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    I'm so good with guys outside of work. And I don't mean prostitution. Alot if men hit on me. I've started dancing for a couple months now. And can't even get a lap dance. I really think its,the club I'm at. It's a small town with a bunch of weirdos. Who favor white women and there is so much favoritism and dancer employment relationships going on. I never make house fee I can't even get a lap dance. I'm cool, sensual, down to earth, a great dancer given I don't do tricks but. I'm a fuxn hustler. I feel like its the club it's not me. The girls are fake and most of the men that come in are looking for a type of Some Ones customer. I really don't believe in that customer shit. Because these men are not. LOYAL, I REALLY THINK I SHOULD FIND A NEW CLUB THAT WORJS OUT WELL FOR EBONY WOMEN. I CAN'T BEGIN TO EXPLAIN THE TYPE OF BULLSHIT AND FAVORITISM THAT'S HAPPENING FRON THE DJ, STAFF, AND DANCERS. the she suck, They play trap music for the white girls,than when you ask for a request there oblivious to what's happening.its always slow here. It's like hit or miss you have to get lucky or your fucked all night. PLEASE HELP, ANY CLUBS I CAN GO TO WHERE IT WORKS FOR EBONY WOMEN, OR THAT ACTUALL HAS CUSTOMERS. BECAUSE THIS BULLSHIT. I FEEL LIKE I'M HUSTLING BACKWARDS.

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    Where are you located?

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    Every clubs has a different culture & the type of music generally played. If you go way outside that genre then it won't be viewed favorably. I've worked in clubs where rap was not allowed & worked in different clubs where hard rock was not allowed.
    You also need to evaluate the crowd & the music they'd like. You are an entertainer, it don't make a damn what kind of music you like but what sells in that club. The music you play for a group of men under the age of 30 is way different than the music you'd play for men in their 60s.

    You don't believe in customers... you mean the years they spent developing a relationship with those men who became regulars? AKA their hustle, which you should NOT be dissing because it is working for them and apparently what you are doing is NOT. In clubs when you try to steal customers you make enemies, I can guarantee if you had a guy who came in & spent $500 a week on you & another stripper tried to steal him you would be pissed.

    Favoritism, YES, those who make tip out & tip out generously are treated better. It is how strip clubs work.

    You can't change other people but you can change how you react to them. It may not be the club for you & racism is real.

    You gave zero information about the area you are dancing in so how are we to know. And some research you have to do on your own as in go into every strip club in your area & check it out for yourself.

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    Girl, i can feel your frustration! Working in the wrong type of club can make even the most experienced, confident dancers out there wilt like week-old flowers. Just a quick post from me for now, on mobile. Find a better fit! <3

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    I'm located in Rockland County New York

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    I'm located in Rockland County New York

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    I'm located in Rockland County New York

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    If you think it's the club, try a different club.
    XoXo Gia
    Danielle Fishell (the Dish): "If the Super-Star thing doesn't work out, Gia makes a great stripper name"

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    This is why 80% to 90% of strippers quit in the first few weeks/months! You start at a dive because it's less intimidating but it's less intimidating cause it's not where the real money's at. Being a successful stripper means finding the money. It's hard when you can barely make house some nights in one club to then the next day have the balls and energy to try a new spot but that's what you have to do. Those of us who've been in the industry have friends to ask where to work but since you seem new you should read club chat there are many threads about areas and you can look for the highest traffic places near you. The problem with dives/mid tier for newbies is you can make a little novelty money but many of my friends at mid tier places now are veterans who want a place that's chill to book appointments with regs.. customers they have forever, they like that these types of places make less demands on the dancer but they have the clients and experience to work a steady living from a low traffic place, as a newbie seems impossible to hack. Also racism is rife in this industry but black women are amount the most beautiful and successful strippers I've met so just find a club where you will be appreciated and financially rewarded.

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    I’m sorry. I have a black work friend who has to travel to find better money. I would say dress classy and find an upscale club-that’s what she did, or find a club that fits you.

    I personally like diverse clubs. I like all shapes and sizes of girls. Not everyone wants Barbie. It’s not fun to compete against the same type of girl. I wouldn’t think the customers want the same type of girl either. I personally find diverse girls and guys attractive.

    I do think it’s important to find a good fit. I work at a high volume club. We get a lot of working class guys instead of rich, older guys, and it works for me. I don’t have relationships with guys. I don’t need the regulars drama. My customers can come to my club and see me. A few stable regulars have my e-mail. I don’t have a problem sharing my regulars because they don’t get overly attached to me. Regulars eventually want too much, so it’s important to have good boundaries. Some clubs encourage those types of relationships, but I just can’t deal those clubs. Party clubs suck because you tend to get cheapskates that are there to get drunk, but party clubs tend to attract guys who just want fun. Most regular clubs attract strip club regulars-who know if they keep asking they can get a girl OTC.
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    Default Re: Wtf am i doing wrong

    There's a thread, "Clubs for Black women", I forgot what section, try this one or Club Chat.
    Good luck!

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