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    I matched with this super cute jewish dentist guy that works for his dad. We actually matched about 2 years ago but he never responded to my message so I unmatched him. He's the cutest guy I've seen in a while. We exchanged pics over texts since he asked for more pics of myself. He kept saying he loves my body, and that I am cute. I asked him what's he looking for on Tinder and he said to meet new people and maybe date the right person. His friends on his facebook are all married with kids. We were supposed to text on Saturday but I guess he forgot and I was too tired to initiate a text. Does he want me to ask him out? He seems pretty shy. He's 34 and on Tinder... meanwhile his brother and sister are both married with kids.
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    Let him work for your attention He'll ask you out if he wants to, even if he's shy. Good luck!!

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    Yeah that's what I thought. If I asked him out, I would have to pay for him because I DID the asking. But he's so cute with a great career. I'm butt hurt he doesn't like me .

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    Just speaking from experience... sometimes even the guys who seem super nice on dating sites are trying to play the field/hook up. Also, sometimes their shyness can be a red flag for serious social awkwardness. Not trying to be a negative Nancy, but I date nerds and have experienced this more than I'd like to admit. He should at least be wiling to ask you out. It's not a good sign if he just keeps texting/sharing pics without moving forward.

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    Well we chatted for maybe 30 mins on Friday. Was going to Facetime instead but I chickened out haha. Was supposed to do that Saturday but we haven't talked. I think I should give up. I don't want to be desperate.

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    Most guys are traditional and like to do the asking out on dates - at least in the beginning. Id maybe throw some hints but I wouldn't flat out ask him to take me out on a date. He should be eager to meet up, show some "masculinity", and initiate the date making - if not then next!

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    I never used that particular site, but found on other sites guys just wanted to email back n forth & that was it.
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    Maybe things have changed but I don't know any dudes on Tinder who go there for long term relationships
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    Maybe things have changed but I don't know any dudes on Tinder who go there for long term relationships
    Yep!

    My Tinder advice? Don't use it.

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    UPDATE: I texted him "hey" at 940 last night and he didn't respond. Whatever. He's too good to be true anyways. But I heard people get married on Tinder so you never know!

    If he wasn't interested why would he asked to exchange pics??
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    I met my current boyfriend on Tinder... I don't think the app itself is bad. It depends how you use it and how well you "screen" the guys. But I guess if you're looking for something serious, a paid dating site like Match.com is better because the guys are financially invested.

    As for sharing pics, he might have been fishing for some sexy stuff. I've never had a guy ask me for pics of myself before we met... Idk, I think his motives are questionable.

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    I wish they check out a porn site or google!!! I think it's fine to ask for pics or FaceTime before meeting. There's a lot of cat fishing going on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweet_baby View Post
    UPDATE: I texted him "hey" at 940 last night and he didn't respond. Whatever. He's too good to be true anyways. But I heard people get married on Tinder so you never know!

    If he wasn't interested why would he asked to exchange pics??
    For a guy that hasn't invested in showing me interest/taking me on dates/etc - I wouldn't waste time exchanging pics. Like I'd give maybe one exclusive picture but that's it. Because all the pics they need are right there on the website. If they have a catfish fear that's their problem not yours - how is sending yet another pic supposed to ease their fear???

    Some dudes are just pic collectors

    And texting the words "hey" - yeah I wouldn't respond either. Maybe study how to text in a way that engages male interest. And never text after 7pm to show them you have a life. No dude should get late night text unless he's a booty call or your man.

    But overall dude seemed like a time waster. At least you can use the experience to improve your online dating skills. Keep your dating pool open, meet new guys, and narrow down once you find someone compatible. Don't commit/invest too much into one dude too early in the game.

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    Quote Originally Posted by seashell View Post
    I met my current boyfriend on Tinder... I don't think the app itself is bad. It depends how you use it and how well you "screen" the guys. But I guess if you're looking for something serious, a paid dating site like Match.com is better because the guys are financially invested.

    As for sharing pics, he might have been fishing for some sexy stuff. I've never had a guy ask me for pics of myself before we met... Idk, I think his motives are questionable.
    I was always interested to listen to the opinion of a person who has a relationship on Tinder

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    I’ve noticed on Tinder - and especially if you matched two years ago already and he’s still on there - a lot of guys end up looking for pen pals and can’t muster the stones to advance it further. I don’t know why they bother… maybe the perception of Tinder culture leads guys to think we’ll just launch ourselves at them? I don’t know. I’ve never gone on a single date through Tinder, never actually met anyone through it. I finally got bored with it, so I changed my profile to say just, “If you can show me Heaven, I will show you Hell”. Guys still swiped right.
    But yeah, you get a lot of guys who strike out elsewhere for whatever reason - lack of fortitude, general unattractiveness, thirst, what have you - and they think Tinder will magically work miracles for them.
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    The problem with Tinder is that half the time the person lives states away. I gave up on it. It's harder for a guy, anyway. Men tend to be very visual, Women tend to care more about personality. Plus, it's just a bunch of pictures, hard to gauge a personality on the internet.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    Maybe things have changed but I don't know any dudes on Tinder who go there for long term relationships
    THIS^!

    Not only that, I've read (& have example of, in Ladies only ) of murders from that & other similar sites, SO SCREEN!!!

    I just was reading about this poor lady , set up on tinder by a couple that wanted a thrill kill experience.
    Her body was dismembered
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