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    So I went to a club last Thursday night and chatted with one of the girls. First time I ever met her. She was way up front telling me her real name and a few other things as well about her life. I had gotten a few dances from her and then she said I'm about to leave want to leave together? I kind of was speechless as this had never happened before. She asked me to put my number in her phone and she texted me hers. She had planned on leaving then said "Actually I might stick around a bit longer to make a little more money. Hit me up tomorrow and let's get a drink."

    So I did so and she never responded. I haven't texted her since last Friday night because I honestly feel like I'd be bothering her more then anything. I'm just kind of confused. Why even go through that if she was just going to blow me off completely? I have had girls give me their numbers before but it was strictly a I'm at the club you can come see me if you want type deal.

    If I go to the club again and she is there should I even bring it up? Or just chalk it up to she was feeling frisky then not so much on that night?

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    Definition of hustle
    hustled; hustlingplay \ˈhə-s(ə-)liŋ\
    transitive verb
    1
    a : to crowd or push roughly : jostle, shove had been hustled into a jail cell with the other protesters
    b : to convey forcibly or hurriedly
    grabbed him by the arm and hustled him out the door — John Dos Passos
    c : to urge forward precipitately hustling tourists from one museum to the next

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    a : to obtain by energetic activity —usually used with up hustle up new customers try to hustle up some tickets to tonight's game hustling up some grub
    b : to sell something to or obtain something from (someone) by energetic and especially underhanded activity : swindle hustling the suckers an elaborate scam to hustle the elderly
    c : to sell or promote energetically and aggressively hustling a new product
    d : to lure less skillful players into competing against oneself at (a gambling game) hustle pool


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    yeah it just sounds like a hutsle

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    Wow, ummm... you should not take it so seriously. She just wants you to become a regular...not her boyfriend. Do not bring it because it sounds like you are making it into a bigger deal than what it was. Just hit her up whenever you are in the club and keep getting dances.

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    So I went to a club last Thursday night and chatted with one of the girls. First time I ever met her. She was way up front telling me her real name and a few other things as well about her life. I had gotten a few dances from her and then she said I'm about to leave want to leave together? I kind of was speechless as this had never happened before. She asked me to put my number in her phone and she texted me hers. She had planned on leaving then said "Actually I might stick around a bit longer to make a little more money. Hit me up tomorrow and let's get a drink."

    So I did so and she never responded. I haven't texted her since last Friday night because I honestly feel like I'd be bothering her more then anything. I'm just kind of confused. Why even go through that if she was just going to blow me off completely? I have had girls give me their numbers before but it was strictly a I'm at the club you can come see me if you want type deal.

    If I go to the club again and she is there should I even bring it up? Or just chalk it up to she was feeling frisky then not so much on that night?
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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    Wow, ummm... you should not take it so seriously. She just wants you to become a regular...not her boyfriend. Do not bring it because it sounds like you are making it into a bigger deal than what it was. Just hit her up whenever you are in the club and keep getting dances.
    LOL well no IDK I just hadn't had a girl ask me to leave with her before is all. Was weird for me. I totally don't hold it against her or anything like that. I found her incredibly attractive so I guess that fucked with my head a little. The fact she would ask me that. I honestly hate texting girls even when they give me their number. I always feel like I'm bothering a girl if I text them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    LOL well no IDK I just hadn't had a girl ask me to leave with her before is all. Was weird for me. I totally don't hold it against her or anything like that. I found her incredibly attractive so I guess that fucked with my head a little. The fact she would ask me that. I honestly hate texting girls even when they give me their number. I always feel like I'm bothering a girl if I text them.
    Don't worry. When her club is slow you can expect a few texts from her. That never fails.
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    99.999% chance she is just doing her routine to try to make you a regular and .001% chance she is actually attracted to you. I give it a .001% chance, just because you never know... but, I also give it .001% chance that she is a space alien.

    Just play along and have fun, but, don't be a fool. A dancer once explained to me that her role is to create a fantasy. So, it is all pretend and make-believe in the club. When a dancer does these routines on me, I just play along and have fun with it, like - "Yeah, we should definitely hang out together! How about we go to Paris or Milan together for a week? Can you be packed by next weekend?" A lot of dancers like to travel, and I do as well, so, we talk about places we'd like to go or see. But, it's all just fun, I don't get creepy and expect any of it to be for real. Also, make sure she knows you are pretending, too, because one dancer took me seriously one time and got pissed off that I wasn't really taking her on a flight to Europe.
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    What club is this ????

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    99.999% chance she is just doing her routine to try to make you a regular and .001% chance she is actually attracted to you. I give it a .001% chance, just because you never know... but, I also give it .001% chance that she is a space alien.

