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    Ladies,

    I've got a reg who's spent about 10k on me since he found me.

    He usually does really long shows with me.

    He's usually very on time and prompt...he'll message me a scenario and within an hour we'll be in the show doing it.

    However, he's been catting lately and I think he's in shows with other girls. So, he'll message me a scenario, say he'll call me in 15 mins...and be gone for 5 hours!!!!

    This guy definitely has an addiction as I don't know anyone who can regularly be in shows that long roleplaying insane scenarios that in my opinion, he believes, it's not fantasy for him.

    So...

    Recently I was looking at other girls feedbacks and saw that sure enough on the days he just mysteriously disappears on me he leaves them feedback.

    I hate doing this, but I feel like regs start acting like assholes after a while and although the name of the game is doing shows with different models...but don't make an appointment with me, and then end the show 10 mins later never to return, or tell me we can start at 10am and not message me again until 3pm. That's so beyond ridiculous and I hate when insecure men try and for once in their sad lives feel important by doing stupid shit like this.

    So I feel like he's approaching the ban hammer status, but I haven't done it yet. I know all customers have an expiration, but this time wasting, let me keep you waiting for me, is honestly really not a part of my business plan and at one point he was my best customer but now I have many others who do longer shows with me and virtually no hassle.

    Is this the inevitable outcome? Or can I finesse this by saying something sexy and sweet along the lines of "hey i know your timewasting...so stop that bullshit"?

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    i find that they usually make excuses if you call them out. like "ohhhh u know i would never intentionally not see you! my wife has been stopping home from work at weird times lately!!" and then if you don't believe their lame excuse they get offended and stop coming around...
    what seems to work better for me is blocking and then unblocking after a week or so, if they are smart enough to realize why u blocked them they will just change their behavior so they dont get blocked again....
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    with the money he dropped I would try recasting your line. I dont know what your actually hustle is but I would call him out on his "cheating" on you either like your hurt or your bitchy, again depending on your hustle. Also maybe try first the block, unblock that Hottie mentioned to get his attention. The worst thats gonna happen is that he is going to drop you which is like blocking him but also means he might show back up a few months down the line wanting another taste!

    The important thing is only to do this when he reaches out to you! Never track him down, call him, send an email or message him! Ignore his ass even if you dont hear from him for weeks always make him come to you first cause you cannot appear desperate!

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    Yes blocking them does wonders. No need to explain just block and enjoy. Some of them get too comfy and act all entitled as certain amout is spent.

    I truly love the regs that after thousands dropped don't message me with hayadoin and stuff. May their dicks remain hard.



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    I would say that your main annoyance in this case doesn't come from him "cheating" with other girls, but from him breaking appointments and keeping you waiting. So I think a really easy solution is to take away his appointment-making privileges.

    Just nicely explain to him that your business has really increased lately. Tell him that you can't take appointments anymore because you have to turn down other shows while you're waiting for him to show up, and that's not really fair to other customers. if he continues to try the "Just hold on, I'll call you in 15 minutes" crap after you've explained all that, just kindly tell him that he can call you now when you're free, or he can take the chance that you'll be busy with someone else when he calls later.


    I used to take appointments, and I've had to revoke appointment privileges for all but my most favorite customers because, even if they show up on time, it seriously limits my $$ potential. If I have an appointment for a 30 minute Skype show at 6:30, but then another guy comes along at 6:20 and wants a 90 minute show, wtf am I supposed to do there? I don't want to flake on the appointment, but I also don't want to lose the more lucrative show by telling him that he needs to wait more than half an hour (not to mention that I'm never 100% sure that the appointment will show up on time, or at all). On top of that, it limits my ability to split cam with free chat sites at the same time, because I have to log out well in advance to avoid getting a long private just before my appointment time.
    The guys that I still allow to pre-plan shows understand this dilemma and will usually schedule them at the beginning or end of my work day, so there's less likelihood of a conflict. Also, they are guys that book nice long shows anyway, so it's really unlikely that someone else would be requesting a longer, more profitable show.
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    Default Re: When Regulars Approach Their Ban Hammer

    Tell him politely that scheduling shows and not turning up is inconsiderate, and if he carries on, you will not be able to arrange time with him in advance without a deposit. Don't mention other models, just tell him what you require from a well-behaved customer.

    If he complains or does it again, then he is knowingly messing with your boundaries, either get him to pay a deposit, or block without a second thought.

