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    Tired What would you do in this situation? Regular gets serious and attached...

    I've heard about this happening and have been very careful, I do mainly PSO on the side in addition to my vanilla job. A regular who spends a lot, so much that I only really talk to him, wants to now buy me a computer. I'm like cool, only thing is, he wants to see me on cam...and I've been using a character this whole time.

    Any Advice? I kind of really feel bad for him, I'm not ugly but I don't look like the same person...and the geographical location is not what he thought either.

    What would you do?

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    Default Re: What would you do in this situation? Regular gets serious and attached...

    I tell them no when they try to push me beyond my boundaries. Not sure if this is the case but from what you wrote it sounds as if he's using that computer as some sort of leverage to break down your barriers. So if you aren't comfortable with getting on cam then I say don't do it. They always try to push and push until you give in. I've had lots of guys that I connect with, but I've learned how to put up a barrier before they mentally drain all of my energy. This happens with most long term scenarios where they start to get attached and start thinking too much. Or they see an opportunity to manipulate you because they sense that you're being overly empathetic. If you do go for it, don't get on cam until that computer is safely in your house. Let that first camshow be on that shiny new computer.

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    Default Re: What would you do in this situation? Regular gets serious and attached...

    Quote Originally Posted by Amy Lee View Post
    I've heard about this happening and have been very careful, I do mainly PSO on the side in addition to my vanilla job. A regular who spends a lot, so much that I only really talk to him, wants to now buy me a computer. I'm like cool, only thing is, he wants to see me on cam...and I've been using a character this whole time.

    Any Advice? I kind of really feel bad for him, I'm not ugly but I don't look like the same person...and the geographical location is not what he thought either.

    What would you do?
    You just gotta say No and be firm. Tell him you enjoy talking to him, but you don't like to do cam shows. You could make up a story about being put on a Tube site or something. He's going to try to talk to into it and try to manipulate you, but at the end of the day you know it's not going to happen.

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    what is PSO??? sorry i saw it many times and with no explanation what it is

    every situation is different amd every guy is different so based on just this is hard to advice what to do also what kind of computer how much money are we talking about is it $450 computer or $2500 machine he wants to get you ?

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    Pso means "Phone Sex Operator"


    Quote Originally Posted by Dorothea View Post
    what is PSO??? sorry i saw it many times and with no explanation what it is

    every situation is different amd every guy is different so based on just this is hard to advice what to do also what kind of computer how much money are we talking about is it $450 computer or $2500 machine he wants to get you ?
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    thanks Dona! well it depends on how much the computer is in $$$ and how far you really think you are from your character you might want to try to give him something - he wants to see what you look like send him a photo and tell him you will go on cam on new computer
    If he was cheap I would say no but you say he spends a lot.

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    My advice is to keep making money off him until he becomes too much trouble. He is just a phone sex client and many of them try to push buttons after a while. Many forget their places with their psos. So, it is up to you to let him know that you just do not feel comfortable with that. Or you can charge him 100 dollars per hour to watch only him on cam? Usually, that will stop him in his tracks and will not mention that again. I had many of these types of clients over the past 14 years. Do not feel bad because he knows how this game is played. See, if you start giving him leverage over you then he will keep pushing you pass just phone sex. He will start demanding to see you on cam. Then he will demand to meet you in person....it is really all just so typical of this type of clientele. Break him from this habit or he will try to run you. Remember there are other pso whales out there as well.


    Quote Originally Posted by Amy Lee View Post
    I've heard about this happening and have been very careful, I do mainly PSO on the side in addition to my vanilla job. A regular who spends a lot, so much that I only really talk to him, wants to now buy me a computer. I'm like cool, only thing is, he wants to see me on cam...and I've been using a character this whole time.

    Any Advice? I kind of really feel bad for him, I'm not ugly but I don't look like the same person...and the geographical location is not what he thought either.

    What would you do?
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    I want a MacBook Pro, and won't take anything less... but the thing is I do feel like I'm being a little pushed, he's already asked for my personal phone number and I said "NO." I make money from him calling me through the site and he knows that already, but he's all like "I'm taking vacation in your city soon and would love to see you babe." I already told him I'm married and that will not be possible. I guess as I write this it's coming to me, he needs to give me that computer and then I gotta drop him...unfortunately.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DonaDiabla View Post
    My advice is to keep making money off him until he becomes too much trouble. He is just a phone sex client and many of them try to push buttons after a while. Many forget their places with their psos. So, it is up to you to let him know that you just do not feel comfortable with that. Or you can charge him 100 dollars per hour to watch only him on cam? Usually, that will stop him in his tracks and will not mention that again. I had many of these types of clients over the past 14 years. Do not feel bad because he knows how this game is played. See, if you start giving him leverage over you then he will keep pushing you pass just phone sex. He will start demanding to see you on cam. Then he will demand to meet you in person....it is really all just so typical of this type of clientele. Break him from this habit or he will try to run you. Remember there are other pso whales out there as well.

