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    Default Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    I don't want to clog the forum with this crap, so Ill delete it later, but I could really use input form other cam girls.

    Hey guys, i've been thumbing over posting this here for the last couple weeks but yesterday i finally got frustrated enough to want to ask other cam girls about it.
    Cam gets brought up in almost EVERY conversation I have with guys (yes, friends) for YEARS to the point i just sign everytime it happens.
    I'm from a small town. Really small. YEARS ago it got out that I cammed, its just something that happened and snowballed, even though I tried to stop it. I Honestly didn't mind too much. I am in a stable relationship which I have been in since I was about 13ish. It was never a moral compromise for me to cam, so I held no guilt.

    The problem is, in a small town everyone knows each other. A few months ago, my husband (who manages my twitter) noticed that I had been followed by several guys from his school (I went to a private high school). I post some pretty sexy things on my Twitter, but at this point I wasn't posting topless photos, even though I am now that I've returned to camming full time.
    Needless to say, he felt disrespected personally as HE knew them so he blocked them.

    And recently, Ive seen they keep trying to add me back. And when I block a account and it was on private (needed to be added to see), I would get adds from brand-new accounts with no friends or followers almost immediately.

    Anyways, yesterday one of these guys messaged me a VERY inappropriate and disrespectful message on my personal, family facebook.
    Saying some dirty shit to me, then when I asked "who are you" not immediately recognizing him as local he responded with "Just a kid that's seen your naked body online before and thought I wouldn't mind seeing it again! Especially your boobies!"

    He's my age, "married" with kids, and ALWAYS posting cute shit between him and his wife on facebook (my husbands friends with him).
    He flaunts his joke of a relationship. How disrespectful to d that shit to a local girl, whose husband he went to school with. Mind you, my husband was my first boyfriend. We've been together over 10 years and go EVERYWHERE together. He knows im married and knows my husband.

    Should I tell his wife? I KNOW when I do, they are going to retaliate with my cam stuff EVERYWHERE. But I think she should know. My husband tried to message her with screenshots, but when he sent the message request she blocked him. (Thought he was creeping? tipped off?)
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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    Damn. That sucks. I wouldn't bother to tell her BUT keep the messages from her fucktard hubby. You can always make photo copies and deposit them everywhere if he becomes a real dickwad. Bur really, I'd say just try to get out of there. I know it's your town and where you grew up , but some things aren't worth it. Sounds like these guys are stepping up aggression towards you. That can get dangerous. Most small town ladies are all going to get offended and think it's all your fault no matter what you say or do. They have nothing better to do and know nothing of the world except their little corner of it. ( so before anyone gets offended I said MOST- not all)

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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    I actually don't live there anymore, But I live close enough for them to still contact me trying to "hook up". Its really just a "ehh this again" thing. Most of them are married or in long term relationships they flaunt as stable, and that's what really frustrates me. Because I KNOW these girls are going to blame me. I just KNOW it, for the simple fact I cam. Its going to be a "these little hoes out here tempting men to cheat" type of situation for simply existing, I see them post that type of stuff all the time. LOL, and be assured, I led nobody on in those messages. "who is this" was the extent of it.
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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    I'm sorry you're going through that. <3

    I was outed a couple times by different people, and stalked once on social media by someone who knew I did sex work, so I kinda relate. I just locked down ALL of my social media, so that no one could so much as post on my facebook wall, or google my name in facebook. I've thought about deleting facebook altogether, but instead I unfriended/blocked certain people, and even though it was hard, it made my life a million times easier.

    My camgirl social media is still public, but luckily it hasn't been infiltrated by those creeps. With your social media, I'd say letting your husband manage it is a great idea so you don't have to stress about it. Hopefully he can handle the drama, for now, and hopefully it will die down soon.

    I don't know if there's really a good way to lash out at those guys for their behavior. I'm a nonconfrontational person, so I'd probably keep blocking and reporting them. Definitely keep a record of the things they've done. Honestly, the guy's wife probably knows he's an asshole already, sounds like she is unable to control his behavior.

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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    You don't have time to entertain small minds. it will drive you insane.

    So you need to set boundaries and cut people. small town or not your sanity is more important then their bull shit.

    you need to be confident in what you are doing and not give a fuck what those small minded idiots think. You will find there are some people you can talk about work with and they get it and others you won't talk to at all . you will just be there for small talk and even that you might not even want to be around them.

    This is where you need to guard your space, time and energy greatly.
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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    Sorry u going through something like this. Sounds like a nightmare to me.
    It s sad how pathetic assholes people can be. I dont know anyway, if these guys are not dangerous, I d just block them on every possible way, make them non existent. These kind of people just wait for u, to do something nasty to them, give them any kind of reaction, so they can harass u more. However hard u hit on them -reporting to family- they ll always find a way to be more nasty, and bring u even more down. Sick.

    People shouldnt troll at all or harass anyone on the internet, just coz they can... but if these losers go too far, and bother u in ur pesonal life, I think u could report them to the police. Just let them know u ll make steps, and there ll be consequences.

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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    Men are pigs. NONE of them respect women. It is a powerplay. Moral, no dick in the world has ever had morals, so men judging women is a joke they all play on us. Cause if they were moral they wouldn't be seeking out nude pics of anyone, especially someone they know.

    Yeah, tell their wives. Why should you keep their secret? They sure in the hell aren't keeping yours. Write the wives & include their husbands messages. Tell them to keep their husbands on a leash. How they should be ashamed for marrying a man who hunts down women & sexually harasses them on a regular basis.


    Your husband has shitty friends & needs to stop calling them friends. As for the wives hating you, GOOD. They married two-faced two-timing evil fucks, so their judgement is off and can't be trusted either. Why are you worried or upset about people who are trash? I don't give trash a second thought, nor do I seek their acceptance or approval into that social circle. I don't care if you have sex with 1000 other people, you are under zero obligation to have sex or show them anything.

    Every time you see any of them in public start shaming them. "Oh look it's the happily married man who is always trying to fuck me while pretending to be friends with my husband." or "I wonder do you harass all your friend's wives for sex on a regular basis?"

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    Default Re: Local guys keep messaging me, bringing up cam.

    ^Ditto to what Sam38g said. I know if I was married to a scumbag like that, I'd definitely wanna know what he's up to! I don't trust any of these motherfuckers. They wanna have you all shook and panicking, but oh, how satisfying it would be to flip the script on them and shame them instead? Maybe they will shut the fuck up then.
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