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    Default Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    So this couple came in and the guy came up to tip me. Now other people have come up to tip me as well but there was a 20 on my stage in the midst of some ones and the guy came back up with some more ones and I thought he was gonna tip me some more but then he says "I think I may have made you too excited with that 20. I meant to give you some more ones if I can get that 20 back." I told him " I'm so sorry but once the money hits the stage its ours. I'll come down to talk to you." He went back to his seat looking irritated then told his girlfriend or wife or whatever and she starts getting upset. So I just packed my shit and left quietly. I'm not sure if they noticed me but I just left after my set was done. Was I mean for not giving them their 20 back? But at the same time I honestly did not know who gave me that 20 out of the 4 people that came up to tip me so he could've been trying to play me as well.

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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    No way, you were in the right. I have had this happen before... I once had this bachelor group come up to me all drunk and the main guy started throwing 20's on my stage.. well about 100$ in he realized they weren't ones and he was like "oh shit!... *talks to his guy friend*... um... so I accidentally threw some of those 20's and thought they were 1's can I get some of them back??!" and I was like "nope....sowwwyyyyy... " lol

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    i once returned money when the guy accidentally tossed down $600 in hundreds at me. i could tell he didn't mean to and felt guilty. he was so grateful i did that, he let me keep 100 and i kept it with a clear conscience.

    BUT $20?! like.. who cares. that is nothing. if they are that butthurt over such a small amount of money (which he came up and left on *your* stage without being forced or even asked to).... then they definitely should leave. and you should not feel bad at all

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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    I don't think you were in the wrong at all. If people are so clumsy they aren't paying attention to what they're throwing on stage then that's their fault, not yours.

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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    I've been fired for strip clubs for refusing to return $20 because a customer claimed he gave it to me for a dance "for later" when I understood it was a tip, he did not tell me that lol. He complained to management and they axed me lol

    I kept it, I always keep it. I feel like you have to stand your ground on this because you waiver once next thing you know it you're giving every customer their money back lol....this isn't McDonald's this isn't Macy's there is no refund policy with selling ass lol , or atleast when it comes to me lol.




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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    i once returned money when the guy accidentally tossed down $600 in hundreds at me. i could tell he didn't mean to and felt guilty. he was so grateful i did that, he let me keep 100 and i kept it with a clear conscience.

    BUT $20?! like.. who cares. that is nothing. if they are that butthurt over such a small amount of money (which he came up and left on *your* stage without being forced or even asked to).... then they definitely should leave. and you should not feel bad at all
    Once, a customer wasn't paying attention and accidentally tipped me $100. I brought it to his attention and he was grateful I did, because he said had I kept that money, it would've fucked up his night. Well two weeks later, he came back in, handed me 100 bucks and said ,"This time, I mean to do this. Thanks for being honest." So in the end I walked away with 100 bucks AND the customer's respect.

    In your case, it would depend on a lot of things. Were they nice generous guests I wouldn't want to piss off? Would I want them to be happy and come back? If so, I would've given it back. Were they good regulars? If so, I'd give it back. The last thing you'd want to do is piss off good consistent customers.

    Now of they are annoying, cheap, obnoxious people and not the kind of customers you'd want anyway, then I'd keep it and let them know that they need to be careful bc once the money hits the stage, you are not obliged to return it.

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    Lol depends on the customer. I've had customers accidentally give me $50s and 100$ and I usually give them a funny look. More than half the time they let me keep it or give me a large tip for bringing it up to their attention.

    But for a $20? Nah. That happened on my stage set recently but my stage partner was the one he gave it to and was like "wait that's a $20" she pretended not to hear LOL and he was the only one out of his group not tipping so I thought it was only fair. Karma

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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    I would only return bills if it is a 50 or 100. 20 and under hell no! If they are worried about losing 20 or less they are cheap and I wouldn't want them returning to my club anyway. And since they came as a couple they should be tipping you more anyway! Plus it's not much more of a difference to tip a bunch of singles vs $20

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    There is a question -was this guy an asshole to ask his 20$ back? But you? It's not your fault, it's not your job to keep an eye on his money! Can he prove that it was his? Or somebody else tossed it? I would second the situation when guys clearly do mistakes and throw hundreds etc, but this is different. It's normal actually to be tipped 5/10/20, it's not outrageous.

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    Nope once it's on stage it's mine. You're a grown man and it's not my problem if you can't keep your bills straight.

    If you are ever asking yourself as a dancer if something makes you an asshole, 9.99/10 times the answer is no, the customer was wrong or being an ass. General rule of thumb
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    HE is the one that sounds rude. I wouldn't worry about it.

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    No, I would have done the same.

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    Default Re: Was I an asshole or did I do the right thing?

    He flipped out over $20? I would've done the same exact thing as you. Don't feel bad. Make your money.

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    Once it hits my tits its lost forever.
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