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    I know there's alot of discussion on how customers are supposed to act or proper etiquette in the club but is there any unwritten rules that dancers follow when dealing with customers?

    I know that the dancer's primary function is to make as much money as possible. But just as with any sales position, you want to use sound ethical practices and not manipulative practives. And when I talk about customers, Im referring to "good" customers not the ones that come to the club and thinks he can fuck all the dancers and treat em like trash. You can manipulate them all you want lol

    For example, I don't think a dancer should suggest seeing the customer OTC unless she really means it. If she says "lets meet up OTC" but if she is only saying that to separate the money from the customer even more but has no intentions to seeing the customer, I think that's bad salesmenship.

    Are there anymore that dancers should just not do besides the obvious of sex in the club?

    PS: This dancer who's a CF, suggested that we meet for lunch,dinner,etc..the other night we had a great time talking and flirting around. I gave her 200 when I first seen her (which I usually do). Ive already told her that I enjoy my time with her ITC and I don't mind being a great customer. The previous times she said that she would love to go out to dinner but said since Im married she will respect my marriage. But now she wants to go out as friends and she's pushing it... Not sure if she's serious or if shes pulling my leg....That's where this question comes from.

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    Just assume it's all bullshit unless you get a call from her on the phone number she asked you to give her

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    Even then I'd assume it is bullshit unless you've been a regular for a while. Her job is to make you feel special. If she senses you'd feel special by being considered for OTC she'll tell you that stuff. Just see it for what it is, a good time at the club.
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    Yep that's true....

    Just don't quite understand why dancers would BS a customer that's already spending money (which is what they want) and risk the customer finding out shes full of shit and lose a regular customer. Especially one that is not looking for no OTC mess lol

    After a while you get tired of the BS especially in regard to meeting up and etc, etc...

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    A lot of customers are looking for OTC, and at the very least would like to hear a stripper say she wants to meet up OTC. Some customers will only spend money on a dancer until they figure out she won't go home with them. If it doesn't work for 1/10 customers it's still worth it for 9/10 customers

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    For example, I don't think a dancer should suggest seeing the customer OTC unless she really means it. If she says "lets meet up OTC" but if she is only saying that to separate the money from the customer even more but has no intentions to seeing the customer, I think that's bad salesmenship.
    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    Just don't quite understand why dancers would BS a customer that's already spending money (which is what they want) and risk the customer finding out shes full of shit and lose a regular customer. Especially one that is not looking for no OTC mess lol
    Maybe because, in their experience, it keeps guys on the hook and spending more during the same visit.

    As far as this notion of being a "regular customer", it never ceases to amaze me how many guys try to project their beliefs about "customer service" onto strippers. How can she ever know if you will ever be in the club again? Or if you won't find another girl to spend on, such as one who offers to do more than she will ITC? Or if your money is going to run out? Or etc.,etc. Many of these girls have learned the hard way that most guys are only "reliable" for as long as it takes for another shiny object to grab their interest or for their money to run out. Net-net, it is expecting a lot for these girls to show restraint today in the very uncertain hope of collecting more tomorrow.

    So with all of that said, it should be no surprise that many dancers treat this as a cash and carry business. IME what also doesn't help is that some percentage of these girls live hand to mouth and are under pressure to earn as much as possible immediately, even if they would ideally like to foster these relationships. Also, some girls just have no interest in managing regulars and the drama that often accompanies them in any case, especially in places with high tourist or other traffic.

    Anyway, just my fwiw and any dancer on this board can certainly feel free to disagree with my descriptions of the state of affairs as I see them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    Maybe because, in their experience, it keeps guys on the hook and spending more during the same visit.

    As far as this notion of being a "regular customer", it never ceases to amaze me how many guys try to project their beliefs about "customer service" onto strippers. How can she ever know if you will ever be in the club again? Or if you won't find another girl to spend on, such as one who offers to do more than she will ITC? Or if your money is going to run out? Or etc.,etc. Many of these girls have learned the hard way that most guys are only "reliable" for as long as it takes for another shiny object to grab their interest or for their money to run out. Net-net, it is expecting a lot for these girls to show restraint today in the very uncertain hope of collecting more tomorrow.

    So with all of that said, it should be no surprise that many dancers treat this as a cash and carry business. IME what also doesn't help is that some percentage of these girls live hand to mouth and are under pressure to earn as much as possible immediately, even if they would ideally like to foster these relationships. Also, some girls just have no interest in managing regulars and the drama that often accompanies them in any case, especially in places with high tourist or other traffic.

    Anyway, just my fwiw and any dancer on this board can certainly feel free to disagree with my descriptions of the state of affairs as I see them.
    Yea I understand about the logic of a stripper using this as a "cash and carry" business and that she may not know if the customer may come back /find another dancer/etc... But do all strippers think like this? That every customer they meet they have to run game (not fantasy ITC but where shes offering more than her job description) on them even a "respectable" customer?

    Maybe Im putting my sales experience in this which may be comparing apples to oranges but I always felt "repeat business is good business". And I just assume that a good stripper will understand the value of a repeat "good" customer.

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    rickdugan, you hit the nail on the head.

