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    Over the past month and a half I've been able to save an additional $1600 working minimally part time on various side projects in the adult industry. I can see something great happening in the future and see potential to make a lot more if I could devote myself full time.
    My current situation - I'm working 40 to 50 hours a week on my feet long hours with an inconsiderate micro managing boss. I've been taking too many days off for mental health purposes. I'm bringing home $1300 per month (expensive premiums taken out of my check). It's just not worth it anymore.

    My initial plan was to save 3 months of living expenses (I live alone in an apartment) before quitting my vanilla job. I'm expecting to be able to reach at number by December at my current savings rate. However, I'm wondering if it's possible or worthwhile to leave now? I can sustain on my current savings for a couple of months (without bringing in any additional income). But considering I'll start making money the day I quit, is this as big of a concern?

    I would also like to go back to school. I have two years left to finish my bachelor's degree and my current job doesnt afford me the time to take classes (even part time). I see this as a great opportunity to be capable of doing so. Maybe take some online classes. I'm just stressing out and desperate about putting in notice at my current vanilla job.
    Any advice on saving, how much to save etc. Or advice on guaging my current earnings and knowing how much I could be capable of making full time? This industry fluctuates a lot as I've noticed and I'm terrified but excited about making the jump.

    Thanks so much for reading and any help would be appreciated. I've run over the numbers a million times and it looks good on paper, but the uncertainty and not having the safety net is what is causing me some worry.

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    Is there any oppotunity to reduce your vanilla hours to part time a week so that way you still have a set income albeit smaller and it will give you more time to focus on your adult career? If needs be ask your gp to write you a sick note for 3 months advisinv that part time is needed for health reasons.

    Is there any way that you can reduce the cost of the high premiums that are going out of your current pay packet? Also weigh up if you are getting benefit from being employed such as empoyer pension contributions that you wouldnt get if you were self employed.

    I know exactly how you are feeling as i am hoping at some point to go part time with my vanilla work and mainly focus on adult work and returning to college for a 3/4 month cpd course in the subject i am hugely passionate about then set up my own vanilla business from there.

    Good luck with what you decide to do.
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    Quote Originally Posted by malika29 View Post
    Is there any oppotunity to reduce your vanilla hours to part time a week so that way you still have a set income albeit smaller and it will give you more time to focus on your adult career? If needs be ask your gp to write you a sick note for 3 months advisinv that part time is needed for health reasons.

    Is there any way that you can reduce the cost of the high premiums that are going out of your current pay packet? Also weigh up if you are getting benefit from being employed such as empoyer pension contributions that you wouldnt get if you were self employed.

    I know exactly how you are feeling as i am hoping at some point to go part time with my vanilla work and mainly focus on adult work and returning to college for a 3/4 month cpd course in the subject i am hugely passionate about then set up my own vanilla business from there.

    Good luck with what you decide to do.
    I'll probably end up PMing you for more info. How would I get a temporary leave of absence from my GP or reduced hours? My GP is a hard sell and rarely even gives me antibiotics when needed haha. That would be the dream though. My current job doesnt allow for movement to part time although that is something I could consider. Leaving and finding a part time opportunity.

    I do have health insurance, but it's high deductible, so I'm basically paying for everything out of pocket anyway. So there wouldn't be much of a change without in unless I had some kind of emergency.

    That's really amazing that you're thinking of setting up your own vanilla business. I'm hoping to do the same one day - pursing the dream of setting my own hours. I'm amazed what I've learned even this far doing adult work. It's a really good stepping stone into business.

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    ^ Just at a glance, it sounds like you need to reduce your Vanilla hours to 30 a week to allow time for higher paying adult work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    ^ Just at a glance, it sounds like you need to reduce your Vanilla hours to 30 a week to allow time for higher paying adult work.
    Would it be worthwhile to change jobs? Maybe put in applications at other places for part time opportunities?

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    ^ Tell your current employer you need to go back to school and you have to cut hours back. You can actually go back or just use the time for your adult work.

