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    Hi so my parents don’t know I dance. I was wondering I’d there are any others withholding this secret from someone or living a double life. To me doesn’t really bother me haha

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    Most strippers are living a double life. I tell everyone in my family that I bartend, but I'm sure they can connect the dots for themselves and figure out what I really do.

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    Only tell people who I feel/ trust to have enough of a grasp on sex positivity (the acceptance of all/ most consentual sex and other sexual acts as healthy).
    I identify strongly as a pro-sex feminist. So if I feel that someone has masochistic views of sex (women can't make sexual choices, women shouldn't express sexuality, ect) then I don't really share any of my sex work information.
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    I didn't tell anyone in my family. Don't need their abuse. I've had more than enough.

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    Don't tell anyone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by trustfundkiller View Post
    Most strippers are living a double life. I tell everyone in my family that I bartend, but I'm sure they can connect the dots for themselves and figure out what I really do.


    Haha I know but it seems like so many are posting about it everywhere I know some that even go by their stage names in real life or who’s stage name is their real names. I feel as if my parents know but are in denial. But it’s annoying because I feel like they should mind their business

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    How old are you? How long have you been dancing? Your parents will always be your parents. They will always be in your business. They're looking out for you.

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    i only started dancing about two months ago, but everyone in my life knows except for my parents. i don't try to keep it from anyone, but i don't live in the same country as my parents so as long as they dont come to visit me, they will think im bartending. if they ever make it out here, i will let them know.
    im turning 28 in january so i couldnt care much less about what they might think of me, but i also dont want to cause them to feel bad unless i feel like they need to know, ya know.

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    I was always outright about it before but now that I have two kids I'm probably going to start telling people I'm waitressing at the casino instead... (would be hard for anyone to go there to see me since they have many waitresses and a big casino, would be able to stick with, must of been on the other floor or whatever story if anybody tried)

    I never had problems with people being judgey about me being a stripper before (just a few) but being a mom now creates an entirely different dynamic...

    I'm actually afraid my kids teacher might kick him out of his class if she found out what I really was doing... He's in a gymnastics class at a dance and gym studio.

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    Quote Originally Posted by questella View Post
    I was always outright about it before but now that I have two kids I'm probably going to start telling people I'm waitressing at the casino instead... (would be hard for anyone to go there to see me since they have many waitresses and a big casino, would be able to stick with, must of been on the other floor or whatever story if anybody tried)

    I never had problems with people being judgey about me being a stripper before (just a few) but being a mom now creates an entirely different dynamic...

    I'm actually afraid my kids teacher might kick him out of his class if she found out what I really was doing... He's in a gymnastics class at a dance and gym studio.
    My heart goes out to you. Moms can never be good enough. You should watch bad moms 2.


    I didn’t think to lie; I seriously think I was either asbergers or could be neglect. I seriously almodt never lied until 24. Often people would ask me what country I was from because I acted so different..LOL. People will judge you and treat you like shit. My mom said she was a feminist, but she still has roots in family dysfunction, so she’s been really judgy of my job lately thanks to a religious Aunt.

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    No one knows.
    I live with my bf and he has no idea

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    ^^^ this is hardcore compartmentalization. You'd probably make an amazing police officer or doctor/nurse.

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    i was secret about it for almost a year until someone told my fam--now that they know the dynamic between my whole fam and i is just... different to say the least. Word to the wise, dont tell anyone except someone who is also a sw and who u trust--maybe enable fmf on ur phone to that one person so they know where u are at all times while at work. dont post on social media either. i said i was a bottle service girl to my fam lmao (i mean i did do that at my civvie job so i wasnt reallly lying lol)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ifyouseekamy View Post
    My heart goes out to you. Moms can never be good enough. You should watch bad moms 2.


    I didn’t think to lie; I seriously think I was either asbergers or could be neglect. I seriously almodt never lied until 24. Often people would ask me what country I was from because I acted so different..LOL. People will judge you and treat you like shit. My mom said she was a feminist, but she still has roots in family dysfunction, so she’s been really judgy of my job lately thanks to a religious Aunt.
    I cried when I watched bad moms! I can’t wait to be a mother someday

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    Quote Originally Posted by vanessa_mtl View Post
    ^^^ this is hardcore compartmentalization. You'd probably make an amazing police officer or doctor/nurse.
    I know right! She’s got a me skills