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    I have a guy who has long shows with me and I will happily go online just for him but the last time I ran around getting the clothes and shoes he wanted, put on the make up he wanted and then waited in the stinking hot room he wanted but he didn't show. No email apologising, nothing. Next time I am going to refuse. I had similar with another so called regular recently too, I emailed him but no decency of an explanation or apology...he will get refused next time too.
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    I have a guy that emails randomly asking if I'm available for him to listen in (to me fucking, masturbation, dirty talking whatever). He pays stupid amounts each time so I've always emailed him straight back so long as I'm not sleeping and set something up right away no matter what I'm doing. Lately though he's been emailing, I email back, then he doesn't reply for hours or sometimes days. The last time I emailed again and said wanna play tonight? He came back with oh I'm in Disney land I prob won't be free now for a few weeks. Wtf! I blocked him cause it was like he knew how much I loved getting those big wedges of cash for practically nothing, and started just dangling that carrot for kicks. Not worth it. Block and move on, or block for a while then unblock and see if he crawls back with his tail between his legs!
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    Make him tip you in order to set an appointment. Then he's less likely to "forget" and waste your time.

    I don't think you should worry about him camming with other girls. It's the nature of sex work. Try not to think about it, don't look at his online activity, just worry about the business between you and him.

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    ^^ THIS I have a very small group of men who have private shows with me. They always pay the price first and then we decide when to book the appointment. A couple of them make deposits at the beginning of each week and then we work out day by day when they can come by and see me! I suggest at least making this guy tip and if he is no show he forfeits the cash AND I might also insist he pay a token amount for the shows already missed! But I love beginning a bitch with these guys

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    This doesn't happen to me because I do not allow this behavior from men.. They start playing games with me I give them the cold shoulder., not much warmth or chit chat as they got before. It seems you are allowing this guy to twist and bend you.. This is what ALL men do to women.. It's not just the sad and pathetic ones.. They all do this.. You have to find a way to be firm and set some rules and boundaries and if he doesn't follow them then he doesn't get a show .. which means you don't get the money.. But I guarantee you he won't be treating you like this anymore...

    p.s. if he sets an appointment with you that he has already paid for.. I would say , I am sorry you missed your appointment and I am not available to you right now.. let's set another apt for later that works best for me.. Turn that shit around on him... keep the money til it's convenient for you!.. That's what I do .. I have had guys prepay for shows without discussing with me first.... I get pissed off and make them wait for that shit!.. they don't do it again.

    Quote Originally Posted by xCamLovex View Post
    Ladies,

    I've got a reg who's spent about 10k on me since he found me.

    He usually does really long shows with me.

    He's usually very on time and prompt...he'll message me a scenario and within an hour we'll be in the show doing it.

    However, he's been catting lately and I think he's in shows with other girls. So, he'll message me a scenario, say he'll call me in 15 mins...and be gone for 5 hours!!!!

    This guy definitely has an addiction as I don't know anyone who can regularly be in shows that long roleplaying insane scenarios that in my opinion, he believes, it's not fantasy for him.

    So...

    Recently I was looking at other girls feedbacks and saw that sure enough on the days he just mysteriously disappears on me he leaves them feedback.

    I hate doing this, but I feel like regs start acting like assholes after a while and although the name of the game is doing shows with different models...but don't make an appointment with me, and then end the show 10 mins later never to return, or tell me we can start at 10am and not message me again until 3pm. That's so beyond ridiculous and I hate when insecure men try and for once in their sad lives feel important by doing stupid shit like this.

    So I feel like he's approaching the ban hammer status, but I haven't done it yet. I know all customers have an expiration, but this time wasting, let me keep you waiting for me, is honestly really not a part of my business plan and at one point he was my best customer but now I have many others who do longer shows with me and virtually no hassle.

    Is this the inevitable outcome? Or can I finesse this by saying something sexy and sweet along the lines of "hey i know your timewasting...so stop that bullshit"?

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    Default Re: When Regulars Approach Their Ban Hammer

    I wouldn't ban, just go about your day as normal & do what the fuck you want. Don't wait around for him.


    He is playing head games to see how mad you will get, so he can judge how much you care about him or his money. Pretend like he doesn't exist & none of it matters will piss him off more.

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    Hi Ladies,

    I'm debating on how to cut my most loyal reg off. 11k in, he was once my easiest customers who would only want some mutual masturbation once a week.

    Lately, he's been very clear that he's spent thousands on me and peeved I won't fly to Florida to meet him. When I tell him I'm busy with school, he'll be extra petty and say "well you have five hours a day to spend with me so why not?"

    So he's been hinting I should help him find a companion. I thought he was literally kidding me until he drops his Seeking Arrangements login and password in my inbox and literally tells me this is my 'new job'.

    I have to express how utterly ridiculous this is. THE NERVE! I was like...um, I wouldn't even do this if you paid me. But, he's acting like an over entitled little snatch about it.

    I almost want to hit the block button but I know he will just create x200 accounts and stalk me until I talk to him.

    Am I over reacting or is this a beyond ridiculous request and grounds for termination?