    You know the risk of this though. Your situation may not allow a 24-30 hour week but MANY businesses would much rather keep an already trained employee going ( even less hours ) rather than starting over with someone else. Obviously it can't work if you are 100% sure your employer will say no . You are the only one who can judge if it's safe to even ask about this with them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    ^ Tell your current employer you need to go back to school and you have to cut hours back. You can actually go back or just use the time for your adult work.

    You know the risk of this though. Your situation may not allow a 24-30 hour week but MANY businesses would much rather keep an already trained employee going ( even less hours ) rather than starting over with someone else. Obviously it can't work if you are 100% sure your employer will say no . You are the only one who can judge if it's safe to even ask about this with them.
    Yeah, cutting hours isn't going to fly at my current place of employment. It's a standard 8-5. I asked about going part time last year and only working mornings or afternoons, but it was a total no go. Thanks though!

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    It may be different where you live but here in the uk if you get a sick note form your gp for something along the lines of of stress, anxiety, depression, other mental health issues, severe exhustion etc then work legally have to do a health and safety assessment yoyr doc can also say that they do recommend that you work part time hours as part of recovery and work have to take this into consideration. Would you loose company benefit if you were to leave your current role and take a part time job somewhere else? Obviously employment laws do vary greatly from country to country so it may be work having a look into first to see what your employers have/ dont have to help you with then put a plan into action.

    If it is any consolation i am currently having a little debate with work about me having to make hours up due to having go to go to hospital and seek medical treatment for a misscarriage. Technically in the uk it would be deemed discriminatory as a man wouldnt have to have such a medical proceedure so thus they cannot ask me to make up the time. Also it was a medical preceedure due to pregnancy so is classed as pregnancy related sickness and as such this cannot be held against me with my sickness score nor can sickness be made up as time owed. I was also too early for ny gp to give me my maternity certificate, they said they would only do this from 12 weeks and i lost my little bean at 6 weeks 2 days so i dont have the legal docs that work are demanding from me. Just look into everything, list all the facts then make your decision from there. Be as truthful as possible as that if you are quizzed by work you have something to stick to xx
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    You can"t keep living off of $1,300 per month anyway. If you are miserable, making chicken feed at your vanilla job and have already proven that you can make money in adult entertainment, then IMHO you should go for it. Seriously now, you would have to do horrible as an adult entertainer for your money to be worse than it is now. The only question mark is whether you have the discipline to work when you are making your own schedule with nobody else telling you what to do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    You can"t keep living off of $1,300 per month anyway. If you are miserable, making chicken feed at your vanilla job and have already proven that you can make money in adult entertainment, then IMHO you should go for it. Seriously now, you would have to do horrible as an adult entertainer for your money to be worse than it is now. The only question mark is whether you have the discipline to work when you are making your own schedule with nobody else telling you what to do.
    This is really one of the better responses that I've gotten. Even trying to save while working my vanilla job has been downright impossible. I'm slaving a way my evenings and weekends doing adult work. I feel if I had more time to put into adult work upfront, I would do really well. I'm skimping on things like taking the time to shoot great photos or make content to list for sale. Whereas these would be huge avenues for me as I've done modeling in the past. Just scared to take the leap, but honestly I won't know until I try. Probably going to put in my two weeks here in the next month (lease renewal coming up and don't want to explain leaving my job).
    Thank you so much!!! Honestly, all along I probably have just needed the courage and motivation to make the switch. I'm a highly motivated person and a hard worker. Those areas won't be the problem for sure

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    I’m in a very similar situation. My vanilla job, which I hate more and more each day, pays similar except I have pretty much no savings. The sad part is I don’t even pay rent where I live and I’m still struggling. I say go for it wholeheartedly. Like rick said, you’re already miserable and making peanuts at that, how much is really at risk? I made my decision to go back to adult work full time (and luckily I do have the option to take my vanilla job down to part time,) based on one thing only that’s my personal sanity. Nothing is more important to me than my current and future state of mind because depression sucks.

