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    (Before hand let me say I'm sorry if this has been asked before) But I don't come on often, but every now and then to freshen up for some tips and insight when I'm not doing trial and error by myself.

    Background on SW History:

    So I was just wondering since I did all my research I could do on my end I wanted to ask you lovely ladies about Domination. I'm 19 and I'm declaring myself as a black sensual Domme. I've been doing sex work on and off since I turned 18 and I've done just about everything in the book. I've been doing kink since February and am learning something new every damn day and will never say I know everything, or kink as there's depth and complexity with each kink along with relationship dynamics within BDSM. So I've been mainly doing online sex work PSO on Niteflirt my black Domme line gets bullshitters and wasn't moving so I became a white girl and I get money with no hassle and with ease. I tried camming I just will not do it for the life of me I CANNOT (And I have a MacBook which sometimes seems not as compatible with cam sites, and I'm about to start filming fetish clips on KB/ IWC/ and C4S, I also have a part time civvie job, and go to College full-time.

    Question and possible solutions:

    So my dilemma is that I live in West Indiana (Chicago is like 3 hours from where I live) and there is literally no kink scene in my city, not even underground I've checked on FetLife, and CollarSpace is a burning trash Bin for WoC. The only kink community thats active is like a 2 hour drive down to Indy. And all the information to find "Dommes" "Pro-Dommes" or whatever are only these BDSM-Dating websites which reek FREELOADERS LOOKING FOR FREE PLAY WHICH I DON'T DO. Also the city I'm in BP dating section is like 6-12 girls on there, they're all escorts no Dommes what so ever so I'm guessing better luck for me? And the dating section for the whole state go up to like 3$ per Ad so relatively cheap. I strictly want to do Domination/Fetish only, not do like I'm an escort who also does fetish, no. So I'm not sure if I should stick to my city and try to find clients because I have a really old car and I can't risk going too far out of town in case a client cancels, or (insert worse case scenario.) So for any traffic BP, and craigslist would be my best bet, Eros has literally no one in Indiana, and thinking about Illinois or Ohio but I'd have to factor in other expenses, and competition. I don't have any fancy gear I have like one latex piece, a corset, and some heels and boots, and some outfits from when I was dancing, and some fishnets I can work with for now. I'm really hung up on equipment I have like a cheap BDSM starter kit that has a few useful items. And I'm kind of hung up on pricing for a newbie and my town setting. Because some say "Don't go to low, don't lower your 'value'" and others will say "It's too expensive for someone new with no background." I know I can do foot worship sessions and like spanking sessions that don't require the full ropes (lol) so until I build up I'll keep it simple. Some suggested going on a Domme member board site verses the escort based kind, and others say to go on websites like: Virgin Dickie and get a listing and link it to my website (I'm going to create sometime next month.) I'm just stuck on what route I should do, I really feel like a pioneer. And also when placing an ad wording is huge on how not to get flagged, so I guess I'll list my services on my website and give a brief description in the Ad. So in the end for someone in my situation what would be the best way to build myself and my brand up? Or have I answered my own questions? (I tend to second guess myself a lot as well from past relationship trauma so bare with me)
    P.S. I've been verified on VerifyHim so screening will be no problem.

    I have a $600 credit card to pay off and my civvie job does not pay me enough even if I busted my ass for 60 hours a week, and I have like 4 going on 8 characters on Niteflirt which I revamped so they're new and I'm on everyday when I'm not at school, and currently building them up now so when the summer comes and it get's slow I'll have some steady income along with my clips and hopefully I'll be able to quit my shitty fast food job. I wanted to ask specifically because no matter what anyone says race plays a huge part in SW, but I appreciate all and any advice would be awesome, thank you for taking the time to read it. I hope I'm not all over I just wanted to be thorough.


    And if we have any lovely Black Dommes I'd love to connect with y'all.

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    Default Re: Newbie Question For Domination Sessions

    Fellow half Black half Latina domme here, with quite a few years of experience. I've never done real time before, and not sure if I ever will as I'm quite comfortable getting what I want virtually right now. (I also don't see the need to until I build my brand up higher or have a opportunity that aligns with my circumstances). Anyway back to the point, answering your post. For the first part of your post I can relate to your situation. I live in an area where most major cities are 1-3 hours away(I'm literally in the middle) so it can seem like a hike for just about everything. But you can't let that stop you, when you are starting from square one you need to think smart rather than taking huge risk that are definitely not worth it at this point in time. First things first, get yourself a notebook and a planner. Start planning out your work days, for example what is your LONG term goal? Now break that longterm goal down into pieces for example if you are going to work on getting a website. Look into domains that day and figure out the overall image and color scheme you want to go for. Make EVERY day count positively in some way shape or form for your work day and you will start to see things build up for you. Your customers will also like your consistency later on.

    Write down everything that you learn in certain sections of your notebook, write down clip ideas and scripts. In your stage you want to spend as little money as possible so if you don't want to do a tumblr blog and you want to do a actual blog website with a domain name and can afford the cheap hosting and domain name go for it. But learn to design your own graphics etc to save yourself time and money.

    Would I even attempt a domination session real time in your case? Honestly no. You aren't in a position to travel, and you also can't afford to do so unless you are going to charge deposits etc for these appointments that will cover you round trip if they decide to not show up. I would focus on building my brand up online first, once you get a few loyal customers you will be able to upgrade and pay off your debts, buy new shiny equipment to film clips on, and let your creativity explode. The important part is invest as minimum as you can financially and up your budget as you begin to see returns.

    Pricing depends on what type of image you are going for as well. But typically for a 30 minute session online with a newbie depending on what it would entail I would charge about 30-50 bucks and if they dislike it they can keep it moving. I will NOT however barter with a customer on prices.

