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    Hi Ladies,

    So, my birthday is in a few days and it also marks the 3rd year I've been doing adult work.

    I started camming on MFC, CB, and SM. Then, I had my own site on Model Centro. I was very inspired by the idea of being a entrepreneur and working from home. Maybe y'all can relate but I had bartended, served, worked 8-10 hour shifts, 6-7 days a week, retail, management, you name it! I always did pretty well in everything, but ultimately I was super unhappy because of the long hours, little pay, and never being home.

    I was (and still am) inspired by cam models, loved how sex positive, and entrepreneurial the industry is. At first, I loved it. But, I realized no matter how hard I worked at it, it's not me. I definitely improved, but still, it wasn't the best fit for me. Since then, I've had my content ripped and put on sites still till this day no matter how hard I've tried to get it removed, its been years and its still up.

    Now, after three years of doing camming, I have an opportunity I see for myself that isn't in adult work. It took me some time, but I realize I am good at something else, and I love it. I can see myself growing from it, and improving my health and well being. It allows me to get sunshine and be outdoors, which really helps my anxiety.

    But, I am shrouded in the reality that if I take this career change, I will one day be noticed and someone on YouTube will be like "didn't you used to cam model?" I am not ashamed of my adult work, but what I want to pursue has nothing to do with sex. Many of the relationships I've built in this new phase of my life have no idea that I've done this work. I'm slightly hesitant to put myself out there because of the "OMG there are videos of me naked stripping for tokens on a free tube site right now...."

    I would say I'm beyond inspired by seeing Cardi B own every phase of her life past present and future. And it's really made me think...well, I can do this. I love what I've learned from the Adult Biz, but I'm older now, and I want to do something else. The money I've made and saved from the Adult Biz can indeed fuel this next step in my life.

    So, any advice on how I can move on from the fear? Or how I can own it if it comes up?

    Has anyone made this transition or thinking about it?

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    Being found out you use to do something can happen to anyone in different ways. there is no way of telling when it will happen or how it will affect what you are doing next.

    You need to own it. many of the reality tv stars re doing that majority of them are ex-strippers but they own their past and rock their futures.

    The only way to move from the fear is to live your best life whatever next chapter that is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by xCamLovex View Post
    Hi Ladies,

    So, my birthday is in a few days and it also marks the 3rd year I've been doing adult work.

    I started camming on MFC, CB, and SM. Then, I had my own site on Model Centro. I was very inspired by the idea of being a entrepreneur and working from home. Maybe y'all can relate but I had bartended, served, worked 8-10 hour shifts, 6-7 days a week, retail, management, you name it! I always did pretty well in everything, but ultimately I was super unhappy because of the long hours, little pay, and never being home.

    I was (and still am) inspired by cam models, loved how sex positive, and entrepreneurial the industry is. At first, I loved it. But, I realized no matter how hard I worked at it, it's not me. I definitely improved, but still, it wasn't the best fit for me. Since then, I've had my content ripped and put on sites still till this day no matter how hard I've tried to get it removed, its been years and its still up.

    Now, after three years of doing camming, I have an opportunity I see for myself that isn't in adult work. It took me some time, but I realize I am good at something else, and I love it. I can see myself growing from it, and improving my health and well being. It allows me to get sunshine and be outdoors, which really helps my anxiety.

    But, I am shrouded in the reality that if I take this career change, I will one day be noticed and someone on YouTube will be like "didn't you used to cam model?" I am not ashamed of my adult work, but what I want to pursue has nothing to do with sex. Many of the relationships I've built in this new phase of my life have no idea that I've done this work. I'm slightly hesitant to put myself out there because of the "OMG there are videos of me naked stripping for tokens on a free tube site right now...."

    I would say I'm beyond inspired by seeing Cardi B own every phase of her life past present and future. And it's really made me think...well, I can do this. I love what I've learned from the Adult Biz, but I'm older now, and I want to do something else. The money I've made and saved from the Adult Biz can indeed fuel this next step in my life.

    So, any advice on how I can move on from the fear? Or how I can own it if it comes up?

    Has anyone made this transition or thinking about it?
    Here's a really inspirational thread about this very thing. Lots of great advice given. https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...e-future-don-t There are few others I can try and find in a bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xCamLovex View Post
    Hi Ladies,

    So, my birthday is in a few days and it also marks the 3rd year I've been doing adult work.

    I started camming on MFC, CB, and SM. Then, I had my own site on Model Centro. I was very inspired by the idea of being a entrepreneur and working from home. Maybe y'all can relate but I had bartended, served, worked 8-10 hour shifts, 6-7 days a week, retail, management, you name it! I always did pretty well in everything, but ultimately I was super unhappy because of the long hours, little pay, and never being home.

    I was (and still am) inspired by cam models, loved how sex positive, and entrepreneurial the industry is. At first, I loved it. But, I realized no matter how hard I worked at it, it's not me. I definitely improved, but still, it wasn't the best fit for me. Since then, I've had my content ripped and put on sites still till this day no matter how hard I've tried to get it removed, its been years and its still up.

    Now, after three years of doing camming, I have an opportunity I see for myself that isn't in adult work. It took me some time, but I realize I am good at something else, and I love it. I can see myself growing from it, and improving my health and well being. It allows me to get sunshine and be outdoors, which really helps my anxiety.

    But, I am shrouded in the reality that if I take this career change, I will one day be noticed and someone on YouTube will be like "didn't you used to cam model?" I am not ashamed of my adult work, but what I want to pursue has nothing to do with sex. Many of the relationships I've built in this new phase of my life have no idea that I've done this work. I'm slightly hesitant to put myself out there because of the "OMG there are videos of me naked stripping for tokens on a free tube site right now...."

