I don't want to be a typical jerk!
How best to sensitively turn away girls who I am not interested in, for whatever reason?
Thanks!
I don't want to be a typical jerk!
How best to sensitively turn away girls who I am not interested in, for whatever reason?
Thanks!




Just say you aren't buying dances.
Don't do the "maybe later/not right now" thing, don't wait till she's talked to you for 15 mins to say you aren't interested, and don't say "you're really attractive etc blah blah". A straightforward no is appreciated.
"Sorry, but no."
It's your money. You decide who you spend it on. Why waste either your or her time pussyfooting around. For you, it's nothing. For her, it's her paycheck. Let her spend that time on someone more productive. You don't have to be a dick about it, just say no.
Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it
Say you're waiting on somebody already, or looking for someone in particular.





I guess he banned, so.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt


I don't like any of that "maybe later, not now, waiting for someone" trying to spare a dancer's feelings crap.
A simple and friendly "No thanks" is enough in my book.




Shut her down immediately with a friendly, straightforward "no, thanks". Don't talk to her for 20 mins to be "nice" because ultimately wasting her time/money isn't nice. Don't say "maybe later" if you have zero intentions of spending on her because chances are she will actually check on you later which goes back into wasting her time.










LOL. I noticed that too.
XoXo Gia
Danielle Fishell (the Dish): "If the Super-Star thing doesn't work out, Gia makes a great stripper name"





Even though he is banned other men may wonder.
Hand them $5 and say not interested, here is a tip & good luck with the next guy.





It is easy with the dancers that ask before they sit down with you. I appreciate it when they do that. I say politely, "No, thank you."
It is harder when the dancers just sits without asking, like she knows you, and she chats you up for 20 minutes before asking if you want to buy a dance. It feels rude to interrupt her and ask her to leave before she has even asked you to buy anything, but, on the other hand, you feel bad turning down a dance after the dancer has given you 20 minutes of her precious time. This is a psychological trick - like when the Hare Krishnas give you a "free" gift, and then, ask for a donation. You feel an obligation to give back after someone has given you something valuable for free. The way I have learned to deal with this is - when she sits down uninvited and without asking, I say something like, "I'm sorry, I have already invited someone else to sit with me." or "Sorry, I'm getting ready to leave."
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





In the old days I used to struggle with this too, but not for some years now. My time is valuable too and I don't want to waste it on girls I have no interest in. If a girl sits down and I am simply not attracted to her, she isn't there long. I have no qualms about interrupting her and letting her know that I'm not buying anything from her. I try to do it as nicely as possible, telling her that I just want to be honest and not waste her time, but I'm sure that it puts me on the a-hole list of some of them. C'est la vie. Three people benefit from that: me for the obvious reason, her because she's not burning her time on a non-sale and the next girl who I will give money to, because now the seat next to me is open for her.
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