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    Hi!
    I've been lurking here for a while just trying to absorb all the information I can. This forum is a great resource for people considering stripping.

    Stripping has been on my mind for about a year now, and I think it's something I would really enjoy (I have years of ballet, tap, jazz, hip hop and GoGo experience) and the flexibility would suit my lifestyle. However, I'm kind of scared to take the plunge for some pretty serious reasons.

    1) I'm currently in school and intend to go to law school after I finish my BS. I want to be an attorney for a corporate firm or private practice. I'm worried that the background check for the State Bar will turn me down if I strip. I know from reading here that it's unlikely that they would find anything unless they required me to fill out a IRS form, but being that the legal profession is heavily regulated and do have "unprofessional conduct" rules, which I assume sex work would fall under, that makes me nervous.

    2) I'm currently in a custody battle with my ex, and the judge assigned to my case has a reputation for siding with the father. I'm worried that this judge might be a mysoginist and will give my ex custody based on being a stripper.

    3) Speaking of my ex, he's a wanna-be gangster who used to go to clubs in our area when we were dating specifically to sell the dancers drugs. He also told me a while back after we broke up (not sure how true this is) that he was pimping strippers from clubs. If he's still up to this BS, it's likely that I would run into him at the club, given that there's only 5 clubs in my state.

    4) My current boyfriend isn't super excited that I want to strip. He's dated dancers in the past, and said while the job itself didn't make him uncomfortable, he has never personally met a stripped who didn't do extras and definitely doesn't want me doing extras. I wouldn't, but I feel like it would always be on his mind.

    All this considered, I'm currently in a shit financial situation and need to make money quickly. I have a job as a waitress, but I'm not making as much as I need and management keeps screwing up my schedule.

    What would you do if you were me?

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    If I had money issues, I would be doing whatever it takes within my morals to get my money. Boyfriends come n go. Make a list of the positive things that dancing would do for u, cuz it looks like your only focusing on the negatives. Is the risk worth the reward to u?

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    Default Re: Pros and Cons of Dancing

    The ex who's trying to get custody of your kid is part of the strip club scene? It's only a matter of time until you run into him in the club, or you meet a mutual acquaintance who tells him you're stripping and he uses that against you in court.

    It sounds like you have a lot to lose from stripping and not a lot to gain. Honestly, waitresses and bartenders can out-earn strippers. I had nights where I brought home $40, and there were some clubs where I averaged just $150 a shift. Can you get better waitressing work? What about picking up extra waitressing shifts and go-go gigs or camming (still a risk of being outed but a much bigger pond, so to speak) so you won't run into your ex? How dire are your financial straits? If you're homeless or about to become homeless, I would say strip.

    If you do decide to strip, I recommend traveling to a club at least an hour or two away if you're able to. You might want to start this way anyway, so you can work a week in a club (without a risk of your ex showing up) and decide whether you like the job. Some clubs have housing just for traveling dancers (Michael's Mens Club in Lafayette, which is near me, is one example.)

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    Thank you. Your response definitely puts things in perspective. My boyfriend pays our mortgage so I'm not at risk of homelessness, but as Humblestarxo pointed out, boyfriends come and go. We're really solid in our relationship, but I know things can change drastically quickly given the right (or wrong, really) circumstances. I hate being financially dependent on anyone, and the utilities, groceries and of course my son's childcare and my personal bills are my responsibility. I think you're right in that I have a lot to lose... I think I will just try to pick up more waitressing shifts (and hopefully return to bartending soon, I'm relatively new at my restaurant but have been with the company for almost 3 years) and try to scrape by for now. Thank you for your input.

    I'll just have to live my fantasy stripper life vicariously through this forum and my dancer friends for now lol. Maybe take some pole classes when things settle down financially. ��

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    Oh, I forgot to mention that going to a club an hour or so away isn't really an option. The state I live in has a grand total of five clubs, four of which are in the city I live in now, and the other one is in my hometown, where my ex still lives. And the closest big cities out of state are 6+ hours away. Gotta love the Southwest, haha.

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    Your cons outweigh the pros so I would not do it. It's not worth losing your kid over.

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    This custody battle can't last forever, the pole will always be there, so to speak.