    Having said all that I haven’t quit my regular job, and won’t until I get to where I want to be financially. but even if I didn’t have the option to cut my hours I would probably still just go all in because again stress is a killer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MedusaUnleashed View Post
    I’m in a very similar situation. My vanilla job, which I hate more and more each day, pays similar except I have pretty much no savings. The sad part is I don’t even pay rent where I live and I’m still struggling. I say go for it wholeheartedly. Like rick said, you’re already miserable and making peanuts at that, how much is really at risk? I made my decision to go back to adult work full time (and luckily I do have the option to take my vanilla job down to part time,) based on one thing only that’s my personal sanity. Nothing is more important to me than my current and future state of mind because depression sucks.

    Having said all that I haven’t quit my regular job, and won’t until I get to where I want to be financially. but even if I didn’t have the option to cut my hours I would probably still just go all in because again stress is a killer.
    I couldn't possibly say, I hear you - loud enough. I'm glad to hear you're able to cut back on hours at your vanilla job! You're so right though. Nothing is worth the mental anguish at a job or anything that is supplying you with peanuts. At this point anything is better than where I'm at now with zero room for advancement. Got to keep looking forward instead of staying stuck in a rut, if you ask me. Keep me updated though! I'd love to hear how things go for you!!!

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    A quick update: Just typed up my two week notice letter and am sending it by email first thing in the morning. Couldn't have come at a better time as my boss has asked to "speak quickly" with me at 8am. Right when I arrive. I have no idea what she wants to gripe or micro manage this time, but it won't really matter because I'll be gone soon. Normally when she does this, I'm awake all night freaking out about what she wants to talk to me about. It makes me a nervous wreck, but for the first time in years I don't really care. I have a better option, a plan B and finally a chance to be happy again.
    While adult work may require more of my time - I really invest myself 100% when doing work independently - at least I'll be doing at home on my own schedule without someone less competent breathing down my neck. Hallelujah!!!
    Thank you to everyone who commented here. I'm so thankful to have found this community because I know I'll have a lot of questions during this journey, but I know I'm in good hands with all of you <3

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    Most people work more than one job in order to get ahead in the world. It is just life that a person has to work more, be smarter & go for it above & beyond a 40 hour work week. Even n adult, to make money & be a success is time consuming & many things you have to spend time on learning to improve the product and sells.

    Example, I spend countless hours watching tutorials, reading & tons of trial and error on video editing, social media marketing & SEO currently. Still rather go for it in adult than to work in an office, because at one point was in the same situation & never regretted quitting & doing porn full time.

    As for college, make sure whatever you get a degree in is worth the money spent getting it, considering a college degree isn't worth what they used to be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Most people work more than one job in order to get ahead in the world. It is just life that a person has to work more, be smarter & go for it above & beyond a 40 hour work week. Even n adult, to make money & be a success is time consuming & many things you have to spend time on learning to improve the product and sells.

    Example, I spend countless hours watching tutorials, reading & tons of trial and error on video editing, social media marketing & SEO currently. Still rather go for it in adult than to work in an office, because at one point was in the same situation & never regretted quitting & doing porn full time.

    As for college, make sure whatever you get a degree in is worth the money spent getting it, considering a college degree isn't worth what they used to be.
    Thank you for the encouraging words and useful advice. Everyrhing you mentioned are things that I genuinely enjoy doing! I spend countless hours (even while working my vanilla job) doing all of the research necessary. I've even bought books on freelance work to further my knowledge and marketing and how to handle my money while working for myself. I'm a sponge of information when something really strikes me as being worthwhile.
    As for college, that is the original reason that I dropped out. My first two years in college were premed. Granted I carried a 4.0, I dropped out because I wasn't sure that the long road to becoming a doctor was the best thing for me. I have an associate's degree, so thankfully those credits are locked in and I won't have to worry about retaking any classes. I'm thinking of going back to school for something related to business. I have ultimately decided to work for myself - working under anyone else is enough to drive me mad.

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    I’m having a tough time too.

    What do you think you should do? What would you do if you weren’t afraid of being judged or being failure?
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