Hi ladies,
For several years I was only a casual customer as I would only go to a club maybe 3-4 times a year. The club I go to is about an hour from where I live. Since I have to get up early for work during the week, I really can only go to the club on a Friday or Saturday night, which I understand is the busiest time at most clubs. I don't go during the day because I'm at work. Besides, the club is not known for its dayshift anyway. When I'd go, I would usually bring about $200, hang out for about 3 hours, buy drinks, tip the girls on stage, and get dances with at least 2, sometimes 3 girls. I would usually have anywhere from $20-$50 still in my wallet when I'd leave the club, so I was very good at not having to use the club's ATM.
Things changed earlier this year when I found a girl that got me hooked into being a regular. It was simply because her dances were better than what I was getting from the girls that had been working there for a while. When I say better, I don't mean extras. What I mean is the level of contact is higher. She gets to be really playful, and seems to genuinely love what she does. I have found myself going to the club once a month and I now bring about $300, with about $200 of it being spent on her alone.
However, after several visits, there is something about her whole routine that is making me consider demoting myself from the status as her regular. Even though she knows I will spend generously on her, she is always in high hustle mode with me. She does not like to talk. There are times it has been less than 10 minutes after I arrived at the club and she rushes over to my table and quickly asks me, "Wanna dance?" I can understand during the first few visits when we are not familiar with each other that there may not be much emphasis on conversation. However, when you have established that you are a regular and visit the club to specifically see her, is it too much to ask for her to be willing to engage in conversation? When we have talked, she has often forgotten details of conversations we've previously had. There are simple questions she has asked me multiple times. One time, she even mistook me for being someone else. With each visit, she gets more aggressive with her hustle and is less willing to hold any type of conversation.
Is this normal behavior? Do you girls have conversations with your regulars, or do you just sell them dances? When you do talk, do you sit at their table and talk to them, or do you do most of your talking while giving dances? I can understand if you think these are silly questions, but this whole being a dancer's regular is something I have not done until recently
Despite her unwillingness to talk, there has been no drop off with the quality of her dances. They have always been great, and that is the main reason why I keep going back to see her. But the lack of conversation between us is making me consider cutting her loose and finding a different dancer to spend my money on. Am I asking for too much if I want her to hold a conversation?



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It isn't always wise to get to know people better in the long run and to enjoy the time you do spend together for what it is in that moment.

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