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    I work in a dive in AZ where the dances are only $5 and VIP is $25. Very cheap from the sound of it but you can good consistent money.

    Anyway I have a regular customer who comes in every week sometimes 1-3 times. He likes to have me sit with him and every time I go on stage he will make it rain. I pull anywhere from $200-$400 from him every time he comes in so that's about $600 a week I make off of him alone. He's been consistent and only spends on me for the past six months.

    Well he comes in yesterday and only gives me $60 after last week I made about $500. I guess it's really frustrating to me that he only gave me $60. It makes me never want to go over to him again even though he's consistently given me money. I almost feel like he did it on purpose to see how I would react. The club was empty yesterday I managed to pull $300 but I am taking it really personal that he only gave me $60 yesterday. He will be back in the club tomorrow. I guess I don't know how to go about this. What do you do when your regular doesn't spend as much as usual?

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    I don't think she's being ungrateful. This is not Auntie Edna sending you Christmas money and then she retires and can't afford to... This is a CUSTOMER that you don't even consider a friend OTC, in your place of BUSINESS.
    If you were a bartender and a regular came in one day and said he didn't wanna drink but could you talk to him anyway, what would you do? You would likely ignore him and go serve the other paying customers (and a manager would probably boot him out of the seat he's wasting).

    I do agree he is probably testing you or else has deluded himself into thinking you're his friend enough that you will sit without pay.
    If he is only paying you the money when you go on stage, tomorrow I would sit with him for one stage cycle, and then if he only makes it 'drizzle', I wouldn't return to him. If he asks, just tell him nicely but firmly that you need to make money and there are lots of paying customers out there.
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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    Definitely a test. I agree with selina- give him kindness and attention and hope you can "pass" by treating him warmly but firmly. Regulars are annoying like this sometimes.

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    He should pay the expected amount for her time or she should not sit with him. Nor should be grateful for what he has given her already he was paying her to to her job. In a few clubs I worked in they would not allow you to stay with a guy for ages unless he was buying your time. they would move you on if the guys were not spending. It was a 15 min rule. Nothing worse than girls just sat next to guys not spending for ages. Hopefully he will spend on her next shift if he does not move on.
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    Give him one more chance, and make it a very brief chance, and then drop him if he does it again, you don't owe him anything. If he is not spending, he doesn't get anything.

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    He might be feeling like you aren't putting in enough effort with him because you know you can reply on his money. Maybe he wants to see you work or do something new to entertain him. Alternatively, this might be the end of the regular-stripper relationship. It happens with all regs eventually

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shy2 View Post
    He might be feeling like you aren't putting in enough effort with him because you know you can reply on his money. Maybe he wants to see you work or do something new to entertain him. Alternatively, this might be the end of the regular-stripper relationship. It happens with all regs eventually
    Exactly, and if that's the case, it's not worth the money because you're working harder for less.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bbloveee09 View Post
    I pull anywhere from $200-$400 from him every time he comes in so that's about $600 a week I make off of him alone. He's been consistent and only spends on me for the past six months.
    so going by your numbers, in the last 6 months you have made approx $14,400 from him

    and now you don't want to see him because he only gave you $60 one day?

    spoiled much? ungrateful much?

    wow

    i can't think of a better definition of spoiled.....wow, give the guy a break, this is once in 6 months

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    I let it slide once and then the next time it happens, he's cut off. All regulars have expiry dates.

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    He knows the deal. Men in strip clubs play games all the time.

    Not for nothing Victoria2 but you joined in 2005 & only have 11 post. How many years stripping do you have under your garter belt? I've got 12 years as a stripper under mine.

    If he couldn't afford that money he would be spending it. If he wasn't spending it on her, he would have been another girl. No one forced him to step into that club, so to chide her on being spoiled. Really?

    Once a guy gets you to lower your expectations then that is all you are worth to him from then on.

    You are there to hustle, if he isnt going to tip you the same then you have every right to hustle other men to make that goal. Rather than sit there all night for $60. Every custie has an expiration date.

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
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    Not for nothing Victoria2 but you joined in 2005 & only have 11 post. How many years stripping do you have under your garter belt? I've got 12 years as a stripper under mine.
    more then you

    Rather than sit there all night for $60.
    she never said she "sit there all night" for $60

    if she "sit there all night" for $60 that is her own fault,

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    Your advice sounds like a guy not a seasoned stripper with more years in it than me.

    Anytime spent not hustling is time & money you won't get back. If you had told her to give him a chance everyone has a night off been one thing. You called her spoiled. She got paid to do her job, that isn't being spoiled.

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    If you had told her to give him a chance everyone has a night off been one thing.
    LOL...i did tell her that.....i said its only one time in 6 months


    You called her spoiled. She got paid to do her job, that isn't being spoiled.

    you are correct, i should have said she is being greedy

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    Quote Originally Posted by Victoria2 View Post
    LOL...i did tell her that.....i said its only one time in 6 months





    you are correct, i should have said she is being greedy

    How dare a woman get paid for the job that she does. You know who is greedy? The men that come in to see us and expect our emotional, mental and psychological labor for FREE and then give us $60, or less, and expect us to still cater to their needs like spoiled children.

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    I know she's banned but I don't think Victoria2 has REALLY been dancing that successfully if she isn't wise to the 2 likely outcomes of this situation. A) he isn't short but is testing her/trying to milk his perceived friendship; letting him will only train him into doing it more & a cut in money, B) he really is short on money but will still judge her based on what she does - if she doesn't hang out for free this time, he's going to get butthurt and use it as an excuse to cut her money.

    This is a business relationship. Shit. My landlord doesn't cut us a break on rent because it was a rough month, regardless of how long we've been paying them a ridiculous monthly sum. Same applies here. She is the landlord and he is the tenant sitting on that barstool.

    Also, quoting Sam, cause that bit about lowering expectations is SO TRUE.
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    Thank you ladies. While I didn't expect Victoria to be banned. We all know another stripper even former one on sight & by how they respond to such stuff. Been earning a living off of my tits since 21 years old & damn near 50 now.

    All my bff's are former strippers for over 25 years. They have all moved onto jobs outside the adult industry, but nothing has changed between us.

    Game recognizes game. He is testing you. All men will eventually. I'd play hard to fucking get. Be friendly but go make that money from other men right in front of him. Do NOT even be tempted for anything less than what you got before. If not more, to prove you are worth it & he needs to be reminded of it.

    Plus it never hurts to build up more custies like him. Flip this power play on him. He will appreciate you more for it. I do it all the time now to men.

    Never let a man know he can hurt you financially & holds the purse strings. Once they know that then the become total drains on your income & energy.

    It is an honor to be quoted Selina M, thank you.

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    I agree with the others that it sounds like he's just testing you. Custies seem to like to do that sometimes. It is a power trip for them. I have had that happen before too. Still be friendly to him but if he's not tipping don't waste too much time on him. In this business regulars have an expiration date. Someone can be your best customer for a while and suddenly stop spending once they realize that it's a business relationship, not an intimate relationship, nor is it ever going to lead to one, and move on.

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    Default Re: What do you do when your regular isn't spending?

    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    This is a business relationship. Shit. My landlord doesn't cut us a break on rent because it was a rough month, regardless of how long we've been paying them a ridiculous monthly sum. Same applies here. She is the landlord and he is the tenant sitting on that barstool.
    This is a wonderful analogy!

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