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    Girls please help me! I have been dancing for about 3 months and approximately 2 months ago i moved to a new club. Because i was fired (it was my fault i really did something wrong) anyway long story short. The club I am in accepts any all types of girls big fat old you name it which is why girls there hustle in a very aggressive way . The girls at this club are such hustlers and there are not many costumers. The rule is that you should let the costumer drink before you ask him for a dance... but none of the girls follow it. But, when i also do the same thing and go up to a costumer before he gets a drink they start gossiping about me and curse me out. They also talk shit about me with the costumers and then the costumers don't want to dance with me afterwards (they seriously believe what the girls tell them). There is this one girl who came up to me when i was with a costumer and started yelling at me saying "This is why no one likes you, you are suppose to wait until the costumer gets a drink" again, she does the same thing!!! They all do!!!! And i tried following this rule but i ended up with almost no money at the end of the day. She yelled at me in front of costumers and called me ugly and told them i have std which is a freaking lie . I cant move to a different club at the moment long story. I am a beautiful girl but i am very sensitive and i don't want to go to the management all the time because they don't want drama and i dont want them to get sick of me coming to them all the time. Because a lot of those girls gained up on me they sit in groups and gossip about me loud. When i go in the dressing room there is this girl who always says loudly "oh now we cant talk you know why " or "here comes the devil" as if i care about what she has to say.... Girls honestly im a socially awkward girl.... i have always been. How should i deal with the girls?how can i keep going to costumers just like they do and not let them come up and curse me or try to steal the costumer away from me?i dont want to yell at them back all the time
    please help from a heartbroken stripper.

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    are you making enough money there to justify putting up with their shit? I'm new to this too but my mentality from day 1 had been go in, get the bag and leave. But if I was in your situation I would have to be making a LOT of money for me to not just switch clubs. I can't hustle if I'm unhappy or uncomfortable anyway.


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    Are you making money from the customers who don't listen to their bullshit? If so, I would stay at the club.

    Just ignore these bitches. Hustle how you want to. They are trying to intimidate and get a reaction out of you. If it's that hard of a hustle that they're jumping on guys who don't even have a drink, they are probably just trying to scare you off & have one less competitor. I bet money if you stick it out they will move onto another target.

    Ignore them in the DR. If one speaks to you, just be calm and collected but firm. Do NOT raise your own voice... "He who is reacting more emotionally is always losing the argument"... and then if management walks in on it, they'll plainly see the other girl is the issue. Maybe think of a few calm, simple retorts to use; "I'm just making my money" "(if with a customer) We're talking right now, thanks"
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

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    Are you really that sensitive?
    Cause you didn't get to know any of them & make an friend or two. You didn't try to butter any of them up in the dressing room & appreciate how they work the club. First people you have to work in the club is the other gals and get on their good side from the start.

    Sounds like your people skills suck. Cause even if they were doing all that you say & telling the customers bad things about you......... guys don't give a fuck. All that would do is make you more interesting & try to be your 'friend' so they can get more from you during a table dance.

    Each club has a different vibe, as a newbie in each club, sitting back & getting a feel for it is very important.

    Bring in some flowers & apologize to all of them & say ya'll got started on the wrong foot. Apparently those old fat gals can hustle & you have a weak game to use such derogatory terms about them.

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    First thing I did at every new club was become friends with the biggest baddest bitch there that every gal respected. She is never the first person to talk to you either, nope she sits back & watches to see what kind of person you are.

    She is the first person I buy a drink for & smile.

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    With all respect to Sam, I have seen trying to get to know the house girls backfire... There's a girl at my club who tried being super friendly and nice right away, and she weirded most of us the fuck out. Maybe just don't be like crazy obviously overly friendly.

    My general advice in a new club is to keep your head down and don't draw attention to yourself, but be very nice if anyone talks to you. Friendships grow organically then, and usually (IME) the I'm The Baddest Bitch Here girls will eventually kind of just 'break' one day and start talking to you once they decide you're not a loony or an asshole or trying to 'steal' their customers.