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    My grandfather was a judge and I wanted to be one too, when I was younger. I would go to his court with him , and he dealt with all serious shit and one day I was at home and like I guess I was acting weird and when he was like what's wrong I told him I was thinking about the lady in court today and he told me if he had ever once thought about the courthouse or his cases when he was home with his family, he would have to quit his job because he'd no longer be able to judge fairly and live a normal home life.
    I tried to learn how to separate work and my home life ever since then. Of course I never went to law school , I tried social work, but j found myself caring too much there.
    But with jobs that require less sympathy , I never bring it home, I don't bring home to work either. When my personal life falls apart I always just find more jobs to distract myself
    No idea why I just shared such a long comment lmfao it's super early

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    This job carries a social stigma so unless you don't care that people know that you are a dancer, you should keep it private. Resist the urge to show off all your money. Get a burner phone to communicate with regulars. Dont work in the same city where you live. And don't plaster yourself on social media


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    Wish i would have read this post first i told my friends that was close to me and my mom me and my mom are still tight she doesnt care but those ppl i thought were my friends are less than suppprtive i went from speaking to them everyday to now i dont have a soul to communicate with its very lonely ... Im lonely now tbh idk it just sucks im the same person and i have never judged anyone for the decisions theyve made. I just didnt want ppl to use it against me. I am not ashamed of being a stripper at all i am fucking hot lol i just wish i had my friends back. Im hoping to make new ones any advice on how to deal with the lonelies

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    My parents are all pro-Trump and anti-sex/ anything to do with sex. I had to get the birds and the bees talk from my middle school classmates. If they found out I danced... there'd probably be a few conniptions and aneurysms lol.
    (Not to mention being disowned.)
    I try not to tell friends whose parents know my parents, because I don't trust them enough to not let something slip or for someone to see something on their phone and it to get back to my parents so do your best to keep it on the DL.

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    My good friends know I dance and they think it's cool and interesting, but I keep it from other friends. Would never tell my parents though because they would not understand and it would devastate them and change our relationship. Unfortunately!

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    I hide it from employers (day job) for obvious reasons.

    Wish I was never outed to my family, some of them keep asking for money. lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissKelley View Post
    My parents are all pro-Trump and anti-sex/ anything to do with sex. I had to get the birds and the bees talk from my middle school classmates. If they found out I danced... there'd probably be a few conniptions and aneurysms lol.
    (Not to mention being disowned.)
    I try not to tell friends whose parents know my parents, because I don't trust them enough to not let something slip or for someone to see something on their phone and it to get back to my parents so do your best to keep it on the DL.
    My parents too *eye roll* I guess sexually assaulting women and grabbing their "pussies" and having god knows how many baby mammas, raping the first one, and talking about taking advantage of mentally ill young women for sexual gratification is ok for ppl prudish with sex for some reason..but consensual sex work where the woman actually profits is just FAAAR too revolting right. The cognitive dissonance and excuses are unreal with some people.

    Op, try as best you can to keep it private but don't ever bank on absolute anonymity. Chances are you will be found out eventually. The longer you strip especially
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dawnfox View Post
    Hi so my parents don’t know I dance. I was wondering I’d there are any others withholding this secret from someone or living a double life. To me doesn’t really bother me haha
    I've been in sexwork, various branches, everything from being an escort agency phone girl to dancing to domming, and if you want to see people look at you like you have three heads, tell them you're a dominatrix. That being said, my family knows about the dancing thing, but not much else, as I don't have much of a relationship with them and they are far away from my current stomping ground. All my friends know all my stuff, and when I meet folks out & wherever it won't impact me in a professional vanilla setting, I decide at that moment which branch of the industry I am involved with and have no problem sharing. I used to hide in the shadows, lying and pretending that my life and I were something else, and that caused me even more angst than simply being forthright & true to myself. "This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man." ~ Shakespeare
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    Quote Originally Posted by Meowxo View Post
    My grandfather was a judge and I wanted to be one too, when I was younger. I would go to his court with him , and he dealt with all serious shit and one day I was at home and like I guess I was acting weird and when he was like what's wrong I told him I was thinking about the lady in court today and he told me if he had ever once thought about the courthouse or his cases when he was home with his family, he would have to quit his job because he'd no longer be able to judge fairly and live a normal home life.
    I tried to learn how to separate work and my home life ever since then. Of course I never went to law school , I tried social work, but j found myself caring too much there.
    But with jobs that require less sympathy , I never bring it home, I don't bring home to work either. When my personal life falls apart I always just find more jobs to distract myself
    No idea why I just shared such a long comment lmfao it's super early
    Your grandfather is a great man. & He is right.

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    I actually started as a waitress in a club and a few months later, they asked me to dance, never told my parents, back when I was 21. They found out when I changed clubs and my cousin came in....they got over it.

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