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    How do you guys feel when a customer catches feelings for you?

    Do you continue to see him?

    Hows does it make you feel?

    How do you react to it?

    If you could tell that customer something about this what would it be?

    Is it obnoxious to know that they actually care about? If they ask about your day and your wellbeing via text does that annoy you?

    If that customer truly enjoys company beyond "services" do you give them a chance to be in your circle at very least or does it repulse you?

    What would you suggest a customer to do if he has fallen in love with you?

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    Well if you're a good evil little stripper your supposed to use that to your advantage lol....having my customers fall in love with me is part of my hustle cuz I rely on long term regulars to pay my bills at this point in my career lol...

    Um but if you notice that he thinks it's more than a fantasy and he's stopped paying you is when you stop talking to him. Like don't respond to anything he says unless it's about money until they get the hint that your affection & attention was for lease and he's missed paying his affection fees this month

    Idk I've always done the "girlfriend" hustle I tell my customers I love them lmao. They met me as a stripper in a strip club they knew what they were getting into.

    Do you mean "circle" like let them in as a personal friend? Yea I am friends with all of my customers , the guys that repulse me I don't let them become my customer; I may do a dance for them in the club but if they truly repulse me I'm not spending any time with them so there is no way they would fall in love . But yes I have introduce my customers to my other girlfriends and they have even taken us all out ! Not a bad deal to be honest lol!

    Um yea I could care less actually if they fall in love and to be honest that is my goal; I feel no guilt because they get the services they bought (my dances, my time, my attention).

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    Default Re: When a customer catches feelings for you?

    Oh lol I keep answering these wrong in this section it confuses me lmaooo!!!

    You are a customer! Not a chick lol!

    Ok so what would I suggest you do if you fell in love with a dancer? Take a ticket the line in love with her is long bro

    I suggest you accept what the two of you have and be happy with it or move on cuz you're just gonna lose more money/get hurt

    Cuz that's what I do with customers who are in love with me....suck blood out of their wallet until they aren't in love anymore lmao




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    Quote Originally Posted by Nadia_ View Post
    Oh lol I keep answering these wrong in this section it confuses me lmaooo!!!

    You are a customer! Not a chick lol!

    Ok so what would I suggest you do if you fell in love with a dancer? Take a ticket the line in love with her is long bro

    I suggest you accept what the two of you have and be happy with it or move on cuz you're just gonna lose more money/get hurt

    Cuz that's what I do with customers who are in love with me....suck blood out of their wallet until they aren't in love anymore lmao

    Lmao Love it...You're funny you tell it like it is!!...Nadia you're my kind of chick....I love your answers!!!!....Why? Because you don't beat around the bush. So often us guys meet chicks that aren't clear about things. You're the opposite and I love it!...I love your brutal honestly because you're real!!!!.....Don't know why?....Maybe because I'm the same way. I just can't stand fake people. People that put up a front are like nails on a chalkboard to me!!!.....Thanx for taking time to reply!!!...

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    It's PERFECT. Cha-ching ! But I won't introduce them to my inner circle. If they are constantly texting me, yes I get annoyed.

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    You kind of have to unhook that aspect, and just enjoy the show. Even the hustle is a dance, an art, a performance. You know how in Vegas when you see Cirque dS in Ka and they're jumping around on these super high sideways stages you still get that sensation that they might fall (unfortunately someone did a while back) but 99.99% of the time they don't. You have to experience wonder at the talent and professionalism but also allow yourself to feel fear and excitement, without actually believing anyone will die. Sure they're professionals, but the skill is part of the amazement.

    30 - 50 men like you interact with dancers every night they work. Some they know, others they see for the first time. If they convince you you're special and unique and a virile, attractive man who deserves to live the best life with them on your arm, they've done what they set out to do and probably scored a few hundy or even Ks off you. That doesn't mean they don't like you, or see you as a human, it just means that their job is to convince as many dudes as possible that their time is worth circa $600/hr while staying within their personal and work boundaries. Do they love every one of those dudes? How could they? Are you better than all the other guys? Prrrrrrrrrobably not. But if you chill out and let the dancers work, they'll make you feel like you are.
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    Default Re: When a customer catches feelings for you?

    I can guess, with a high degree of confidence, that many of the dancers that I deal with would capitalize on the situation. To be clear, this is not a criticism of these dancers. It is their job to try to make guys want to spend on them. I include in these comments anything that happens OTC if things end up going in that direction. It is not a dancer's job is to be each guy's psychologist, life coach, banker, etc.