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    i went to law school and while i wasnt stripping back then, i can assure you that the bar cannot reject you for stripping. it is legal, after all. it doesnt matter what they think of you, they, too, have to follow the law. by law, you can only be found unfit if you have broken the law in the past. they might ask you to comment on it (but lets be real, theyre likely not going to find out) and if they do, just be confident and say that stripping is your job to put yourself through law school. there is nothing wrong with it. some people work at mcdonalds, some people work in retail, some people strip. who cares. please dont worry about it. if youve passed all the exams to qualify you to take the bar, you have already proven that you are smart and capable. stripping does not change that.

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    ^ institutions like the legal profession and universities that get public money are not allowed to discriminate against you for doing legal work. They would open themselves to a lawsuit. Actually the only retired strippers i know who are fully out as former strippers and don't even try to hide it are a lawyer, a criminology professor. You can keep it on the DL but the fact that you e fine this job does not have to determine your future.

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    In your particular case, there are quite a few things at play here that it might not be in your best interest to start right now. However, there are a few issues that I would like to give my opinion on because quite frankly people come on here all the time with the same questions and maybe someone will find this thread and NOT ask it for the 100th time.

    As far as the bar or a background check- most areas in the country do not require licenses for dancers; though there are a few that do. I would assume that if you applied for a license to dance there is a slight possibility that it may come up in some kind of public or background search, however I do not know of anyone who has ever had this happen or had any type of fall-out or problems in their life because of it. Stripping is not illegal and even if someone considers in "immoral" to have one use it against you for acceptance to the State bar would be grounds to sue and I'm sure the bar Association knows that.

    You said your ex- is a drug dealer. This is f**king illegal. If they were to try to slu shame you to the judge in an effort to take your kid away you would be well within your right to bring up his drug dealing. Again, stripping is not illegal.

    If you do not do drugs or work or perform extras and get caught, which can lead to your arrest there is not much to worry about for most people.
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    Ok my reply is gonna sound bitchy so I apologize in advance...

    For one, stop dating losers and low lifes!! Your current bf frankly has NO say in the matter if you decide to dance or not, he's a fucking boyfriend not a husband; he doesn't even get to have an opinion on it if he isn't going to personally fix your financial issues.
    Also, WHY ISNT he helping you fix or deal with the financial stress (more than splitting stupid rent) ???

    Seriously judging by the kind of mess you're already in it doesn't sound like you make good life decisions... sorry but its true, hopefully law school will change that. But based on your situation and probably not making the best decisions..it would only get worse with dancing. Your life can head down a very dark path when you dance if you aren't clear headed and have very very strong boundaries and a strong mind.

    I would get a sugar daddy or two to pay your tuition and fuck your stupid boyfriend and his opinions, because he's obviously broke. DO NOT HAVE A BABY WITH HIM! pls for the love of god...


    /rant , ok thats my 2 cents.

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    Just came back to this after a month.
    Gia2608, you're absolutely right if my ex tries to bring up anything slut shame-y or attacks my character I will damn sure bring up his dealing. Especially considering that I have proof that he has access to thousands of dollars cash, but no job.
    NYC.Bianca, haha thank for the warning about the bitchy post, ha. I'm the first one to admit that my life choices over the past 7 years have not been ideal. When I started dating my son's bio dad, I was neck deep in an addiction and party girl lifestyle. I'm thankful and happy that my lifestyle has changed drastically since then.
    I should have been more specific about how my current boyfriend (fiance, now. He proposed a couple weeks ago) feels about me stripping. It wouldn't be an ideal situation in his mind. He has trepidation about me stripping due to the fact that he's known and dated strippers before and has been cheated on and left for a sugar daddy. Like she straight up told him "I'm leaving you for my sugar daddy." He's an amazingly sweet and supportive person, and I consider myself lucky to be with him. Last time we discussed the possibility of me stripping he told me he doesn't want to stand in the way of my happiness and he'll love me no matter what, and suggested I do amateur night to see how I like it. And tbqh it's more me that's stopping him from helping with my financial issues. Pride is a hell of a drug, haha.

    Aside from all that, I'm in the middle of the hiring process right now for a bartender position at a casino nightclub. Hopefully this job will give me the financial boost I need at the moment.

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    Well good luck with the casino job. TBH you can make as much if not more money doing that than dancing in many places.

    I hope it works out for you. If for some reason, you circle back to dancing this forum is still here to help you out.
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    I agree with you completely. I was helped by the dancing to be self-confident. I begin to love myself and not be afraid to communicate with people. Yes, the dances changed me dramatically.

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