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    Hey all
    I've been a lurker of SW for quite a few years now, this is my second account on here (forgot the old one) but I wasn't really known on here at all. I'm more of a shy introverted weirdo lol. Anyways, I first started sex work as a stripper but hated it so it only lasted a couple months. Then I started working at a massage place where I made a killing and fell in love with sex work! I went indy just so I could work on my time and keep all the money and loved it even more. At that point I was pretty much an escort but I still liked starting off each session with a massage to calm my nerves and assess the client further. I started working for this place where bodywork was still a big focus but I was naive and had no clue that they were being watched by the feds..I hope I don't regret opening up about this because its a very sensitive subject but it might be nice knowing I'm not alone on here. I became swept up in the mess and was arrested and (because I was terrified and again, very stupid) I took a plea deal and am now a felon for life. My ex was threatening to take my daughter away which was the biggest reason why I took a plea deal instead of going to trial. I've never been in trouble before so this was such a shock. I wish I had done things differently but I cant change a damn thing so I might as well try to live my life the best I can. I cant get a job, rent an apartment (one that isn't a shithole for other criminals) or even volunteer at my daughters school. Its coming up on 5 years since I was convicted and I am still struggling. After the arrest I continued to escort because I still had bills but I was extremely selective and careful. I wasn't stupid when it came to escorting work, I knew what I was doing but working for that fucking place was what fucked shit up. I no longer escort (except a long time client I see every few months). I do text and camming work now because its just safer. I am still a total noob with camming, its nothing like escorting obviously so its been hard to adjust. I recently graduated from college and am hoping I can start a new vanilla career which will eventually turn into my own business and working for myself. Sex work will always be something I love, it has always felt like I belong here. I honestly have considered recently getting back into escorting to supplement my income because financially I am really struggling. I just don't know what to do to make fast money. I'm also dealing with a lot of depression and anxiety from an emotionally abusive relationship that destroyed me and I am just trying to keep my head above the water so I can be successful and happy some day. Gah..I feel like I opened up way too much and wrote a damn novel but this is me..

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    Awe boo I wanna hug ya damn that's fucked up!!!!! You're so brave to share your story!




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    I'm glad you shared with us.

    Suggestions re- renting/landlords- often privately owned rentals are easy to get into if you explain the nature of your record to the landlord. I can elaborate via PM if you need me to...

    I wouldn't worry so much about the courts. In most states some felony offenses aren't as ruinous as others. It really depends on the culture of the state & the Judges you deal with...

    & As for fast money, my advice...yeah it can suck hard but working in a busy restaurant as a waitress is fast cash. Not a lot of it but it can add up.
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    It sounds like a tough spot, but not incredibly uncommon given the nature of our business. I'm sure a lot of us have criminal records. I don't as of yet, but that can change any day, for any reason. It's difficult to rent an apartment for me. Even if you don't have a criminal record, once you tell people you are a dancer, they automatically assume you are a felon in their eyes. So I've ended up in particularly unsavory, not to mention unsafe, situations with sociopaths, not just felons. This business is very hard and sometimes the world lacks compassion in other aspects to but this non compassionate characteristic of humanity emerges in sex work. I'm very sorry about all this. I'm sure maybe you can continue sex work if you wanted to even, but in a capacity that is totally legal thus, won't get you in trouble and isn't stripping which you hate. Or maybe you can try clubs that are a bit more mellow... Best of luck, and hugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZeroSugarMonster View Post
    It sounds like a tough spot, but not incredibly uncommon given the nature of our business. I'm sure a lot of us have criminal records. I don't as of yet, but that can change any day, for any reason. It's difficult to rent an apartment for me. Even if you don't have a criminal record, once you tell people you are a dancer, they automatically assume you are a felon in their eyes. So I've ended up in particularly unsavory, not to mention unsafe, situations with sociopaths, not just felons. This business is very hard and sometimes the world lacks compassion in other aspects to but this non compassionate characteristic of humanity emerges in sex work. I'm very sorry about all this. I'm sure maybe you can continue sex work if you wanted to even, but in a capacity that is totally legal thus, won't get you in trouble and isn't stripping which you hate. Or maybe you can try clubs that are a bit more mellow... Best of luck, and hugs.
    True dat. I have a misdemeanor from having a pit bull in the city limits (because of BSL.) It's funny to me but not to landlords.

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    Have you explored the possibility of having it expunged?
    I know some things can't, depending on what/state of occurrence
    Anyway, good luck, welcome back!
    Honestly, I would ditch the escorting since you had a situation previously, I know you're careful, but there's always a risk


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