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    ^ You see this stuff posted on customer sites all the time - the theory that these girls are supposed to treat them like special flowers because they are repeat customers. I guess the irony is lost on these same guys when they pull spending from their "favorites" at the first perceived slight or mistreatment, yet they wonder why these girls continue to play games and won't sacrifice their immediate self interests in order to accommodate them. IME, even the girls that actively foster regulars still do things to maximize the benefit of each encounter, no doubt because they know that regulars are fickle and can disappear at any time.

    Besides, he's still thinking about her, still calls her his CF ("current favorite" for those of you not familiar with customer site jargon) and will no doubt be visiting her again soon. So maybe she isn't quite as bad at her sales job as the OP seems to believe.

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    At the end of the day. The strippers need the customer's money. They don't get paid a salary and dont know how much they make from night to night. So I get the hustle especially if shes having financial concerns at home.

    To the average customer, this is all fantasy and entertainment. No different than me spending $300 on a basketball ticket to watch my favorite player play in a NBA game.

    The concern is when the stripper tries to make it more than just a fantasy, which is cool, but if she decides to take it there at least be real about it. Maybe Im different lol but if a stripper starts talking that OTC stuff it doesn't make me want to spend more money...probably cause Im married lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    The concern is when the stripper tries to make it more than just a fantasy, which is cool, but if she decides to take it there at least be real about it. Maybe Im different lol but if a stripper starts talking that OTC stuff it doesn't make me want to spend more money...probably cause Im married lol
    So do you want her to stop doing it at all or just be real about it? You're sending mixed messages here dude.

    She is probably doing it because, in her experience, it works on a lot of guys. Maybe not with you, but she's not a mind-reader. She can only play the odds. But I'm not convinced that you are so unaffected yourself.

    Oh, and just in case you thought that we missed your multiple comments making it clear that being married means that you only want girls rubbing on your dick through your pants instead of outside your pants, we get it. I've included a little Wind Beneath My Wings clip to honor your "noble pervert" approach, which sadly as a run of the mill degenerate I am unable to adopt.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0iAzMRKFX3c

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    No mixed messages. There are certain rules that strippers are "supposed" to go by. I know some clubs do not want the dancers giving out there number or OTC to the customers because of various reasons. But you have some that will initiate giving you their number and suggest meeting OTC. I dont see anything wrong with this "if" she really wants to meet up with the customer. But if she doesn't and this is just a sales tactic to get him to spend more money...then I think it hurts her in the long wrong if he's a good customer. But what I know, Im not a dancer Lol

    And as far as me being married. I dont get lap dances. I dont mind her dancing for me and slight touching but her rubbing her stuff on me is a no go Lol. I actually dont mind air-dances. When I go to the club its when Im out of town for work and I just want to have the drink or two, watch the game, (Cavs need to win this shit tomorrow so I have an excuse to go to the club on Monday in Atlanta Lol) and enjoy the company of beautiful women. Nothing more, nothing less.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    And as far as me being married. I dont get lap dances.
    ????????

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    Anyway, she was giving me some real high mileage dancing a lot different from what she was giving the other customers. She was doing all this because she side I was very attractive and that she would "fuck" me but she respects my marriage lol.

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    LOL, I think this is exactly why I've gone from hetero to gay. I just don't get men. I'm only a customer, but you're just totally rubbing me the wrong way (ignore the pun). She doesn't owe you a thing. If a girl were to give you her # outside of the club, she's under no obligation to call you. You pay her for her time and then move on.
    It's this possessiveness that baffles me. She's there for the illusion and you're not understanding that...and that includes things she says. Don't show this creepy-ass status to her, 'cuz you might scare her off (I mean, you're taking the time to post on this forum).
    Plus, you're married. If I were your wife, I'd be pissed.

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    ??? I didn't say no dances at all but I dont go to the club to fill up on the strippers like that lol. I let her do her job but dont let it get out of hand (grabbing on my dick, etc...)

    And no your not my wife. And yes she goes to the strip club with me and yes we have a great time together while we are there. I didn't post this thread cause Im trying to be creepy lol but more so to get the dancers perspective on a particular subject manner. Which this section is for. Sorry if it came off like that. But I think I got my answer ��

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    Yes, it may not be the greatest selling tactic to mention OTC to a customer who's already spending, but we are salespeople in a high stress environment and we don't always choose the best tactics. Should we have better etiquette? Should customers have better etiquette? I think the answer is yes, all around, but this business does not lend itself to thoughtful and kind business practices. As a customer in a strip club, the only thing you are "owed" is a hot girl on your lap. Just like us dancers, if you're going to be in the club, you may need to grow a thicker skin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rickberge View Post
    And as far as me being married. I dont get lap dances. I dont mind her dancing for me and slight touching but her rubbing her stuff on me is a no go Lol. I actually dont mind air-dances. When I go to the club its when Im out of town for work and I just want to have the drink or two, watch the game, (Cavs need to win this shit tomorrow so I have an excuse to go to the club on Monday in Atlanta Lol) and enjoy the company of beautiful women. Nothing more, nothing less.
    You sound like a stand-up dude.

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