    I also can't stand this customer because he's a Trump Loving pro white nationalist and on one hand it's very very gratifying to take his money but dealing with his daily bullshit is annoying me beyond belief these days

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    Default Re: Customer Wants Me To Manage His Seeking Arrangements Account...*GAG*

    How much is he willing to pay for this job?

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    Default Re: Customer Wants Me To Manage His Seeking Arrangements Account...*GAG*

    He is not compensating. He assumes that b/c he's already spent x amount on me that I should do this for him.

    I've told him I do not have time for this and to be honest...

    I'm going to help him find a sugar baby so he can go trick his $$$ on her? Lol.

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    Default Re: Customer Wants Me To Manage His Seeking Arrangements Account...*GAG*

    can't you just ask him to compensate you? or did he already refuse

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    Default Re: Customer Wants Me To Manage His Seeking Arrangements Account...*GAG*

    i doubt he even cares about finding an sb so much as trying to make you jealous so you'll meet him

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    Default Re: Customer Wants Me To Manage His Seeking Arrangements Account...*GAG*

    I think he actually has had sb's in the past...and I'm sure he'd love to meet me too but rather than ask I've actually told him I can't do this as a past time. I actually do things I enjoy during my time off. I told him he can pay me a certain amount every month but he doesn't want to 'feel' like he's 'paying for an arrangement' so we're a little dead in the water right now

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    Day 2...Reg won't talk to me. LOL. I laugh at this because I've NEVER offered to be of this type of service to him. But, I'm really over the way he's assumed I'm down to take on his correspondence like I'm his secretary.

    Even if I were to be getting paid to manage someones Seeking Arrangement account...I just wouldn't be interested. I really wish our friendship didn't go in this direction. Like I said before, he's hinted about this but in general he's an extremely sarcastic person and I just brushed it off. But when he dropped his SA login and pw to me, I was literally like...UM...excuse me???!

    ...all custies have an expiration date...

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    If he keeps missing appointments and skips out during shows just block him. Regulars can become asses and super annoying because they think you owe them due to the money they spent on you. I blocked a good spender on NF because he became annoying and acted like I should be on call for him. Pay me a ton of money upfront if you want me on call or piss off

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    Quote Originally Posted by JaneBurgess View Post
    If he keeps missing appointments and skips out during shows just block him. Regulars can become asses and super annoying because they think you owe them due to the money they spent on you. I blocked a good spender on NF because he became annoying and acted like I should be on call for him. Pay me a ton of money upfront if you want me on call or piss off
    What would you do if a loyal customer wanted you to manage his Seeking Arrangements account but didn't want to pay for it? And because you won't do it, he gives you the cold shoulder? Should I send him a message wishing him well but telling him it's not going to work for me? Or, should I just block and not lose sleep over this?

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    Quote Originally Posted by xCamLovex View Post
    What would you do if a loyal customer wanted you to manage his Seeking Arrangements account but didn't want to pay for it? And because you won't do it, he gives you the cold shoulder? Should I send him a message wishing him well but telling him it's not going to work for me? Or, should I just block and not lose sleep over this?

    If he doesnt want to pay you for your time I would just ignore him. He will either end up paying or he will leave for good. Leave the ball in his court and block him if its clear he wont pay in the end.

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    The thing about regulars is that they often get this entitled attitude, like once they paid you x amount they mistakenly believe that they don't need to pay you anymore. I'd just ignore him. That worked for a regular who decided to stop paying me and started sending me unpaid messages just to chit chat. I don't have patience for that so I didn't even give him the satisfaction of a response. He kept blowing up my inbox with more messages and finally he called me on my pso line and cammed. He went back to spending on me until he started pulling the non-spending crap again. I blocked his butt after that. Men who don't spend on you are a waste of time and energy, imo.

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    Yes...
    Thanks to everyone for helping me.

    He called me and we spoke for two hours yesterday but it was really weird and his feelings are obviously really hurt by this. I just ultimately feel like I don't owe him ANYTHING so I don't need to explain why I cannot live his life for him (lol)

    Most regulars really annoy me after a while but I'm also easily annoyed so I have a hard time gauging if it's me or the customer. It's the customer in this case...

    When the regular becomes the timewaster....

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    I have a regular who spends big but now and again because he's a Skype customer he starts to try and chat for free in between shows, he even tries to make it sexual but that don't fly of course. I've found that if I ignore his babbling for a couple of days he will then buy a show, why? He wants my attention and I've trained him to realise he has to PAY for it at all times. We're not friends I'm his virtual fuck buddy, now he understands that he spends much more often... YAY win/win situation.

    As for your reg CamLove I think the expiration date has well and truly been reached. I nearly spat out my drink when I read about him wanting you to find him a date for free no less, the cheek.
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