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    I met a really rich man via a mutual friend. I have never had a sugar daddy and never persued one. I am now single and can do whatever my little heart desires.

    Our first conversation flowed, very easy to talk to. I told him I would be avail on sunday or monday to get together.

    Since that night, he has asked me to meet him for dinner several times though we already made plans. Ofc i am not avail, i am working and i already made that known. This is annoying to say the least. He then called me several times in a row on Friday like a needy bf when his girl goes out with her friends. A bit much would you agree? I was doing camshows and could not answer, and he ultimately text me "you must have lost intrest" i didn't i was just busy. I keep odd late hours and he has a habit of calling during work hours or when i am sleeping. Due to this i look like i am ignoring him, but on these occasions have explained that i am working, etc. Still a bit much but he definitely wants to get togethet.

    He could be testing me, seeing if I will cave and meet him at his whim (nope), seeing how readily available i am...

    I have dropped subtle hints but I have not flat out told him i am seeking a monthly arrangement. I believe if i did, he will either run or realize. I thought just letting things develop naturally would be the best route, but I don't have time for that shit. I am not trying to go on upteen dates with him with no ultimate reward. Dates are nice but I have plenty of those. I don't date dudes just based on their bank account but i have put a lot of thought into a sugar daddy and/or focusing on dating established men only. Should i make my true intentions known? How do I go about this without it becoming awkward? He has dropped subtle hints about me being his princess so he has to have a slight idea lol. Any advice appreciated. I overthink everything.

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    If you don't mind answers from the blue side, it is ok to be polite and direct. People with money don't have time to waste. People who want an SB will want to get the details out of the way. If he is thinking "I'm rich so I get it for free" then you don't waste any more of your time.

    It is ok to tell him you're an SB and ask him if he's ever had one. If he has, he'll tell you what the arrangement was. If he hasn't, tell him what you're looking for and ask him for his thoughts. No real SD would object to that conversation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    I met a really rich man via a mutual friend. I have never had a sugar daddy and never persued one. I am now single and can do whatever my little heart desires.

    I was doing camshows and could not answer, and he ultimately text me "you must have lost intrest" i didn't i was just busy. I keep odd late hours and he has a habit of calling during work hours or when i am sleeping. Due to this i look like i am ignoring him, but on these occasions have explained that i am working, etc. Still a bit much but he definitely wants to get togethet.

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    PSYCHO ALERT! PSYCHO ALERT! PSYCHO ALERT! This is bum motherfucker.... and I would block his sorry ass INSTANTLY! It sounds like he is stringing you along.... trying to get your hopes up. Oh he wants you be his "princess"? Well this dumb clown better start acting more princely! Any decent SD that was hell bent on seeing you would ask you how much you make a night, once he got a number he would reimbursed you for any lost wages that night so he could get you out to dinner with him. If he REALLY wanted you to come out and was the REAL DEAL.... he knew what to do makes his chances greater. Nope, he texts you some psycho shit " you lost interest" after you told him you were woking.... what a freakazoid.... If if this was a regular guy who was trying to go out with you.... I'd tell you to to RUN not walk away from this nutter!

    He sounds like a gigantic headache at best..... I do not foresee good things. He is not worth your time. He sounds like a Splenda daddy. I would think anything about this guy expect blocking him. Bothering you while you were working?!?!?! W.T.F!!!

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    ^These were my thoughts exactly. The neediness and we haven't even met for a date...but i am inexperienced as well with SD's. At the very least heis insecure and needy (easy prey but high maibtenance/a lot of emotional labor) or he is testing. Either way he is playing games. I did test the waters and tell him i had a slow night at work, he offered to take me to dinner and a show but nothanks. A slow night isn't made better by making less money if i log off lmao. Like i said i have been suvtle and need to be more direct. I have had non SD's kick me down if i have a bad night, just because they didn't want me to worry....so his acting completely aloof is not sitting well (coupled with the neeiess) is yawn inducing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMoore View Post
    He is not worth your time. He sounds like a Splenda daddy.
    You made me laugh so hard with this comment. Too fucking funny.

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    I have experience with sugar daddy arrangements and even in my real life dating, I only date and have relationships with men who generous with me and gainfully employed.... These types of men are typically very well mannered, classy, and wouldn't dream of blowing your phone up like that. All the men I've dealt with don't have time to act like that and would be mortified to act like that. Sure, there are psychos out there but most men who are making money don't have time to act like an upset 16 year old girl. I'm thinking maybe he is an athlete that has a lot of time because he is in off season? Or maybe won the lottery... but I just can't get over a grown ass man acting like that. So not worth the money.

