purely a sales job
2. Remember you're the one with the power. You're the hot babe they can't get in real life, and they're paying for your company.
3. Be confident. You're obviously hot, or you wouldn't have been hired. So fake confidence and walk around like the best dancer in the club.
We've all had our awkward moments while learning. I started out extremely shy, but after a few months I developed a sort of script, complete with my replies... ex: Hi, how are you, where are you from, let's do a private dance!
Just try your best and chalk up any "mistakes" to being new. Every next customer is a chance to start over.
If all else fails, then just stick to hustling old fat bald guys. They usually spend more anyway.


Use this as a very last resort. The biggest whale I've ever met was also the most sexy man I've seen in any strip club period. He was absolutely beautiful. I second what another said, use the attraction as your hustle. I spent all day and half of nightshift with him and never got bored or checked my watch in VIP because he was that fucking hot lol.





They're not "hot guys" they're ATM's with penises. The sooner you stop thinking of customers as people the sooner you'll get rid of this absurd fear. If you're this scared of rejection, this isn't the business for you. Rejection comprises a huge part of our day.
Either grow a pair so you can run with the big dogs or sit on the porch on your pity pot with the puppies. Your choice.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest
I would turn it into a hustle. "wow you are so hot. I am so lucky..i never get to dance for actually HOT guys" Sell dance.





Ooh that, yes. I do that partway through the first dance and it always results in a second.
Young guys, hot or not, seem to take a bit of confidence to deal with. They're used to girls their own age, so it's not like the old men who are just thrilled we're speaking to them.
Since they love to give each other shit & see each other get shit, I have a lot of luck being a sasspot to the young guys.
If one says "No I don't want a dance", I'll turn to the others and ask "What's wrong with him?" They'll often give him so much grief that he gets the dance. If one tries to sass you somehow, giving a smart remark back will get that "HEY OHHHHH!" response from the other guys who then delight in tipping the girl who one-upped their buddy. Etc etc.
"People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."
"You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

Hey! I had the same problem. I think its because growing up I was an ugly duckling so thinking a hot guy would find me attractive was something I had never experienced before. You need to actually look in the mirror and realise YOU ARE FREAKIN HOT!! Any guy would be lucky to even talk to such a great girl let alone see you naked. Just cause we think a guy is hot doesnt mean every other girl does. I once had a tall hansome army guy tell me that he had never had a girlfriend or sex and I was like wha?! Your joking. He ended up spending about £700 on me alone that night because I guess the attraction was there! And he was a bit like Channing Tatum no joke lol.



HOT men have money too-- sometimes they have more money because being hot is another privilege. I made 600$ this winter off a guy who used to date Kirsten Dunst (he had the photos to prove it). Also hot people are insecure too and want attention and compliments- if that weren't true we wouldn't have this thread.
Hot customers are fun, yes. I'll concur with that.





Where are these hot guys? I have only ever seen 3 super good looking guys at clubs in my life. One was one of my sister's exes so I stayed away from him, one was gay and the other one I ended up dating for like a year. Oops on that one! Lol
XoXo Gia
Danielle Fishell (the Dish): "If the Super-Star thing doesn't work out, Gia makes a great stripper name"





^ I know I can count the number of hot guys on my hands after 10 years in the club.
xoxo
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