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    Hello!

    I found myself in the situation to have to give an explanation to my 6 years old as to what I am doing when working at night, at the computer. He is asking why I am wearing makeup that is different from the one I am usually wearing, why am I wearing sexy outfits (somehow he always catches me when I am sneaking to the bathroom, because he is a little night owl apparently), and lots of other questions that scare the freaking hell out of me. My creativity in answers started to drain and I need some real good lie. My hubby thinks is funny and that I shouldn't make an issue out of it, but I am really stressed about this situation.

    What are you all telling your (way too curious) children about your camming job?

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    Default Re: What are you telling your children

    How about you are a chat room host, for something completely innocent? And you have to wear "more" make up because it's like how they do on TV and films, so that you don't look ill or shiny on camera?

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    Default Re: What are you telling your children

    Make up the same story you would for someone that's an adult. Because a 6 year old is liable to tell someone else. "what does mommy do for a living". As far as more makeup. Your husband prefers that sometimes. Also just as in adult world tell them as little as possible and don't look freaked out when they ask.

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    Everyone has given great advice! I'd also like to add that I've always told my teenager that I help people with their websites and sometimes I have to do video conference calls with my customers so I like to look presentable and professional on camera. That explains just about everything away...just try not to get caught walking around in lingerie or anything similar. I always had a dress or regular clothes to slip on anytime I'd have to leave the room.

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    All I've said is "I have to work in my chatroom." No one needs to know anything more than that. The adults are the ones more likely to follow up with more questions, such as "What kind of chatroom?" and "How do you get into finding a job like that?" LOL.
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    Well you are playing dress up, you want to try out new looks before you wear them in the day time.

    I get you don't want to lie but still age appropriate things he can understand that make sense.
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    Default Re: What are you telling your children

    cocktail waitress or a caterer (food service) I used to work food service so that job flies with me. I even have the typical white shirt bow tie black pants apron, leave the house in it or come home later at night wearing it.

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    Put a robe on when you go to the restroom. You can and should lie to him now but he is going to remember this when he is older and figure it out.

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    Why do you owe a child any explanation? Who is the adult here? Who is the person in charge?
    Boundaries as in somethings are none of your child's business.

    Why is he awake? and spying on you? You are an adult who can wear make up & sexy outfits anytime you like & don't owe anyone an explanation for it. You also could throw on a robe before leaving the bedroom.

    Placed a fan, nightime music or left the tv on in his room for noise. My friends all did that with their kids so they could live life without worrying about having to be quiet so the kids could nap or sleep at night when they were working night time hours.

    Instead of a robe, You could also wear sexy outfits or go naked more around the house. Know plenty of people NOT in the sex industry who think nudity is nothing. Kids growing up without shame about their bodies & covering up all the time helps promote being ashamed of your body.

    All of their kids grew up and are now successful doctors, lawyers & such. Despite having strippers and both the Mom & Dad being one or porn stars.

    My nephews & god children has questions. I simply told them NONE of their business tell they were 18 years of age. Until then what I do for a living was NONE of their business. It was a discussion their parents had & agreed upon when the kids were born. Thus no issues or problems ever arose.

    Didn't you growing up ever hear your parents tell you "None of your business." I sure did. My parents established boundaries & didn't answer to kids.

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    Yes , I didn't add a contribution to this thread even though I raised kids in the camming industry for 15 yrs.. From day 1 and even before camming I always walked around either naked or bra and panties.. now they are in their 20's they don't seem to ever care or have a problem with it.. they are tired of seeing me naked (saying things like put some clothes on haha) and they are adults now so I try to put some clothes on if it's convenient.. but when in work mode.. it's my tank top and panties when I leave the room.. They NEVER had a problem with it or asked anything... And when they were young they asked me what do I tell my friends what you do for a living? I said tell them Mommy works on the computer.. that's it!.. I NEVER told my kids what I did .. they just found out organically... The fact that they were raised to think doing CAmming was NORMAL.. it never was an issue.. They don't even watch porn til this day.. ( at least I don't think so ) I am all up in their business so I doubt it.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Why do you owe a child any explanation? Who is the adult here? Who is the person in charge?
    Boundaries as in somethings are none of your child's business.

    Why is he awake? and spying on you? You are an adult who can wear make up & sexy outfits anytime you like & don't owe anyone an explanation for it. You also could throw on a robe before leaving the bedroom.

