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    I wanna know different girls' opinions on creating your character. Is she similar to you so that you don't break character, or wildly different so you can be detached? Are you someone new(ish) every night or have you found a good character to stick to? What's your aesthetic like? I find it easier to be someone completely different, so that when I take those heels off I can be myself again (after a looooong shower lol). What about you guys? Who are you in the club?

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    I'm a different person all together. Rayleigh is bubbly and giggly, super friendly, the life of the party. Real me is a shy, sarcastic, smart ass who loves to talk about science and politics and social injustices. So, since I doubt that would bode over well with men just looking for a good time with a pretty girl. I like acting anyway so I certainly become a character at work. And I agree with you, I like that after work I can go back to being myself knowing that my personal self is safe from all the strangers I've spent the evening gringing on XD

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    I tend to be more of the shy, girl-next-door type, which isn't all that much different from who I am outside the club.

    Personally, as much as I would love to create my own stripper persona, I've always worried about coming across to customers as fake. It's much easier for me to relax and just be a more sexual version of myself. If it doesn't feel natural to you, it might not appear natural to the customer either.

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    I'm myself, just the very flirty, hot and aggressive version. There's no such thing as not "taking work home with you" psychologically, so I try not to dissociate or "create a persona" at work because it just doesn't work that way and because it's terrible for my mental health and causes me to dissociate from work and gives me anxiety, which leads me to drinking and depression (because the only reason to create a character at work via dissociation is if you don't like your job, it happens in every job, not just stripping). Trying to force a character to come through that's not part of who I am comes across as fake and it's hard mentally to keep up with, and gets very confusing and exhausting emotionally. Just being myself, only amplifying the parts that are good for the work place and minimizing the parts that aren't via mental processing makes me money, is insanely fun and makes me a better flirt and a more observant person in "real life". I've got no urge to drink because I don't have the anxiety that's caused by trying to put on a show and turn into another person, I just get to be myself and get paid to work on my personality as opposed to creating a new one. (this comes from years of experience from creating personas and studying psychology , I grew up as an actress and put on "characters" and personas at work for a long time).

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    We were supposed to have a stripper persona? Opps! In all my years as a stripper only met a handful who did, but the rest were the same gals inside & outside of the club.

    Maybe working in a town of 200,000 were everyone knows everyone to be vastly different at the club & then outside of if would have had us looking at them strangely. Even when I moved to Dallas & danced there, only a very few had a club persona.

    The fact that I am still friends with about 15 gals from back in my dancing days & they have moved on & out of the sex industry they are still the same women now as they were then. Just now with a bunch of kids & sometimes grandkids to stick their hubbies with when we go out to dinner & drinks. WE do roll back in about 2 AM instead of 5 am, now.

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    It depends on what the voices in my head tell me to do.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    NO matter what job you have you will always have to put on your game face & get to work.. If you sell cars, don't matter how you feel, what is going on in your personal life. You hav to put on your game faces & go out there and sell a unit.

    Same thing with working in an office, you may hate your boss or co-workers. Every time you walk in that door you put on your game face & earn a pay check.

    You can call it alter-ego, performance art, or a persona. It is a job. No matter if it is a party atmosphere, we are there to create it & make money. When off work, car sales people are not expected to try & sell every person a car. Some might, but not everyone all the time.

    We all have to wear different faces in different circumstances. It isn't being fake or acting but what is appropriate for that time & what is required. Now I do tend to treat men & give them orders like I do my dogs. Lots of times it works & usually takes a boyfriend about 3 years to figure what I am doing out. LOL

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    Well, from watching a Anna Nicole Smith doc, she said she put on an innocent, shy but flirty persona..
    I think that's what was said anyway.
    Me personally, I just tried to come across sexy


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    Ditzy, flirty party girl






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    Rocker Babe ala Josie Stevens

