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    On the Blue side there is a question about becoming a club "fave" which made me wonder about tipping. On average I normally buy three lap dances and give the amount for 4 so a 33% tip. In the VIP, which I rarely do, I tip the girl/guy up front 10% and then the dancer approx 30-40%. Is that pretty standard? I don't know how much the club takes so I want to be fair. This assumes the dance is average, I have given one lady a $200 tip after 3 $30 dances because she was just awesome--no extras btw, I just saw no reason to bother with another dancer after her 3 tbh. That dancer still gets to me after 2 years and I never saw her again. bummer.

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    I tip at least 1/3 to 100% w no extras
    I dont do extras...never been a fan of going where every man has come before lol

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    I don't tip unless the dancer does extras. Imo, dances are already overpriced. I don't buy a TV at Best Buy and give the clerk 100 extra for doing his job. And even with not tipping, the dancers are lined up waiting to sell me dances. But, if tipping makes you feel better, by all means, tip.

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    When I go, I just set a budget, and try to have fun within that budget. I never ask for "extras"; I get called all sorts of names for that but I have no desire to be in some public setting doing god knows what like a tool. I'm not judging people who do. I have strong resistance to OTC cause it's usually too open ended. When I want to have sex and pay for it, there are like 1000 escorts and you can be in private, have champagne and lobster, do whatever the hell you want. I just prefer that. I usually go to nude clubs in US, and just have fun. That leads to various tipping based on how long I feel like staying, etc.
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    Where a lot of people miss the mark is the fact that the girls in the club are actually working a sales job. They are selling a product (themselves) and a service (dances). If you go to a car dealership or a retailer and get assistance from a salesman that leads to you buying a car or some other product, do you tip them for their service? Most people don't.

    Tipping for dances is not mandatory. If I get a dance and I find it to be lame, I see no reason to tip on top of paying for the dance. Now, if I get a dance and it is one of the best dances I've ever had, I certainly will include a tip when I pay for the dance. If I'm going to tip and it is a $20 lap dance, I will tip $5. If it is a VIP, I will tip whatever the price is for one lap dance. Using the previous example, that would be $20.

    BTW, there are two things that annoy me. One would be dancers that ask me to pay before getting dances. When they do this, I just buy one dance and on future visits to the club, I won't buy dances from them again.

    The other thing that annoys me would be dancers who actually ask for a tip when I pay them after getting dances. As I said, tipping is not mandatory and asking for a tip may actually hurt in getting repeat business from a customer. I will remember and not buy dances from them on future visits.

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    The club I go to has the dancer tip out the VIP host; longer dances require higher tip amounts. It usually amounts to $20 for a 3/$100 or $40 for a 15 minute VIP so as long as the dancer does a good job and I enjoy it, I tip her that amount.

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    When I go to a strip club, which i rarely do, I go to my stash, get out about $800 to $1000, then I go and Blow that shit!!!! I throw it on the air, I get lap dances, I throw some on the stage, I let the girl sit on my lap and throw more on her head I put some in her garder belt. Then just when Im ready to Smash... I go to BP or SA find a nice hotty and finish the job.

    This shit aint science...

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    ^^You do same night from SA?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    ^^You do same night from SA?
    All the time... I move quick on SA. SA is my favorite place ever!!!! The women are the Hottest, the nicest. They are usually newbies so I move quick before they change their minds.

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    Im sure I ts more annoying to dancers when people don't pay after dances. Imagine doing 30+ min of work for someone only to have them tell you if you don't do xyz (something outside your boundaries) they are not going to pay you.

    Quote Originally Posted by mustafa View Post
    Where a lot of people miss the mark is the fact that the girls in the club are actually working a sales job. They are selling a product (themselves) and a service (dances). If you go to a car dealership or a retailer and get assistance from a salesman that leads to you buying a car or some other product, do you tip them for their service? Most people don't.

    Tipping for dances is not mandatory. If I get a dance and I find it to be lame, I see no reason to tip on top of paying for the dance. Now, if I get a dance and it is one of the best dances I've ever had, I certainly will include a tip when I pay for the dance. If I'm going to tip and it is a $20 lap dance, I will tip $5. If it is a VIP, I will tip whatever the price is for one lap dance. Using the previous example, that would be $20.

