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    Hi ladies,

    For several years I was only a casual customer as I would only go to a club maybe 3-4 times a year. The club I go to is about an hour from where I live. Since I have to get up early for work during the week, I really can only go to the club on a Friday or Saturday night, which I understand is the busiest time at most clubs. I don't go during the day because I'm at work. Besides, the club is not known for its dayshift anyway. When I'd go, I would usually bring about $200, hang out for about 3 hours, buy drinks, tip the girls on stage, and get dances with at least 2, sometimes 3 girls. I would usually have anywhere from $20-$50 still in my wallet when I'd leave the club, so I was very good at not having to use the club's ATM.

    Things changed earlier this year when I found a girl that got me hooked into being a regular. It was simply because her dances were better than what I was getting from the girls that had been working there for a while. When I say better, I don't mean extras. What I mean is the level of contact is higher. She gets to be really playful, and seems to genuinely love what she does. I have found myself going to the club once a month and I now bring about $300, with about $200 of it being spent on her alone.

    However, after several visits, there is something about her whole routine that is making me consider demoting myself from the status as her regular. Even though she knows I will spend generously on her, she is always in high hustle mode with me. She does not like to talk. There are times it has been less than 10 minutes after I arrived at the club and she rushes over to my table and quickly asks me, "Wanna dance?" I can understand during the first few visits when we are not familiar with each other that there may not be much emphasis on conversation. However, when you have established that you are a regular and visit the club to specifically see her, is it too much to ask for her to be willing to engage in conversation? When we have talked, she has often forgotten details of conversations we've previously had. There are simple questions she has asked me multiple times. One time, she even mistook me for being someone else. With each visit, she gets more aggressive with her hustle and is less willing to hold any type of conversation.

    Is this normal behavior? Do you girls have conversations with your regulars, or do you just sell them dances? When you do talk, do you sit at their table and talk to them, or do you do most of your talking while giving dances? I can understand if you think these are silly questions, but this whole being a dancer's regular is something I have not done until recently

    Despite her unwillingness to talk, there has been no drop off with the quality of her dances. They have always been great, and that is the main reason why I keep going back to see her. But the lack of conversation between us is making me consider cutting her loose and finding a different dancer to spend my money on. Am I asking for too much if I want her to hold a conversation?

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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    I mean, it depends on the precedent you've set. I have had regulars who literally pay me to talk to them; one I haven't danced for in about 1.5 years. Then there's guys who are ready to dance after a single song of chatting. Depends on them.

    Have you tried the ever dreaded asking if she wants to have a drink with you first? That's a subtle way of letting her know you'd like more conversation. It sounds like she's used to not talking to you.

    This could go either decently or she may decide after a while that she doesn't want to take the extra time hit for the same amount of cash. Maybe throw her an extra tip?

    It does complicate it that you go on weekends. She might get salty cause of the potential on the floor.
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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    Just because you are a "regular" does not mean she is going to cut you any slack that would cause her to be any less efficient with her time/earning potential.

    When you say regular like how many times have you visited with her? If you've visited with her more than 3 times then yes, its reasonable to expect them to remember at least a few details about you to help boost likelihood of keeping you as a regular. But if she drinks alcohol and/or meets a large number of customers while working then its very easy to forget details.

    Also have you thought that maybe she is not a great conversationalist. Just let her body do the talking lol since you seem to enjoy that just roll with it and quit trying to fit a circle into a square so to speak.
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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    Every dancer and situation is different. It sounds like you two just get straight to the dances right away. Some dancers are not big into talking. Since Fridays and Saturdays are busy nights she's trying to hustle and make as much as possible. It can be hard to remember every Tom, Dick, and Harry especially if she's drinking. Personally I like to remember names and important details so that I can ask *Bob(fictional name) about his new Harley or *Mike about how his vacation to Aruba was. I suppose you could offer to buy her a drink or tell her that you'd just like to sit and talk instead of get a dance and tip her for that instead of a dance.