    Just play along and have fun, but, don't be a fool. A dancer once explained to me that her role is to create a fantasy. So, it is all pretend and make-believe in the club. When a dancer does these routines on me, I just play along and have fun with it, like - "Yeah, we should definitely hang out together! How about we go to Paris or Milan together for a week? Can you be packed by next weekend?" A lot of dancers like to travel, and I do as well, so, we talk about places we'd like to go or see. But, it's all just fun, I don't get creepy and expect any of it to be for real. Also, make sure she knows you are pretending, too, because one dancer took me seriously one time and got pissed off that I wasn't really taking her on a flight to Europe.
    IDK that just seems kind of stupid IMO. Meaning if she just wants me to come back to the club when she dances she should just say it. Instead of playing the "fantasy" game of maybe we can hang out. That just had me texting her thinking she was for real about it. And after a couple of unanswered text I pretty much realized it was all just fantasy talk. I'm probably going to go back again this weekend. So I guess I can shoot her a text saying hey going to the club tonight you gonna be around?

    And believe me I don't think a girl as good looking as her would be into a guy like me at all. May be my low self esteem talking but just how I feel.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gorn View Post
    What club is this ????
    35 Club in NJ

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    IDK that just seems kind of stupid IMO. Meaning if she just wants me to come back to the club when she dances she should just say it.
    Well, it's got you thinking about her days later. And thinking about her enough to seek out Dancers on the internet to ask about it. Sounds like she's doing something right, to me.


    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    So I guess I can shoot her a text saying hey going to the club tonight you gonna be around?
    Why even do that? Just go in on the same day, around the same time. More than likely, she'll be there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    And believe me I don't think a girl as good looking as her would be into a guy like me at all. May be my low self esteem talking but just how I feel.
    Not with that lack of confidence, no... You can get a good looking girl, just not in the strip club. You are nothing more than a wallet with legs in the club.

    Whatever issues are contributing to your lack of confidence, you can always make improvements to yourself - working out, becoming more interesting (visit the trendy spots in your city, update your wardrobe, do some traveling, hang out with interesting people, etc.), become passionate about something and find a beautiful girl with similar passions, become more 'alpha male' (take on positions of leadership in your community) etc. Search the web for 'pickup artist' books like 'The Game' by Neal Strauss - a lot of this stuff is crap, but, they have a few valuable insights.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    35 Club in NJ
    Oh yea isnt that the one that was a dance club before - almost too spacious inside.

    I knew a girl that worked "the den" up the road & she acted hot n cold too so maybe its like a prereq for them.

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    I don't think she ever really intended to leave with you. just a hustle. I've done this before.. kinda been like "lets hang out" and given them my # then blocked it immediately loi. or given a fake number, or my textfree app #. but usually only if they are pestering me and spending a lot of money... so it's kinda weird to me that she'd do it for seemingly no reason... but like someone said, it does have you thinking about her days later so maybe she knows what she's doing

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    IDK that just seems kind of stupid IMO. Meaning if she just wants me to come back to the club when she dances she should just say it. Instead of playing the "fantasy" game of maybe we can hang out. That just had me texting her thinking she was for real about it. And after a couple of unanswered text I pretty much realized it was all just fantasy talk. I'm probably going to go back again this weekend. So I guess I can shoot her a text saying hey going to the club tonight you gonna be around?

    And believe me I don't think a girl as good looking as her would be into a guy like me at all. May be my low self esteem talking but just how I feel.
    Don't text her. Just go in there. Do NOT take all your spare cash with you...

    Might want to work on your self-esteem some also. Not a criticism my friend. If you saw some of the dancer boyfriends I've seen, you might feel a little better. Some of the dancers are very picky and only date the hunks. Many many more of them do not. But what most of the guys seem to have in common is cockiness. I've seen ugly fat stupid motherfuckers with a long line of women waiting to bang them, innumerable times. Usually they have blow

    However, none of that really matters. Your only goal in going to the stripclub should be to enjoy the fantasy, or maybe just watch the pretty girls dancing (and tip them well!). Never go there looking for love or a GFE, unless you are prepared to pay for it.

    Even in the cases where the dancer really likes a guy--and it CAN happen even if t is very rare--there will often be a lot of apparently missed texts, seeming misunderstandings about where & when to meet up, etc. In their defense, they usually have 30 guys texting them at once begging for it and acting like fucking idiots. You goal is to avoid being mistaken for that type.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    Don't text her. Just go in there. Do NOT take all your spare cash with you...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Dancers: You'll get more of a jolt out of the ATM machine, anyway.
    Ha ha true! But if he likes to drink, he should leave all those cards at home as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    Don't text her. Just go in there. Do NOT take all your spare cash with you...