    I DO agree wholeheartedly with befriending the craziest/baddest bitch there. That is the girl you want on your side. Nobody will fuck with you then. You also wanna be friends with the 'silent but deadly' types or those you see shooting the shit with managers regularly. I'm the latter and you'd be surprised how much pull some of us can acquire with management/other influential staff or any girls you're having issues with.
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    Honestly, it's the same shit w/EV, @ least in my experience

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    Yeah I have to agree with both Sam & Selina. These things will be the same in EVERY.SINGLE.CLUB you go to. I have traveled for YEARS and even in Miami where the clubs and set list are so HUGE that you could probably just walk in, get dressed, and work for a couple good hours before anyone even noticed they'd never seen you before--this dynamic remained.

    The best piece of newbie advice I ever got was actually from a seasoned customer in a club. He told me that the way I felt about the club and the girls was always going to show on my face and in my body language. If you feel like you look better than every bitch in the club, THEY CAN TELL! Just like you can sniff out the baddest bitch in the club, they can sniff out that you're brand new but for some reason think you're better than them. Your refusal to fall in line will keep you right where you keep putting yourself...on the outside.

    Little do girls new to this industry know, there IS respect in this game! You MUST respect every player in this game for the level they have reached. Even the pock-faced resident junkie will make more money than you if she's seasoned in her hustle and you'll be sitting there dumbfounded every damn time. Get with the program. You're brand new, nobody knows you to vouch for you, and when they put out feelers for you it looks like what they got back was that you think you look better than them and you think you don't have to follow the rules. These girls may not follow the rules, but you don't know how much money they've made the club, the DJ, management, and even each other! You're at ground zero and you have to act like it. You are a rookie. You have to respect the vets. If that means you're working on slow money for awhile then so be it...better pull some extras if you can't go to another club.

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    Wow! first of all I want to thank each and every one of you for replying.You girls are AMAZING.I also want to apologize if I have offended anyone by using words like "fat" or "old" .I was just trying to emphasize the fact that in this club hustling word better than what we look like.It came out the wrong way.So I'm sorry.The thing is I try befriending the girls even in different clubs but the problem is that every time I befriend them they honestly feel "comfortable enough" to steal my clients.For example if I'm being nice to girl then she is nice to me back all the sudden when I'm with a costumer she comes up and starts talking to him....I guess cause they notice I'm socially awkward a bit?..Ilk definitely try to ignore smile and not get emotionally involved and be a "friend" with at least one "bad bitch" so at least I have someone on my side...they girls can just be so mean with their face expression and comments it feels like knives going to my skin����

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    You have to understand you're not in playplayland at recess hanging with the girls. This is people's livelihood. Strippers have REAL lives just like anyone else, so while you're thinking about making friends or how "socially awkward" you are, this girl may be thinking about whether or not her kid gets new clothes for school or presents under the tree or shit...maybe even if she will keep the roof over her head! So, yes! it is INTENSELY competitive and it's money over everything in any hustle. This is a hustle at the end of the day until you turn it into something else. Nobody in the strip club likes you more than they like money. GUARANTEED. We have all been where you are. New face and fresh meat. They will haze you like you're pledging into a sorority but it ain't no sorority! That's just how it works. Good luck to you! Focus on your damn money...if you stop paying any attention to the quips and comments and start getting money, everything will fall into place.

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    youre a sexy bitch and now they have to compete with you for money. keep doing your thing

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    are you sure your social awkwardness isn't coming across as bitchy and like you think you're better than them?

    just saying, because i have that problem... a lot. it sucks because i really just have anxiety and shitty social skills. i can imagine that would be worse in a club where you look better than most of the other girls. try and go out of your way to be extra nice and friendly maybe? try to just make one friend. if that doesn't work and they're all dead set on hating you then all you can really do is ignore them. sorry you're dealing with that! it's hard to focus and make money when you have to stress about shit like that.. but you can do it

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    This is going to take a lot of your personal inner strength, but the only way to stop it is to ignore them and make your money. Don't let them see you sweat. Smile. Let these girls know they can't shake you. Always works!

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    Just wanted to
    Out an update and thank you beautiful smart ladies.I am following the rules you gave me ignoring the mean girls sitting by myself and making friends with the bad bitch so far I see improvements.So thanks a bunch

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    Bad asses are wonderful, a few of mine still work in the strip clubs or have great connections from coast to coast.