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    Quote Originally Posted by babb View Post
    I'm myself, just the very flirty, hot and aggressive version. There's no such thing as not "taking work home with you" psychologically, so I try not to dissociate or "create a persona" at work because it just doesn't work that way and because it's terrible for my mental health and causes me to dissociate from work and gives me anxiety, which leads me to drinking and depression (because the only reason to create a character at work via dissociation is if you don't like your job, it happens in every job, not just stripping). Trying to force a character to come through that's not part of who I am comes across as fake and it's hard mentally to keep up with, and gets very confusing and exhausting emotionally. Just being myself, only amplifying the parts that are good for the work place and minimizing the parts that aren't via mental processing makes me money, is insanely fun and makes me a better flirt and a more observant person in "real life". I've got no urge to drink because I don't have the anxiety that's caused by trying to put on a show and turn into another person, I just get to be myself and get paid to work on my personality as opposed to creating a new one. (this comes from years of experience from creating personas and studying psychology , I grew up as an actress and put on "characters" and personas at work for a long time).
    yes this is basically exactly the same conclusion I've come to. I don't think of it as being myself as much as working with what I've got.

    I've been reading a lot about psychopathy lately and it turns out most researchers agree psychopathy (like gender id and sexuality) is a spectrum. And since there are a few dozen recognized psychopathic traits, it's possible to have a lot of one trait dialed up high, and another low. For example, violent behavior and indifference to others' suffering are psychopathic traits, but so are persuasiveness and indifference to rejection. If someone has the beneficial traits high and the detrimental ones low, odds are they'll be super successful, at least career-wise. If you strongly express enough of the traits, you might be clinically identified as a psychopath. The rest of us are just low-key psychopaths. Which kind of makes me question how useful it is to give the idea of psychopathy the dignity of recognition. But anyways.

    My point is, the stripper persona that's worked best for me is my regular persona but with the beneficial psychopathic traits keyed up. IRL, I find it hard to lie, fairness is a big part of my decision making in interpersonal interactions, I tend to be very introverted, and I avoid rejection. When I started dancing in 2013, I intuitively knew that I had to be the exact opposite of those things. As a stripper, I'm ruthless, super extroverted, charming in a way I can't replicate in civilian life, and I can convincingly lie so well, sometimes I end up living out the bullshit I make up in my personal life if I tell the same lie often enough. But I keep the rest of my personality and public details of my life (hobbies, hometown, age, relationship status) intact. Overall, I hear I come off as a "chill" girl (I speak in an even tone and move slowly) with a "sense of humor" (I make jokes) who knows what she wants (money) and is down for whatever (if they pay).

    Like babb, I've tried creating a persona and it just doesn't come off the way I intend it to, no matter how much preparation I put in. I do a passable bubbly party girl if you're easily fooled, but I don't pull it out often unless I'm dealing with a young, dumb client who probably won't go to vip. It's tiring.

    As for clothes/hair/etc., I do a variation on the most popular look in my area. If I could pull it off, I'd wear the same thing as everyone else in manhattan because I actually love that style – colorful outfits with a fuckton of rhinestones, long nails, wayy over the top lashes and glitter eyeshadow, huge hoop earings and rhinestone chokers. I was trying to make it work for me for a while, but then one night while everyone was changing and cashing out, this top earner drunkenly told me in the dressing room that she was watching me and thought I could do much better if I stopped trying to knockoff the current most popular look and did a toned down version. She was basically like, "if you're gonna go get the platinum hair and the tits you can dress that way, but it doesn't look right on you and the guys can tell and don't take you seriously." If I were newer, I probably would've been arrogant and ignored her, but I was like 5 or 6 years in at the time and tbh I knew exactly what she was talking about, it's just that none of my friends would ever dare say that to me lol. Since then, this is the recipe:

    • dresses in neutral beiges, gold, black, or white. No rhinestones, but with extra cut outs or super short to make sure I'm still putting out Ho vibes
    • mid-length french or light pink manicure
    • usually plain black or beige pleasers with clear straps (*sometimes I wear all clear because i love them so much)
    • neutral-toned, mostly matte makeup
    • minimal jewelry, just tiny hoops, some thin rings and a small watch with a metal band.

    that's it, that's the formula. I do not deviate. Never underestimate how much work the right look will save you. Everything was so much easier after that.

    In sum:
    1. Be the best psychopathic version of yourself
    2. Keep the basic bubbly girl card in your back pocket for lap hopping
    3. Ask someone who's a top earner AND NOT a close friend (even if they're a top earner) for advice on your look. What you like is not necessarily what "works" for you.

    Oh, and never stop saying you're in school for something LMFAO

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