    Grown ass men should know better than to lose their minds over girls who are paid to get naked and be nice to them. The ones who lose their perspective end up making what I call "tuition payments." Some of the weakest and/or dumbest often end up paying the steepest tuition, which of course is no surprise.

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    Honestly we will use it to our advantage if we see that a customer has feelings for us or thinks he's in love. I will continue to see him as a customer but I will not allow him to cross boundaries. I am fine with a,"Hey, how are you?" text every now and then but you have to understand that it is a business relationship. The ones who get pushy, texting me all day long, demanding immediate responses are the ones who are going to piss me off. The customers who think that I can drop everything and take a day off just for a date with them annoy me because they do not seem to realize that this is a job that pays rent, bills, puts food on the table, and supports my daughter and I. I do not like to meet up with anyone OTC unless they are going to reimburse me for the time lost. I do not introduce customers to anybody who is important in my life unless it is someone who I see as serious relationship material. I'm not saying that that can't happen but most strippers don't exactly go to work looking for true love.

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    ^^what a generational difference - only my closest friends are allowed to text me unless we're meeting somewhere unfamiliar, urgent situation etc. The split second I hire or contract a millennial they view that as permission to text at literally all hours. I'll be in Japan or SP and get 10 texts at 4am my time. Yet they avoid the phone like the plague - if they got robbed they'd probably text 911 "hey i ws robed snd hlps!!!". I know like 1000 people - I'd never get anything done if I texted with all of them. I can't imagine texting with someone in that setting where you meet so many people. Even a few texts a day from 100 guys and you're out of time.
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    That's why I have a burner number for customers. When I have a minute to return texts, I will. Sometimes I get way too many texts from customers and don't bother responding to them. You are making assumptions on all millenials based off of your own personal experience. I can't speak for everybody but most people in my life seem to resort to texting these days, instead of phone calls, even my 80 year old grandparents. It's prevalent everywhere. Go out to a restaurant. You'll see tons of people bent over their phones, texting. Go to the shopping mall..people standing around texting. It has seemed to replace phone calls. I think this is straying from the OP's topic though.

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    Default Re: When a customer catches feelings for you?

    WS it isn't just me:

    Why Millennials Are Texting More And Talking Less

    "Fully 68% of 18- to 29-year-olds say that they texted 'a lot' the previous day,
    which plunges to 47% among 30- to 49-year-olds
    and 26% among 50- to 64-year-olds."

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    I prefer texting because it means i don't have to sit there with bullshit small talk and can just get to the point.
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    To the OP: The actual answer is DON'T. The trouble is that when guys are stupid/unrealistic enough to 'catch feelings' for a Dancer (the vast majority of the time) there is just no talking to them. Literally no words seem to get sense into their heads.
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    As a guy on this site I will say I started catching feelings for a girl I started doing OTC activities with. Spent a good amount for her time and honestly didn't mind. But I thought sex was going to take place as well. The whole do you want to meet me outside the club was her idea and she mentioned a special private show. So I basically took that as code for we hang out, you buy me stuff, and then we have sex. Nope...lol

    The last time we hung out she was just really tired from work and not getting much sleep to meet the next day. As I tried to be intimate with her she got really annoyed and shrugged me off pretty coldly. I honestly felt a little cheated. I'm paying you for your time and all you want to do is sleep?

    She mentioned hanging out again after that but then mentioned money. I just said can't do it this time and we haven't spoken since. I guess part of me felt taken since I thought sex was also on the table but it wasn't. So I guess you can say I was in lust. But I still really liked her. Until the moment she basically cold shouldered me in bed.

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    ^^^^dude just call an escort

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    Default Re: When a customer catches feelings for you?

    I see a lot of discussions on forums like this one about customers falling in love with dancers. The best advice I can give anyone is to not develop feelings for a dancer. It may be easier said than done for some people. The important thing to remember is that there is money being exchanged. What you are essentially doing is renting. It is not something you own. It is actually fun if you understand that none of this is real. Once you leave the club, you owe her nothing and she owes you nothing. If you have a good time, do return to the club to see her at your own convenience.

    I always take the approach of keeping it in the club. I've never done as much as exchange phone numbers with a dancer. I never felt the need to. I think hanging out with a dancer outside of the club, or getting to know them as a person can actually ruin the fantasy they sell me when I am in the club.

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