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    Default How to be confident dancing alone(stage)? (HTX) Help?

    Hi all!


    I've been interested in stripping for a while now, a while back I practiced got the courage to go to a club, got hired, and did the thing everyone on here tells you not to do, I got drunk my first day and passed out in the club. V embarrassed.
    It was a combo of nerves because I've never felt confident dancing. But the reason I'd be a good stripper is because I'm confident in my looks (black girl, brown skin, thin, big tits, small but cute ass, pretty hair, etc.), love showing off my body plus I'm a very sexual/flirtatious person.
    I think because I'm too nervous about looking dumb dancing alone I get in my head and want to drink. It has nothing to do with feeling bad about dancing naked. I'm sure I'd feel more confident with lap dances even w/ no experience because it's just grinding, touching, and a bit of sweet talking and whatnot.
    Anyway, now that my funds are low and my job shut down due to bankruptcy (I was a server and in the summer it's more difficult to get serving jobs),I really want to give it another go, minus the getting drunk and passing out part. Lmao. The dive I got hired at said I could come back last time I was there just no drinking but I'm not sure I'm up to going back because of how I left.
    I wanted to see if I could find a girl in my city who would maybe mentor me? I guess kinda coach me while I dance alone on how I look until I get the gist of it...because just recording myself isn't the same as having someone there watching & critiquing me.I'm sure it would help bring up my confidence.
    My question is, how would I find someone willing to help? Would I even be able to find someone or am I just being delusional in thinking I'd be able to find a girl who would just want to help me without anything in return but gratitude?
    (I looked on this site and didn't see any post that had anything similar to the q I'm asking- checked craigslist but I'm worried the girls on there that post about looking for a dance buddy or whatever could just be a scam for a pimp or a prostitution ring.)
    Or should I just put my big girl panties, man up and go it alone?
    Any advice welcome!!!!
    I'm in Houston just in case you missed the (HTX) in the title.

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    Default Re: How to be confident dancing alone(stage)? (HTX) Help?

    Hey, sorry to hear about all the stress you are going through.

    I danced for about a month but quit the club. I quit because the club I was at had girls giving extras like handjobs for 10 bucks. No thanks. I was soooo nervous. I am an anxious person and was fine talking to guys on the floor but hated the stage. I got drunk to feel loose and even some of the girls would come up on stage and show me some things. I am and was no by means a pro. Most of it is about making eye contact and engaging with customers. If it helps, have a few drinks or get a little high. Please be warned that if you have to do that every single time on stage then it is not best for you.

    It depends, I was in a dive bar but the girls were extremely helpful and very friendly. I think that is a rarity. Practice in front of the mirror, just basic hip grinding, twerking, and running your hands over your body. Smile! The most popular girls were the friendly ones who talked with the customers. There were some super hotties (sadly I am not included as of yet ha! getting in shape as we speak) but customers would complain because they would get tipped on stage and not come talk to them after their set. Big mistake!

    PM me if you would like to chat or skype. I have been there and its all about confidence

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    Accept that everyone is awkward on stage when they first start. Custies are here to see you get naked, being "good" or having moves is gravy. Smile and move slow.

    Try to say hi to a bunch of custies before you go up- make a note of which ones were really friendly and try to focus on them. It makes it easier if you're just dancing for one person in your head even though you are in front of a whole room.

    If you feel the need to be drunk/high before you can do the job you need to either get over that quick or this isn't the job for you. Being fucked up at work on a regular basis is going to get you into a load of trouble.

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    Yeah please don't drink to the point of passing out. Too many predators ready to take advantage.

    I think you're reading too much into dancing. Its not that crucial. Like you could literally get up there and prance around and be fine. Maybe learn some basic pole tricks.

    Workout, meditate, stretch, dance around to music, etc. before you go to relieve nervous energy.

    You don't need a "buddy", liquor, or any other crutch. You can ask the house mom for tips. And Just be confident in yourself and your abilities.
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    Default Re: How to be confident dancing alone(stage)? (HTX) Help?

    Check out Club Chat, look up ur area clubs..
    No one's likely to mentor you, & you are better off learning as u go, which u will
    Read Hustle Hut for tips too
    Good luck


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    Default Re: How to be confident dancing alone(stage)? (HTX) Help?

    Thanks for the advice ladies!

    After doing some job searching i decided to get over my embarrassment and try my luck at the last club to get rehired. The manager that was there when I worked no longer worked there (he was the one that said I could come back just to watch my drinking) but I was remembered! As soon as I walked in the house mom said, "You used to work here right?" Lol, I tried to avoid it when I talked with the new manager...by saying things like, "Well I worked here before BRIEFLY..." but as soon as he came back from copying my id he asked me "Were you the girl with that vodka bottle?"
    I was sure the gig was up. I explained how I was new and nervous about stage dancing and how the liquor had hit me at once, plus it was 6months - a year ago. He said to give him a day or so to think about it.
    He called me back not even an hour later saying he'd bring me on and let me choose my shifts (day or evening). I temporarily asked for day until I felt more comfortable with my stage dancing, and I start on Wednesday. ��
    I also got a call back from a serving position I applied for and have an interview tomorrow so I'm feeling optimistic!
    Spoon_Bender, thank you so much for saying I could talk/Skype with you for help, I'll take you up on that offer!
    I've got about a day to practice so Ill try watching a bunch of YouTube tutorials so hopefully I'll be able to at least have some go to moves.
    Hoping I don't epically fail like last time, thanks for the support ladies!!!

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    That's good he gave you another chance. Make them glad they hired you back. Relax and meditate to handle stress. Don't drink! On stage, take your time, breathe, and smile a bit. When I got hired, my dancing sucked but my smile saved me.

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    Default Re: How to be confident dancing alone(stage)? (HTX) Help?

    Strippers usually dance on stage one at a time, but you're not alone. You're dancing with that customer you're making eyes at (but you don't want him to dance, and most of the time they don't want to dance either). Also, it's not dancing like when you go to a club with your friends, it's more like moving from sexy pose to sexy pose. Every shift you don't drink at work is forming good habits. You'll slowly become more confident as a dancer over time because you'll have positive interactions with customers. If you're drinking before you've solidified your confidence, you may think that you're feeling confident because of the alcohol and have to drink every shift. It seems simple, but I see so many girls who drink every shift.

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