    Offices and other industries are the same too, but there is always one HIB, I know I've been one plenty of times. Even as just a receptionist I changed one office dynamics for the better that the accounts that were spending the most money called head quarters to tell them how I solved all their issues.

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    That's good. Their goal is to shake you. Don't let them. Have guts, smile, make money. They'll see it's useless.

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    If you're really that sensitive, this business isn't for you. Put your big girl panties on and grow a thick skin or GTFO. It's really that simple. Nobody is going to coddle you with juice and cookies. This is a job, not preschool.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post

    Bring in some flowers & apologize to all of them & say ya'll got started on the wrong foot. Apparently those old fat gals can hustle & you have a weak game to use such derogatory terms about them.
    For the love of all that is holy....DON'T DO THAT!

    I've worked at a club exactly like this. The management is weak. They set rules and don't enforce them or enforce them only on people who are not in their clique. I've worked all over the country and never had to make an effort to make friends in the clubs. But I have worked a club where he dancers are so rancid, so insecure that all they do is jump on girls individually or as a pack and emotionally abuse them. There is no winning them over. You make a friend of another new girl, another girls with with a life outside the club,or you go solo. Ignore minor bs and report only the major abuses. Continue to be professional and leave it at that. Get out of there ASAP.
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    I love temptress, but I think that’s a little harsh.No disrespect intended. I’m very sensitive!!! We can do really well with mature guys who want companionship. People will look at us like pray, so just be all about work and don’t talk to the other girls.

    Anyways. Stay out of their way and always stay on the floor. As the new girl, I always follow the rules even if other girls don’t until they know I’m not an extras girl, Then it’s okay to test boundaries.

    I would look for other club asap. I don’t care how much money there is I have the right to feel safe at work. I’m sure I work at a shittier club money wise, but the management is good and the girls are very nice.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Bring in some flowers & apologize to all of them & say ya'll got started on the wrong foot. Apparently those old fat gals can hustle & you have a weak game to use such derogatory terms about them.
    This is a really bad idea. You're there to make money, not friends. Who cares if the other girls don't like you? Just ignore them and stay out of the dressing room as much as possible. Or go to a different club if you really hate it.






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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    If you're really that sensitive, this business isn't for you. Put your big girl panties on and grow a thick skin or GTFO. It's really that simple. Nobody is going to coddle you with juice and cookies. This is a job, not preschool.
    No juice and cookies LOL, but I've definitely had birthday cake in the change room!

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    I mean, unless the money is solid, I wouldn't want to put up with that bullshit if I were you. In my experience, the less money is at a club, the nastier the girls act. Of course you could just suck it up and try to ignore it, but even the toughest person in the world wouldn't find that ~pleasant~.

    Is the money worth it? And/or is there another club in your area that you could try?

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    Quote Originally Posted by aliwonderland View Post
    I mean, unless the money is solid, I wouldn't want to put up with that bullshit if I were you. In my experience, the less money is at a club, the nastier the girls act. Of course you could just suck it up and try to ignore it, but even the toughest person in the world wouldn't find that ~pleasant~.

    Is the money worth it? And/or is there another club in your area that you could try?
    It’s not worth it! When you lay with dogs expect to get fleas.

    I hope you find another club.

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    Yes. Find a new, better club.

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    Wow! first of all I want to thank each and every one of you for replying.You girls are AMAZING.I also want to apologize if I have offended anyone by using words like "fat" or "old" .I was just trying to emphasize the fact that in this club hustling word better than what we look like.It came out the wrong way.So I'm sorry.The thing is I try befriending the girls even in different clubs but the problem is that every time I befriend them they honestly feel "comfortable enough" to steal my clients.For example if I'm being nice to girl then she is nice to me back all the sudden when I'm with a costumer she comes up and starts talking to him....I guess cause they notice I'm socially awkward a bit?..Ilk definitely try to ignore smile and not get emotionally involved and be a "friend" with at least one "bad bitch" so at least I have someone on my side...they girls can just be so mean with their face expression and comments it feels like knives going to my skin����
    Yup. Certain girls are like that. You say hello and bullshit a little one day, then next thing you know bitch is trying to slide into your shit when no one called her ass over.

    Imo, it's best not to make friends and keep to yourself(better focus). That doesn't mean you have to be sour.

    Friendly, yes. Become friends, no.
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