    Also, you need to stop telling your customers that you are new if you are. Why? Because they can use it against you. Read up on your fetishes you enjoy and want to participate in, exude confidence and fake it til you make it (Within moderation). Eventually you won't be faking your image or confidence, make it work to you but also make it true to who you'd want your character to be and believable.

    On NF it's good to have characters, but you got to offer more than just phone lines. Sometimes I won't get a single call, but you know what sells almost every single day? A goodie bag, make every moment count. Engage your customers even the ones that just click, send them content etc to make them curious enough to buy it even if they never buy anything again. You got to make yourself break even and turn a small sale into a big one by upselling.

    Who cares about fancy gear and competition? Acknowledge your competition but don't let their fancy gear scare you. Everyone has something about them that can be sexy, you can buy costumes etc later when you have the money to do so. Work with what you have and make it work until you've made your money and then some, then expand.

    You don't have to wear a corset, latex and boots to be a dominatrix. You just have to be dominant and be able to sell a fantasy no matter what you wear.

    Granted I'm not that much older than you, but when I was your age I had huge potential and I got a bit distracted/didn't know what I knew now and now I'm semi starting over but I know what I want to achieve is possible if you have the discipline. Don't forget to give yourself self love and self care days, they will boost your confidence and also help you relax from all the stress and hard work. Building a brand that makes you money in your sleep never came over night.

    Don't even list your services, type your ad like a girl that is interested in kink and get to know your hits. When they try to get closer to you etc, put your hard limits down and also be straight forward about your wishing for compensation for your time.

    On your website listing your services is acceptable however.

    Treat it like a business.

    If you wanna chat or have anymore questions feel free to PM me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Goldenx.Chiquis View Post
    (Before hand let me say I'm sorry if this has been asked before) But I don't come on often, but every now and then to freshen up for some tips and insight when I'm not doing trial and error by myself.

    Background on SW History:

    So I was just wondering since I did all my research I could do on my end I wanted to ask you lovely ladies about Domination. I'm 19 and I'm declaring myself as a black sensual Domme. I've been doing sex work on and off since I turned 18 and I've done just about everything in the book. I've been doing kink since February and am learning something new every damn day and will never say I know everything, or kink as there's depth and complexity with each kink along with relationship dynamics within BDSM. So I've been mainly doing online sex work PSO on Niteflirt my black Domme line gets bullshitters and wasn't moving so I became a white girl and I get money with no hassle and with ease. I tried camming I just will not do it for the life of me I CANNOT (And I have a MacBook which sometimes seems not as compatible with cam sites, and I'm about to start filming fetish clips on KB/ IWC/ and C4S, I also have a part time civvie job, and go to College full-time.

    Question and possible solutions:

    So my dilemma is that I live in West Indiana (Chicago is like 3 hours from where I live) and there is literally no kink scene in my city, not even underground I've checked on FetLife, and CollarSpace is a burning trash Bin for WoC. The only kink community thats active is like a 2 hour drive down to Indy. And all the information to find "Dommes" "Pro-Dommes" or whatever are only these BDSM-Dating websites which reek FREELOADERS LOOKING FOR FREE PLAY WHICH I DON'T DO. Also the city I'm in BP dating section is like 6-12 girls on there, they're all escorts no Dommes what so ever so I'm guessing better luck for me? And the dating section for the whole state go up to like 3$ per Ad so relatively cheap. I strictly want to do Domination/Fetish only, not do like I'm an escort who also does fetish, no. So I'm not sure if I should stick to my city and try to find clients because I have a really old car and I can't risk going too far out of town in case a client cancels, or (insert worse case scenario.) So for any traffic BP, and craigslist would be my best bet, Eros has literally no one in Indiana, and thinking about Illinois or Ohio but I'd have to factor in other expenses, and competition. I don't have any fancy gear I have like one latex piece, a corset, and some heels and boots, and some outfits from when I was dancing, and some fishnets I can work with for now. I'm really hung up on equipment I have like a cheap BDSM starter kit that has a few useful items. And I'm kind of hung up on pricing for a newbie and my town setting. Because some say "Don't go to low, don't lower your 'value'" and others will say "It's too expensive for someone new with no background." I know I can do foot worship sessions and like spanking sessions that don't require the full ropes (lol) so until I build up I'll keep it simple. Some suggested going on a Domme member board site verses the escort based kind, and others say to go on websites like: Virgin Dickie and get a listing and link it to my website (I'm going to create sometime next month.) I'm just stuck on what route I should do, I really feel like a pioneer. And also when placing an ad wording is huge on how not to get flagged, so I guess I'll list my services on my website and give a brief description in the Ad. So in the end for someone in my situation what would be the best way to build myself and my brand up? Or have I answered my own questions? (I tend to second guess myself a lot as well from past relationship trauma so bare with me)
    P.S. I've been verified on VerifyHim so screening will be no problem.

    I have a $600 credit card to pay off and my civvie job does not pay me enough even if I busted my ass for 60 hours a week, and I have like 4 going on 8 characters on Niteflirt which I revamped so they're new and I'm on everyday when I'm not at school, and currently building them up now so when the summer comes and it get's slow I'll have some steady income along with my clips and hopefully I'll be able to quit my shitty fast food job. I wanted to ask specifically because no matter what anyone says race plays a huge part in SW, but I appreciate all and any advice would be awesome, thank you for taking the time to read it. I hope I'm not all over I just wanted to be thorough.


    And if we have any lovely Black Dommes I'd love to connect with y'all.
    I replied to your PM not sure if it went through this site seems to act wonky for me sometimes. Let me know.

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