    Absolutely! I will break him of this ASAP. He needs to learn. He should be happy I have a moral compass and don't make him buy me a Mac and disappear on him!! If he doesn't stop, I may consider it...

    Thank you ladies.

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    If he buys you a mac amd u get it reward him with showing up on cam if that is what you promised. Business. And he will expire on his own anyway.
    hete are some stages I observed in them :
    stage 1 : you are the most beautiful the best tokens roll
    stage 2 : he wants to talk email wgatever tokens roll
    stage 3 : he wants to meet tokens roll or extra something offered
    stage 4: he wants to fuck fuck fuck ( at this point more tokens roll or tokens stop rolling)
    stage 5: you are no longer perfect he wouldlike things differently ( what exactly he does not know) but tokens are less
    stage 6: you are bitch cunt whatever no more tokens coming
    stage 7 : he leaves site or changes his name moves on to another model or does whatever but you never hear from him

    your guy is at stage 3 I think get computer but do not lie to him and promise to see him on cam when you do not plan to he should get a reward for the macbook

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    Default Re: What would you do in this situation? Regular gets serious and attached...

    From my original post:

    "he wants to see me on cam...and I've been using a character this whole time."

    Therefore I am not who he thinks I am. It's a fantasy that he's been taking serious.

    I've thought about it and I believe in getting what you give out. I'm not taking anyone's money for not providing a service. If he wants to spoil me and I rock his world in fantasy then we will continue. If not, then I move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amy Lee View Post
    From my original post:

    "he wants to see me on cam...and I've been using a character this whole time."

    Therefore I am not who he thinks I am. It's a fantasy that he's been taking serious.
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    lol! so are camgirls! he really thinks this sexy sex sex chat creature is same in real life is his problem he thinks u and youtpr persona same! all am saying is - if u offer for him to see you on cam in return for macbook then deliver - he is going to expire anyway he is about to and I dont think he will be able to continue this much longer anyway but this way you both get something dont worry you and your cam persona are not the same
    that is my take on it

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    they all take the fantasy too serious lol

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    I mean some of them are so stupid that I laugh all the way to the bank. Others are nice as in is good to give back and be nice and I think if a guy buys you an expensive computer is important to give him a treat.
    Good luck with whatever you chose to do!

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    Really depends on the situation, on the guy and on you. We are not the same sensitive. Last year I had a guy who was in love with me, however he never expected to meet or anything. Just visited me several days in a week, aint really asked for anything. I dont know, but for me it was unbearable after a time, I dont like customers get too close. Now, the same situation would be like "nothing" for another model.

    So idk, usually i tell them, I dont offer more, than online company. No matter what.If he pay well, and okay to buy you something on a way what is not risky, I would let them do. I mean, I would be just curious what ll happen. Is he really just want to give you something, or he try to use something to push u. So I would just watch what ll happen, but always keep ur guard up, and be ready, that people who u think are nice, ll turn into pure assholes at some point.

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    Don't do it. He's going to hold that laptop over your head even if you do what you promised and you go on cam with him. Men are Like That. The fact that he's trying to buy you something that you haven't asked him for in order to fill one of his own needs (jerking it to u on cam) is a huge red flag to me. He doesn't respect your boundaries, and if you give him an inch I can see him taking the whole damn mile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dorothea View Post
    lol! so are camgirls! he really thinks this sexy sex sex chat creature is same in real life is his problem he thinks u and youtpr persona same! all am saying is - if u offer for him to see you on cam in return for macbook then deliver - he is going to expire anyway he is about to and I dont think he will be able to continue this much longer anyway but this way you both get something dont worry you and your cam persona are not the same
    that is my take on it
    The problem isn't that she plays a persona like a cam model, it's that the pictures for that phone sex account are of a completely different person (which is very common and permitted). If she goes on cam, he'll see that the voice on the phone line doesn't belong to the person in the pics. The risk with that is that she may have spent a lot of time and effort getting good reviews and placement for that account, but this guy could ruin it by posting reviews saying that he's seen her and the pics are fake. At that point, she might have to give up on the account.

    I'd say to stick with your boundaries. If he still chooses to give you a computer, although you haven't promised him anything in return, that's on him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Amy Lee View Post
    I want a MacBook Pro, and won't take anything less... but the thing is I do feel like I'm being a little pushed, he's already asked for my personal phone number and I said "NO." I make money from him calling me through the site and he knows that already, but he's all like "I'm taking vacation in your city soon and would love to see you babe." I already told him I'm married and that will not be possible. I guess as I write this it's coming to me, he needs to give me that computer and then I gotta drop him...unfortunately.
    He's a total asshole. He does not care that giving out your personal phone number can get you banned from the site, permanently, completely losing your source of income. All he cares about is his dick.

    Since he has been told you are married that gives you a great way to avoid cam - just tell him your husband is not comfortable with the idea and neither are you. What a desperate creep he is, damn! I do hope you get the computer though - payment for putting up with his sorry ass. He will probably still send it and think that will convince you even though you clearly said no.


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    Request (or get him to spend) $2.5K so you can buy your own computer.

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