    Might want to work on your self-esteem some also. Not a criticism my friend. If you saw some of the dancer boyfriends I've seen, you might feel a little better. Some of the dancers are very picky and only date the hunks. Many many more of them do not. But what most of the guys seem to have in common is cockiness. I've seen ugly fat stupid motherfuckers with a long line of women waiting to bang them, innumerable times. Usually they have blow

    However, none of that really matters. Your only goal in going to the stripclub should be to enjoy the fantasy, or maybe just watch the pretty girls dancing (and tip them well!). Never go there looking for love or a GFE, unless you are prepared to pay for it.

    Even in the cases where the dancer really likes a guy--and it CAN happen even if t is very rare--there will often be a lot of apparently missed texts, seeming misunderstandings about where & when to meet up, etc. In their defense, they usually have 30 guys texting them at once begging for it and acting like fucking idiots. You goal is to avoid being mistaken for that type.
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    What on Earth is so confusing here, the motivation is simple it's the same motivation a car dealer would have if they gave you their number while at work or any other kind of salesperson they wish to increase the sales

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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    Not with that lack of confidence, no... You can get a good looking girl, just not in the strip club. You are nothing more than a wallet with legs in the club.
    While I agree that the lack of confidence will work against and turn you into an easy target for strippers, I do not agree that you can't get a good looking girl in a strip club. I literally met my husband at my home club lol I asked for his number first and it was because I really liked him and found him attractive. Yes, the money was a big motivator, but if I wasn't legitimately into him, I would not have pursued him. He was hooked lol so I didn't have to do any work, but I asked anyway. We became fast friends, then he asked me to be more than friends. It's been 2 years and I've never been happier. I also still dance lol

    I'm not saying that this is something that happens often with strippers, but what customers and sometimes other dancers seem to forget is that at the end of the day, job aside, we are still women. The hustle doesn't change the fact that we still have feelings and are capable of being attracted to a customer. So while this particular girl is most likely after your wallet *I have done this very same thing to gain regulars lol*, that doesn't mean the next girl is the same way. Don't think too much into it and don't get emotionally invested lol but do keep an open mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mrmadness001 View Post
    IDK that just seems kind of stupid IMO. Meaning if she just wants me to come back to the club when she dances she should just say it. Instead of playing the "fantasy" game of maybe we can hang out. That just had me texting her thinking she was for real about it. And after a couple of unanswered text I pretty much realized it was all just fantasy talk. I'm probably going to go back again this weekend. So I guess I can shoot her a text saying hey going to the club tonight you gonna be around?
    I'm not surprised that you are heading back soon. As much as the rational part of your mind knows that she is out of your league, you are still more than a little intrigued. Fucking with your head made the experience less generic and has you thinking about her. In the meantime, blowing off a couple of your texts really didn't cost her anything. If she had used some saccharine "come back to the club soon - here is my schedule" it probably wouldn't have had the same effect.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ravenskyy View Post
    While I agree that the lack of confidence will work against and turn you into an easy target for strippers, I do not agree that you can't get a good looking girl in a strip club. I literally met my husband at my home club lol I asked for his number first and it was because I really liked him and found him attractive. Yes, the money was a big motivator, but if I wasn't legitimately into him, I would not have pursued him. He was hooked lol so I didn't have to do any work, but I asked anyway. We became fast friends, then he asked me to be more than friends. It's been 2 years and I've never been happier. I also still dance lol

    I'm not saying that this is something that happens often with strippers, but what customers and sometimes other dancers seem to forget is that at the end of the day, job aside, we are still women. The hustle doesn't change the fact that we still have feelings and are capable of being attracted to a customer. So while this particular girl is most likely after your wallet *I have done this very same thing to gain regulars lol*, that doesn't mean the next girl is the same way. Don't think too much into it and don't get emotionally invested lol but do keep an open mind.
    agree with this.. i also have dated guys i met at the club before and i always roll my eyes when i see guys talk about how to "get with" a stripper, does she like me, etc. unless you're willing to a) prey on the desperate/fucked up/unattractive girls OR b) you're super rich and willing to spend as much as it takes... then just stop trying. confidence, trying too hard to be "not that guy", refusing to get dances or whatever lame tactics you think are gonna work are pointless. if we really like you then you won't ever have to ask this question..! strip clubs are for light-hearted fun, not this kinda stuff

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    So what happened ??

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    Guess we will never know.

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    This is a brilliant strategy by the dancer.

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