    This man isn't looking for a "princess"... IMO it sounds like he looking for a victim. Imagine how much more embolden he will be to constantly call and text you once you have an allowance. I would bet my ass that he would show up to your house demanding his money or shit back like a loon. I can also see this guy becoming very aggressive for sex.... will tell you that how SD arrangements work. Let me get this out of the way, any REAL SD with REAL money would call up an escort. Real SD's typically enjoy the company of an attractive woman because of her appearance and conversation, they have money to drop just for that. They aren't overly concerned about banging..... as I said they can just call up an escort service. They want a beautiful woman who makes them look good and can provide more than just a good time in bed. Now, if you like the guy and want to have sex because you want to and not out of obligation.... knock yourself out... but under no circumstance is this a swap for sex. Having a SD or dating in general should be fun and beneficial for both parties... this doesn't sound fun at all.

    Yeah... this clown can GTFOH.... he hears you have a shitty earning night and is still bugging you to go out!?!?! He should have offered dinner, the show, and to reimburse you lost wages for the night if he really wanted to go out. He wants you to sacrifice your financial well being and not even compensate you for your time... how insulting!!! I wouldn't even want him to buy me dinner. Those actions are showing you he doesn't think very highly of you. nope, Nope, NOPE!!! Any body who wants my time will show me with their actions they think highly of me... if not... I have plenty of other options.... just like you do. You cam, you make your own money, any guy who wants you better come correct.
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    That sounds excessive with the phone calls. Anyone who blows up your phone when you have told them when you are free and when you are working, is very disrespectful of boundaries. Next thing you know he'll start showing up at your home, unannounced. It sounds to me that this man wants a woman with no life and can just drop everything for him whenever he wants. If you've not discussed a Sd/sb relationship from the get go, he might not even be on the same page. Him saying that he wants a "princess" doesn't automatically indicate that he means a sugar baby. Personally I'd not waste time on him due to his obvious lack of respect for boundaries(blowing up someone's phone is never cool). I guess if you still wanted to try the Sd/sb angle with him, tell him that in order to take time off from your job to go on a date with him, you will be losing money. Ask him if he'd be willing to compensate you for the lost wages. My guess is that he will disappear once you mention that. He doesn't sound like good potential SD material.

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    Have had my fair share of real SDs and this reply is SPOT ON. RUN.
    Quote Originally Posted by MissMoore View Post
    I have experience with sugar daddy arrangements and even in my real life dating, I only date and have relationships with men who generous with me and gainfully employed.... These types of men are typically very well mannered, classy, and wouldn't dream of blowing your phone up like that. All the men I've dealt with don't have time to act like that and would be mortified to act like that. Sure, there are psychos out there but most men who are making money don't have time to act like an upset 16 year old girl. I'm thinking maybe he is an athlete that has a lot of time because he is in off season? Or maybe won the lottery... but I just can't get over a grown ass man acting like that. So not worth the money.

    This man isn't looking for a "princess"... IMO it sounds like he looking for a victim. Imagine how much more embolden he will be to constantly call and text you once you have an allowance. I would bet my ass that he would show up to your house demanding his money or shit back like a loon. I can also see this guy becoming very aggressive for sex.... will tell you that how SD arrangements work. Let me get this out of the way, any REAL SD with REAL money would call up an escort. Real SD's typically enjoy the company of an attractive woman because of her appearance and conversation, they have money to drop just for that. They aren't overly concerned about banging..... as I said they can just call up an escort service. They want a beautiful woman who makes them look good and can provide more than just a good time in bed. Now, if you like the guy and want to have sex because you want to and not out of obligation.... knock yourself out... but under no circumstance is this a swap for sex. Having a SD or dating in general should be fun and beneficial for both parties... this doesn't sound fun at all.

    Yeah... this clown can GTFOH.... he hears you have a shitty earning night and is still bugging you to go out!?!?! He should have offered dinner, the show, and to reimburse you lost wages for the night if he really wanted to go out. He wants you to sacrifice your financial well being and not even compensate you for your time... how insulting!!! I wouldn't even want him to buy me dinner. Those actions are showing you he doesn't think very highly of you. nope, Nope, NOPE!!! Any body who wants my time will show me with their actions they think highly of me... if not... I have plenty of other options.... just like you do. You cam, you make your own money, any guy who wants you better come correct.
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