(Before hand let me say I'm sorry if this has been asked before) But I don't come on often, but every now and then to freshen up for some tips and insight when I'm not doing trial and error by myself.
Background on SW History:
So I was just wondering since I did all my research I could do on my end I wanted to ask you lovely ladies about Domination. I'm 19 and I'm declaring myself as a black sensual Domme. I've been doing sex work on and off since I turned 18 and I've done just about everything in the book. I've been doing kink since February and am learning something new every damn day and will never say I know everything, or kink as there's depth and complexity with each kink along with relationship dynamics within BDSM. So I've been mainly doing online sex work PSO on Niteflirt my black Domme line gets bullshitters and wasn't moving so I became a white girl and I get money with no hassle and with ease. I tried camming I just will not do it for the life of me I CANNOT (And I have a MacBook which sometimes seems not as compatible with cam sites, and I'm about to start filming fetish clips on KB/ IWC/ and C4S, I also have a part time civvie job, and go to College full-time.
Question and possible solutions:
So my dilemma is that I live in West Indiana (Chicago is like 3 hours from where I live) and there is literally no kink scene in my city, not even underground I've checked on FetLife, and CollarSpace is a burning trash Bin for WoC. The only kink community thats active is like a 2 hour drive down to Indy. And all the information to find "Dommes" "Pro-Dommes" or whatever are only these BDSM-Dating websites which reek FREELOADERS LOOKING FOR FREE PLAY WHICH I DON'T DO. Also the city I'm in BP dating section is like 6-12 girls on there, they're all escorts no Dommes what so ever so I'm guessing better luck for me? And the dating section for the whole state go up to like 3$ per Ad so relatively cheap. I strictly want to do Domination/Fetish only, not do like I'm an escort who also does fetish, no. So I'm not sure if I should stick to my city and try to find clients because I have a really old car and I can't risk going too far out of town in case a client cancels, or (insert worse case scenario.) So for any traffic BP, and craigslist would be my best bet, Eros has literally no one in Indiana, and thinking about Illinois or Ohio but I'd have to factor in other expenses, and competition. I don't have any fancy gear I have like one latex piece, a corset, and some heels and boots, and some outfits from when I was dancing, and some fishnets I can work with for now. I'm really hung up on equipment I have like a cheap BDSM starter kit that has a few useful items. And I'm kind of hung up on pricing for a newbie and my town setting. Because some say "Don't go to low, don't lower your 'value'" and others will say "It's too expensive for someone new with no background." I know I can do foot worship sessions and like spanking sessions that don't require the full ropes (lol) so until I build up I'll keep it simple. Some suggested going on a Domme member board site verses the escort based kind, and others say to go on websites like: Virgin Dickie and get a listing and link it to my website (I'm going to create sometime next month.) I'm just stuck on what route I should do, I really feel like a pioneer. And also when placing an ad wording is huge on how not to get flagged, so I guess I'll list my services on my website and give a brief description in the Ad. So in the end for someone in my situation what would be the best way to build myself and my brand up? Or have I answered my own questions? (I tend to second guess myself a lot as well from past relationship trauma so bare with me)
P.S. I've been verified on VerifyHim so screening will be no problem.
I have a $600 credit card to pay off and my civvie job does not pay me enough even if I busted my ass for 60 hours a week, and I have like 4 going on 8 characters on Niteflirt which I revamped so they're new and I'm on everyday when I'm not at school, and currently building them up now so when the summer comes and it get's slow I'll have some steady income along with my clips and hopefully I'll be able to quit my shitty fast food job. I wanted to ask specifically because no matter what anyone says race plays a huge part in SW, but I appreciate all and any advice would be awesome, thank you for taking the time to read it. I hope I'm not all over I just wanted to be thorough.
And if we have any lovely Black Dommes I'd love to connect with y'all.





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