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    Yes, it is unreasonable. She is super hot and a good dancer that gives sensual dances at a reasonable price.

    You can't get everything. She's only human.

    Get your convos from someone else whose great at.

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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    for a friday or saturday night yes that's unreasonable. if you want more of a GFE you're gonna have to find a way to go during the day or at least during the week

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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    If you want to chat ask her to come by your work when she is off duty, and you can chat there.

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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    I will echo what others have posted - it's too much to expect long conversations for weekend shifts. I've been visiting my dancer for 2-3 months now every week and we will typically talk an hour to an hour and half before going into the CR (as I usually go in on a weeknight). I made the mistake of going in on a Saturday one time, and she was very frantic/apologizing/wanting to go straight to the CR without a conversation prior just based on traffic and her potential earnings lost. I took this as a cue that if I am expecting the conversation, not to ever visit at this time.

    In addition, you need to lower your expectations in regards to the dancer's memory. My dancer doesn't even know my name, she remembers other details though and we have light/fun chats which is good enough. These women meet 100s of men a week, cut them some slack. Enjoy what you have and don't expect the world.

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    You are spending $250 a month on her and you expect quality conversation on a weekend--get over that $#!t now. She probably has 20-30 guys spending that on her if her dances are that good and at least 5-10 that spend 2 to 3x. You want more then give more. Go in weekly and spend $300+ for two months or drop $1000 once a month and she will remember you and may give you more time. But as others have said, not on a weekend. Just mho.

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    Default Re: Do you have conversations with regulars?

    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    I did not want to make it sound like I wanted her to sit with me for an hour. I was thinking just a couple minutes of casual conversation prior to getting dances. Maybe even expecting that is asking for a bit much.

    I usually am the first customer she approaches when working the floor, so she does recognize me as someone who spends.

    The next time I go to the club, I will get a 1-hour room with her and see how that goes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mustafa View Post
    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    I did not want to make it sound like I wanted her to sit with me for an hour. I was thinking just a couple minutes of casual conversation prior to getting dances. Maybe even expecting that is asking for a bit much.

    I usually am the first customer she approaches when working the floor, so she does recognize me as someone who spends.

    The next time I go to the club, I will get a 1-hour room with her and see how that goes.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mustafa View Post
    Thanks for the responses everyone.

    I did not want to make it sound like I wanted her to sit with me for an hour. I was thinking just a couple minutes of casual conversation prior to getting dances. Maybe even expecting that is asking for a bit much.

    I usually am the first customer she approaches when working the floor, so she does recognize me as someone who spends.

    The next time I go to the club, I will get a 1-hour room with her and see how that goes.
    OK, this is a lot easier for me to get behind. A certain level of conversation expectation but not a long time is probably alright based on what you are saying in my experience. I was wrong to think you were asking for more than you just stated. Best to you.

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    Get a few dances & have a conversation with a different girl. When the one you prefer comes around tell her perhaps next time. You are not obligated to spend money on just her, so don't. Which will make her appreciate you a bit more the next time.
    Now, I am horrible with names. Have called men by the WRONG name for years & they didn't correct me. Think the entire time that was their name, also wondered why they answered to the wrong name for years too. lol
    Take into consideration how many names & nicknames or such we all see everyday in real life & on boards like this one & how many different social media platforms. Over the course of a day, I'm looking at about 3000 or more names.

    Some people are great with remembering names & some are not. Her talent is in the dance, enjoy it for what it is. It isn't always wise to get to know people better in the long run and to enjoy the time you do spend together for what it is in that moment.

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    This thread should get a silver star. Asked, answered, and mustafa has a better understanding of his preferred dancer's challenges.
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    Tough one...but really a bit of common sense to be excersiced. She is working the busiest night of the week. Time is money in this and any other business. Yes, you spend on her, but so do 10 other guys and they are all competing for her time. I guess I'm saying that just cause you spend doesnt mean she has to offer anything more than what is expected. Fine line between talk to me out of courtesy and talk to me cause I have a crush on you

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