I've been a lurker here for awhile but this question has been making me wonder for awhile now.
BF is a strip club regular. He's the nerdy, quiet type type who doesn't have much experience with women. He initially started going for companionship and because he didn't know how to talk to women and at the SC women approach him. Plus being a bit sexually frustrated and the dances didn't hurt. He thought these women were all his friends. I understand why the dancers hand out their numbers and email. He regularly meets with a few OTC; usually for dinner or lunch.
He thinks he dated a few dancers but the details of the story don't sound like a real date because none of the women would let him touch or kiss them, the dates were typically just dinners before work, etc. In one case he was invited to a nightclub but asked to leave shortly into it.
The part I don't understand is what is going on here. Many dancers in this situation would probably want to be compensated more than a free meal (and most of the meals are not at expensive places). They send him random emails or texts about their lives. He hasn't been frequenting the clubs as often lately so some have dropped off but a few still remain.
One dancer tends to use him whenever she's in trouble for rides and most recently asked for a 'loan' he'll probably never get back so I see her hustle even if he still thinks she's his friend. One is moving back to the area soon so she's probably trying to keep her regulars in contact for when she moves back.
I'm not getting what the other couple of dancers are getting out of this as they are not being compensated for their time and don't seem to be asking for anything.


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