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    Default ranting again!

    last night was probably the worst night in my 6 months of stripping, its the first time Ive actually cried becuase of this job, its usually my vanilla job that makes me bawl. I hadnt been in the previous night because my mental health was too unstable, it was still unstable last night but I thought I had better go in. Apparently it was a really bad night for everyone, no one was paying up, one girl was just lying on the floor in the changing rooms, but a couple of girls still managed to make money. I only manged to make £5 which is shit. and two customers kept messing me around, they said they wanted an hour in VIP but wanted to wait a little so I went off to other customers, then they asked me to sit on their lap while they decided so I did while they kept grabbing my ass but then took ages and in the end they took an entire fucking hour to decide, then told me they didnt actually want to buy anything and that even a £20 dance was too expensive. I told them off for wasting my time but I felt like throwing a chair at them and now Im kicking myslef for waiting around for them and not being mentally alert enough to realise they were messing me around. After last night Im wondering if I should even be doing this job seeing as Im so shit
    sorry for the rant

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    Default Re: ranting again!

    Aw girl.
    I've had these days.
    I tend to have extreme emotions and I danced as soon as I was 18 and I would go back and fourth between two clubs I never really consistently made that much. But I would have times where my mental state was so bad I'd make nothing at all. And I also had times of doing decent although I never lived up to what I thought a dancer should make.

    I remember one time (this was literally like 5 months ago so idk why I'm making it sound so long ago) I wasn't in a good place mentally, and I auditioned at a club during the day and it was empty I went back the next night and it was packed. I made negative money and left swearing to never dance again.
    Your state of mind in this industry is the most important factor. You can be beautiful, you can have the cutest most flattering outfit on, you can dance like *insert someone famous for dancing super good and sexy* but if your mindset is not good it doesn't matter.
    Don't let a bad night get you down , and don't feel bad for not knowing those guys wasted your time.
    You just learned the most valuable lesson a dancer can learn , one that honestly I wish I learned years before I learned it , and that is if you can't leave your problems at the door and get into your "character" at work bc what is on your mind is weighing to heavy on you , you're no longer in control of the situation.
    You need to think when your at work your the super sexy dancer from those 80s movies , you're not really yourself but the sex kitten confident woman who guys line up and pay to see. And when you're on stage make believe they are all there only for you. It sounds ridiculous, I know , but try it. And remember when you zip those shoes in that bag, youre yourself again, you're no longer putting on a show. Think of yourself as an entertainer. Don't bring your LIFE to the strip club bring the CHARACTER you're playing. Also don't bring the strip club to your LIFE. It is work like any other work but it's also a part time gig to give you the money you need to start your next chapter, or build upon your current one.
    It should build you up , not down. If you're realself isn't able to stop interrupting the character you're playing , then give your realself the day off from try so hard to catch up bc there are men who prey on vulnerable girls everywhere but in the strip club especially and that's something wrong with them not with you.
    I'm sorry you're feeling shitty right now. It can be brutal out there , in real world and in strip clubs. Try to build your character up to yourself in such a way that when your down (but not feeling unstable just down) you go in knowing you can forget your problems for a while and put on your character and get that money , your real self will feel a bit less down in the morning counting it.
    At six months in your learning the ins and outs , and dancing can be empowering and great or it can break you down, it is ALL about having respect for yourself to give yourself a break when you need it and to know your worth and know your boundaries and know that no amount of money is worth pushing your comfort zone.

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