    Placed a fan, nightime music or left the tv on in his room for noise. My friends all did that with their kids so they could live life without worrying about having to be quiet so the kids could nap or sleep at night when they were working night time hours.

    Instead of a robe, You could also wear sexy outfits or go naked more around the house. Know plenty of people NOT in the sex industry who think nudity is nothing. Kids growing up without shame about their bodies & covering up all the time helps promote being ashamed of your body.

    All of their kids grew up and are now successful doctors, lawyers & such. Despite having strippers and both the Mom & Dad being one or porn stars.

    My nephews & god children has questions. I simply told them NONE of their business tell they were 18 years of age. Until then what I do for a living was NONE of their business. It was a discussion their parents had & agreed upon when the kids were born. Thus no issues or problems ever arose.

    Didn't you growing up ever hear your parents tell you "None of your business." I sure did. My parents established boundaries & didn't answer to kids.

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    Yep my parents always said None of your business.. .. even in financial matters.. hush hush.. never knew how much money my parents made because they never discussed it.. They taught me how to be financial savvy and a good steward of money.. but never discussed their personal finances.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Why do you owe a child any explanation? Who is the adult here? Who is the person in charge?
    Boundaries as in somethings are none of your child's business.

    Why is he awake? and spying on you? You are an adult who can wear make up & sexy outfits anytime you like & don't owe anyone an explanation for it. You also could throw on a robe before leaving the bedroom.

    Placed a fan, nightime music or left the tv on in his room for noise. My friends all did that with their kids so they could live life without worrying about having to be quiet so the kids could nap or sleep at night when they were working night time hours.

    Instead of a robe, You could also wear sexy outfits or go naked more around the house. Know plenty of people NOT in the sex industry who think nudity is nothing. Kids growing up without shame about their bodies & covering up all the time helps promote being ashamed of your body.

    All of their kids grew up and are now successful doctors, lawyers & such. Despite having strippers and both the Mom & Dad being one or porn stars.

    My nephews & god children has questions. I simply told them NONE of their business tell they were 18 years of age. Until then what I do for a living was NONE of their business. It was a discussion their parents had & agreed upon when the kids were born. Thus no issues or problems ever arose.

    Didn't you growing up ever hear your parents tell you "None of your business." I sure did. My parents established boundaries & didn't answer to kids.

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    Default Re: What are you telling your children

    Tell him what others suggested.

    You like to play dress up and since mommy is an adult she dresses sexy for her husband from time to time. Or if youre not married then tell him you are auditioning for theatre, trying on costumes for halloween, or something along those lines.

    Also you could wear like suggested above, a robe or coverup if you have to come out into a shared space of your house and don't want to have to explain anything if the kid happens to be awake and see you.

    And fyi - make sure the kid gets LOTS of exercise in the afternoon, and even a bowl of oatmeal before bed - and they will sleep all night.

    Eventually the "none of your business" line will not fly because when the kid gets to school one thing they do is have career days or compare careers, like yeah my dad/mom is a doctor, teacher, police officer, real estate agent, etc. And when their peers ask them about their parents and be like "oh I dont know what my mom does because she said its none of my business" ..... will only make them more curious or maybe resentful like youre hiding something from them but demand them to be honest with you.

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    Just like an adult, no explanation is owed. If you must, I would say online personality. You market, sell and have to look presentable so your clients are more inclined to buy the products you are selling and leave it at that. You definitely shouldn't lie, just sugar coat it.

    But me personally, I don't hop on cam until I know my son is asleep and I have strict rules that I enforce about staying in bed once it is bedtime. It's important to be stern, but also caring about their feelings. I don't want to be the parent police here so that's all I'm gonna say on that. Also, I usually leave on the tv for my son. I know a lot of people are against that, but it's his safety blanket and honestly, whatever keeps him the fuck asleep lol. Dunno if something like that will help, but I'd consider a nightlight with a radio. That's what I had as a little girl and I LOVED it. Made me feel safe and I remember liking the feeling of knowing there were other people alive out there in the world. I was a weirdo.

    My only thing about saying none of your business is that I do want my child to build a sense of trust with me. I don't want them to feel like they can't tell me something simply because I'm setting the same example by telling them it's not their business what I do for work. Cause as they get older, it becomes more trivial. Like why won't she tell me? It's not that big of a deal. Just as they get older and more curious, introduce the concept slowly. Depending on your own child's maturity would tell you when it's safe to tell them what you actually do.

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