    BTW, there are two things that annoy me. One would be dancers that ask me to pay before getting dances. When they do this, I just buy one dance and on future visits to the club, I won't buy dances from them again.

    The other thing that annoys me would be dancers who actually ask for a tip when I pay them after getting dances. As I said, tipping is not mandatory and asking for a tip may actually hurt in getting repeat business from a customer. I will remember and not buy dances from them on future visits.
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    Tipping after dances while not required is appreciated because it helps the dancers offset the cost of stage fees, dance cuts, house mom fees, dj fees, security fees, and any other fees the misogynist male club owners tell the dancers they are going to charge them but never tell them what they do with said fees.

    Say the dance is $30. The club takes a cut - maybe $5-$10. Tipping the dancer ensures she actually gets $30.

    Mustafa, If you hate tipping so much then talk to the owner about decreasing the fees they charge the dancers. These fees are charged as soon as the dancer sets her pinky toe over the threshold whether she makes money or not.

    And Please don't compare selling a car (an inantimate object) to a woman selling time, dances in the club......its not on the same level. Whenever you need companionship, go to a car dealership instead of a club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    ^^You do same night from SA?
    Also I had been dating a couple of girls off there for 7 months or so... They know im good so they ususally meet me right away at anytime. I had to drop my favortite because she kept asking me for "MORE" money... So I gave her a $1,000 parting gift, my "other" favorite, She started dating a girl who "didnt like the fact that I Licked her Vag" So I had to move on, because im a Vag Licker ... So many adventures on that site.

    Im going to get a new membership soon, so that I can find another fav. I Love that site...

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    I guess I see tipping as a "thank you for a job well done ." Poor dancing or attitude = little or no tip, good is 15-20% and awesome is whatever I got at the time. On the blue side I mentioned how after 3 I just gave her the $90 plus all I had as it was that good. No reason for another dance with another dancer and I was happy--no extras btw, just an amazingly sensous dance that I always remember, it was a performance worth the cost. To each his own.

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    Sorry but do we really need to know that you love licking vagina? I mean what was the point of even mentioning that in this thread about tipping? Also, thanks for the heads up on SA....you highlight several great reasons for avoiding sugar baby sites . I saw that you mention that several times in other threads and I just feel that it could just be another version of craigslist to you.

    Quote Originally Posted by LongDongSilverBBC View Post
    Also I had been dating a couple of girls off there for 7 months or so... They know im good so they ususally meet me right away at anytime. I had to drop my favortite because she kept asking me for "MORE" money... So I gave her a $1,000 parting gift, my "other" favorite, She started dating a girl who "didnt like the fact that I Licked her Vag" So I had to move on, because im a Vag Licker ... So many adventures on that site.

    Im going to get a new membership soon, so that I can find another fav. I Love that site...
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    Quote Originally Posted by gameover View Post
    I don't tip unless the dancer does extras. Imo, dances are already overpriced. I don't buy a TV at Best Buy and give the clerk 100 extra for doing his job. And even with not tipping, the dancers are lined up waiting to sell me dances. But, if tipping makes you feel better, by all means, tip.
    I suppose this depends on why you go to strip clubs. If you go to treat the dancers as nothing more than bodies there to entertain you, then this makes sense. If you are looking to create an illusion of a human connections, then generosity pays. It achieves more than just creating an incentive for her to be nice to you. If you are generous and considerate, she will like you better, which will be reflected in the service provided.

    When I talk to guys like you in a club, I always hear "All she cares about is the money." Yeah. Its her job. The idea of a job is to make money. But if you want something from her that you cannot get from just looking, a little warmth, a little humanity, then that is part of the service she is providing. You should be willing to pay for it.

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    ^ These replies are exactly why I started ripping jerks off in the club when I danced. I made dam sure I got my money PLUS a tip which was actually me overcharging for a dance to ensure I got my money for dealing with guys like you. You need to learn respect for women & secondly stop acting so entitled. I mean srsly you are the ones that HAVE to pay a woman for sex bc no real woman in her right mind would lower herself or her panties to someone like you in the real world LOL.
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    ^^^ I think his point was that he IS paying for it in the cost of the dance and that if a dancer can't give a "little warmth and humanity" in the cost of a dance she isn't worth tipping to get it.