    I would say I'm beyond inspired by seeing Cardi B own every phase of her life past present and future. And it's really made me think...well, I can do this. I love what I've learned from the Adult Biz, but I'm older now, and I want to do something else. The money I've made and saved from the Adult Biz can indeed fuel this next step in my life.

    So, any advice on how I can move on from the fear? Or how I can own it if it comes up?

    Has anyone made this transition or thinking about it?
    You're not the only one hun, i think we all have these same worries. I am doing the same as you want to do right now as it happens, quite literally putting myself out there because what i'm building away from adult stuff requires lots of marketing and networking, so it cannot be helped. Just remember that a) It's probably unlikely you'll get found out anyway unless you yourself are a bit loose with information, and b) If you do, you weren't doing anything wrong, you were making a great living for yourself and building many skills along the way, in a fun, harmless way. Basically as Minnie says 'own it' if it happens. The way I would do this personally is to treat the situation like one of my cam sessions - i'd take a breath and stay in control of it, so I am doing most of the talking, I'm being calm and leading them where i want them to go. I'd use positive words and phrases and talk about how much your skill set has grown through video editing, psychology, marketing, website design etc etc. I wish you the best of luck in your new ventures x
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    I've also made a youtube video on the subject. In my journey of thinking I needed to leave adult work I found myself reaching out to http://iamatreasure.com/ they have a workbook , video series/Dvd that answered some questions for me in my exploration. Along with the book called exit stage right.

    https://www.amazon.ca/Exit-Stage-Rig...it+stage+right

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    Thank you so much for all your responses. I feel better just knowing I am not the only woman transitioning, growing, and exploring the things that we are talented at! Even if it's not adult work related, we all deserve this opportunity to shine and do what makes us happy.

    There's never been a part in this where I've been ashamed of the adult work. As stated above, this lien of work has made us such WARRIORS of ANY WORKPLACE. We are in fact, stronger, wiser, more entrepreneurial than most because of this. And, we don't have to push it in anyones face. I feel like men LOVE sex, and things that are SEXY, but they are the first ones to rip you for being a "cam whore." Not that their opinions are going to keep me locked in my house for my entire life. But, the work that I'm transitioning into is meaningful and spiritual to a degree. And, I am good at it. It makes me feel good. And, I want to make others feel good too. But, in the back of my head I'm like...how would I deal with this if someone recognized me? And, commented on say a YouTube video? Or posted a link of a tubesite where I am still posted?

    But, after talking to you ladies I'm ready to face this either way. And, I don't see any negatives in it!

    SHINE ON!

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    You're definitely not alone. I lived in fear of this for a long time. I worked as a camgirl/stripper until I was 22, then went into a conservative vanilla field, and had serious anxiety problems about being found out. It wasn't worth worrying so much, though. Some of my friends found out, and an ex-boyfriend tried to spread rumors at one of my jobs, but it wasn't the end of the world like I thought it would be. Now I'm camming again, and I am kind of okay with being found out. I let my vanilla business and my cam business overlap a bit.

    Being found out is not as bad as what you'd expect (at least, for me it wasn't. It's much easier when you're an adult and you have supportive people around). There won't be a torch-wielding mob hunting you down. If someone finds out, it might be uncomfortable, but you can OWN it and make them feel like an idiot for thinking they have dirt on you. The best thing you can do is act like it's no big deal.

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    I have to agree, here. I still get overly concerned about having 15 years of little other work experience, and I know the general public would not understand the transferable skills learned from various jobs in sex work. When I have tried vanilla jobs, I did run into some hesitation and strange behaviors from others, but, sadly, it seemed the management and people who mattered were generally impressed by anything I did very well, most likely because it was a transferable skill. I'm not sure what you're plans are, but I know if you're going to a trade or some kind of vocational school, unless you have a criminal record, it doesn't seem to matter that much. I have a few ideas I don't want to share publicly, but will say I've known former sex workers, even well-known ones, who have moved forward with their lives due to agreements and anti-discrimination laws. Sure, there are always ways around this in the US, but PM me if you want a couple ideas, if you don't already have a concrete plan.

    I think we're moving into an era where it won't be as taboo as it was even a decade ago, but I guess we're the ones who have to test that theory, right?

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    Yes. We are pioneers in that sense. Yes! Us! We are the girls that have made a living for ourselves before Snapchat and periscope. All of that. We’ve mastered live stream before it was a “thing”

    I’ve always felt liberated by being an entrepreneur no matter the skill. I fell into a funk two years ago with adult work because I couldn’t get all my vids taken down. I felt like OMG I have to forever do this line of work because it’s cemented into the internet. Then, I started investing into my health and through that found clarity. I found something I have talent in but doesn’t involve adult work. I could feel the progression and transition really taking its course on its own but I still feel hesitant about rebranding my face and saying “hi let me work with you and your kids” when there are still vids of me doing a naked strip tease on a tube site somewhere.

    But!!!! I see Cardi B. I see Amber Rose. I see all these women owning their sexuality and reality. I see Rihanna transitioning into cosmetics as she enters her 30s. Fuck, j.lo has residency in Vegas in her what? 40s? So who am I to be so hard on myself to say I can’t reinvent myself and enjoy who I am becoming. There’s no label on us that says “ONCE YOU ENTER THE WORLD OF ADULT WORK YOU CAN NEVER DO ANYTHING ELSE.”

    I look at my bank account. This will be the first year I clear six figures. It took me four years to work up
    To this. But now what? I have aspirations now. I want to make investments. I am in a different place in life than when I started. Which is why I started on this path to begin with.

    But it’s scary to do it without support. And I appreciate you all for talking to me about this. I feel like a puppy going down the stairs for the first time. I am fighting it and it seems so scary. But ultimately I know it’s the next chapter and needs to happen for personal spiritual and career growth

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