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    I think goth Barbie was referring to mr mikes quote of gameover. I don't think she was talking about mr mike.

    I question his post too.

    I don't get why some of the men here are comparing dancers to car salespeople and Best Buy salespeople. They are selling inanimate objects, they get paid salary, they are fully clothed, and they aren't charged fees to work there! Not the same.

    Plus these sales people make base salary and sales commissions and technically don't need tips. The "tip" is probably factored in to their commission. If they do go above and beyond (like lifting a 50 in in your truck in 90 degree weather) I'm sure some people have tipped/gifted them.

    Dear Gameover and Mustafa,
    I have a sexy new TV and Car I'd like to introduce you to. You both will have such a great time. Can even get you a hybrid if you nasty. Wait till you get a load of those magnificent parts. And guess what? Tipping not required.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xxxGothBarbie View Post
    ^ These replies are exactly why I started ripping jerks off in the club when I danced. I made dam sure I got my money PLUS a tip which was actually me overcharging for a dance to ensure I got my money for dealing with guys like you. You need to learn respect for women & secondly stop acting so entitled. I mean srsly you are the ones that HAVE to pay a woman for sex bc no real woman in her right mind would lower herself or her panties to someone like you in the real world LOL.

    Barbie, I can understand your resentment, but ripping off the customers only confirms their attitude and escalates the situation. And just as the dancers learn which customers are disrespectful, the customers share information about dancers who cheat.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post

    I don't get why some of the men here are comparing dancers to car salespeople and Best Buy salespeople. They are selling inanimate objects, they get paid salary, they are fully clothed, and they aren't charged fees to work there! Not the same.
    Very good point. One of the reasons I continue to drop by this site, even though I don't visit strip clubs as much, is because there really are a lot of thoughtful and insightful people here. (Harder to find those dancers when visiting the clubs).

    It is often said that any good sales person is really selling him or herself. But there is a fundamental difference between selling something else and selling intimacy. (I don't like the phrase "selling your body" because it implies that you don't own it any more after you "sell" it.)

    Also, I do tip many other service workers, such as taxi drivers, even though they get to keep part of the money that I pay. I wonder if these guys are cheap with waitstaff and bartenders?

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I think goth Barbie was referring to mr mikes quote of gameover. I don't think she was talking about mr mike.

    I question his post too.

    I don't get why some of the men here are comparing dancers to car salespeople and Best Buy salespeople. They are selling inanimate objects, they get paid salary, they are fully clothed, and they aren't charged fees to work there! Not the same.

    Plus these sales people make base salary and sales commissions and technically don't need tips. The "tip" is probably factored in to their commission. If they do go above and beyond (like lifting a 50 in in your truck in 90 degree weather) I'm sure some people have tipped/gifted them.

    Dear Gameover and Mustafa,
    I have a sexy new TV and Car I'd like to introduce you to. You both will have such a great time. Can even get you a hybrid if you nasty. Wait till you get a load of those magnificent parts. And guess what? Tipping not required.
    I absolutely agree that it's apples and oranges to compare stripping to another sales job. I think that also applies to comparing whether or not to tip though. A sales person at Best Buy probably makes $15/hr while a dancer makes that in three minutes. As a customer it is not my responsibility to feel like I have to pay the dancers club fees (tip out, house fee, etc) so it plays zero part in my thinking when it comes to tipping. If it wasn't working out in the dancers favor to be at the club I'm guessing Best Buy would love to have them. I don't think many dancers would take that trade off based strictly on monetary reasons though whether they were getting tipped in the club or not.

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    I wasn't trying to imply customers have a responsibility to pay dancer fees but simply that tips help to insure they get the actual price of the dance and to explain possible/valid reason why tips are more than welcomed.

    Most customers don't even realize dancers pay fees to work there/don't realize they don't make the full price of the dance.

    *I understand certain resonable fees help keep club in operation but More specifically I'm referring to high cost dance fees which I think is borderline extortion. Why do clubs take a cut (up to 50%) of every single dance? Is is because of security? Because the security already gets a cut and to take a cut again? Unreal. It's owners greed and that trickles down to dancers and puts pressure on them to want to receive tips to offset the fees.

    Club owners often charge fees and will raise the costs without consulting with the dancers or even telling them how those fees are being spent. Collecting hella fees from dancers meanwhile the club is in shambles looking like somebody's cousins trailer out back. Like where tf is that money going?

    I am implying if the concept of tipping dancers repulses you (well not you but the other two dudes) then you should talk to the managers or owners about the ridiculously high dance fees they charge the dancers and not leverage their requirement to pay exorbitant overhead by tipping them only if they perform extras.

    Managers/Owners are often times quick to listen to customer feedback more than they do dancer feedback.

    Dancers probably wouldn't be so adamant about tips if they actually kept the full price of the dance.

    A Best Buy salesperson may make entry level $15/hr but his salary is guaranteed plus benefits. Stripper income is not guaranteed no benefits. They could leave the club in the red. And depending on where the club is/the clientele I bet a small percentage of strippers out there averaging same as the Best Buy employee (if she lands one dance per hour $25 dance minus $10 club cut)
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    Maybe using a Best Buy employee is not the best comparison because I think they are paid an hourly wage. I would think most make in the $10-$12/hr range. I believe that most dancers will earn more than your average retail worker if they know how to hustle. Using a car salesman is a decent comparison. They work on commission and don't make any money if they don't sell any cars.

    I am well aware that clubs take a cut out of all the dance fees, but that does not make me feel obiligated to tip. I tip based on whether I enjoy the experience. I have found a few dancers at clubs that I freqent that I enjoy getting dances from and I tip them every time.

    And when I talk about enjoying the dances, I am not refering to extras. I don't ask for that. That was gameover that said he only tips if he is getting extras.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I wasn't trying to imply customers have a responsibility to pay dancer fees but simply that tips help to insure they get the actual price of the dance and to explain possible/valid reason why tips are more than welcomed.

    Most customers don't even realize dancers pay fees to work there/don't realize they don't make the full price of the dance.

    *I understand certain resonable fees help keep club in operation but More specifically I'm referring to high cost dance fees which I think is borderline extortion. Why do clubs take a cut (up to 50%) of every single dance? Is is because of security? Because the security already gets a cut and to take a cut again? Unreal. It's owners greed and that trickles down to dancers and puts pressure on them to want to receive tips to offset the fees.

    Club owners often charge fees and will raise the costs without consulting with the dancers or even telling them how those fees are being spent. Collecting hella fees from dancers meanwhile the club is in shambles looking like somebody's cousins trailer out back. Like where tf is that money going?

    I am implying if the concept of tipping dancers repulses you (well not you but the other two dudes) then you should talk to the managers or owners about the ridiculously high dance fees they charge the dancers and not leverage their requirement to pay exorbitant overhead by tipping them only if they perform extras.

    Managers/Owners are often times quick to listen to customer feedback more than they do dancer feedback.

    Dancers probably wouldn't be so adamant about tips if they actually kept the full price of the dance.

    A Best Buy salesperson may make entry level $15/hr but his salary is guaranteed plus benefits. Stripper income is not guaranteed no benefits. They could leave the club in the red. And depending on where the club is/the clientele I bet a small percentage of strippers out there averaging same as the Best Buy employee (if she lands one dance per hour $25 dance minus $10 club cut)
    I understand what you mean and I also believe the owners of the clubs are probably taking too much but again that isn't a reason for me to tip. There are many reasons to tip but that would never be one I would consider.

    Im not sure any customer would have much pull in telling management to pay the girls more either. I would love my customers to come into my job and tell my mangement to pay me more because they feel too much of the money they spend isn't going to me though! I think maybe the only hope for this is for the industry to keep getting more acceptance so that reputable people buy into them and keep the shady scumbags out. Too many of these places are still owned by these types and the corporate owned ones are just as bad.

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    ^^^when's your next performance review and whats your boss' number? I'd be glad to make a recommendation for you. No worries, no extras required.

    But from what I've seen, The managers and owners consider customer feedback more than one would realize.

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