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    Okay, so today I had a champion room anyway I was supposed to give the hostess 10% of what I made she told me I owe her 130 ....but I did the math 5 times it came out as I owe her 119.just to be sure I asked the manager to help me with the math he said you owe her 119. I came upstairs and the hostess talked to me really fast and said" you owe me 130" I gently told her that the manager told me I owe her 119 I don't know if she understood but she responded "that's right you owe me 130 don't worry mama know one will cheat you" I gave the 130 and couldn't dance anymore.i thought to myself how can I be motivated to sell champion rooms if the hostess is cheating me?....Now here is the problem I had a lot of problems with the girls and this hostess is so sweet she always helped me which is why I am scared to confront her.I want to be on her good side. and in reality I wouldn't mind paying her 10 extra tip, but what bothers me is the thought that she might be cheating me, because if she told me "hey can you tip me a bit more"I would have said "sure np here is 15$" but I feel cheated which is why I'm thinking should I even sell champion rooms if I won't I will lose and so will the club.but now she took extra 10 what if next time she takes more money from me?I am so bothered about this...how do I confront her without making it sound like its a big deal? Would it be weird if I talk to her about it tomorrow after I already gave her the money? I could easily go to the manager but wouldn't this be considered backstabbing after all she did to me?please help I'm such a nerd and can't stand up for myself.Love Anya

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    Default Re: Is the hostess taking advantage of me?..

    Not much you can do now you done already gave her the 130. You should have said "Um Bubbles the manager confirmed your cut is 119 now where did you get the figure 130 from?"

    Just tell them direct. And you don't have to be on everyones good side. Maybe the owners or managers but not the waitress - fuck her! She is not the only waitress there.

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    Default Re: Is the hostess taking advantage of me?..

    i posted a thread the other day about something similar. i wouldn't say anything unless she does it again and try to be as nice as possible.


    personally if it were me i'd just pay it, since you said she helps you out. i'd only say something if she started raising the amount. 15 bucks is nbd if you're selling room. at least in my opinion but honestly i'm kind of a pushover lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    personally if it were me i'd just pay it, since you said she helps you out.
    This. It's good practice to share the wealth when someone helps you make money.

    Did the hostess help you sell the room in question? If so, and you didn't offer her a tip on top of her cut, she might have though it was only fair to ask you for an extra $10. And really, considering you're talking about a $1190 room (I'm guessing, since you say her 10% cut should be $119), $10 is less than 1% of the room price -- IMHO that's a worthwhile cost to stay on the good side of someone who helps you make money.

    And honestly, even if she didn't help you sell that room in particular, if she regularly helps you make money and you never tip her for it, I still think it's not worth fighting over $10. Sure, she should've called it a tip, but if you're not taking care of her when she takes care of you, she might've thought this was the simplest way to gently inform you that her help isn't free.

    If she's not actually helpful and is just nice to you, maybe assert yourself next time -- but really consider if $10 is worth losing your social capital with this hostess.

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    Oh no the hostess never helped me make money in anyway.She did however help me when one of the co workers was sexually harassing me she listened to me and told me what to do about it to help me out.She also listened to me time when I had a panic attack.She is just very sweet and nice to me and it's nice to have someone on your side.I would have tipped her more than that actually cause she is so sweet.its just the principal that I'm just thinking "you don't need to lie"I'm scared that it will get worse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anyaoscar123 View Post
    Oh no the hostess never helped me make money in anyway.She did however help me when one of the co workers was sexually harassing me she listened to me and told me what to do about it to help me out.She also listened to me time when I had a panic attack.She is just very sweet and nice to me and it's nice to have someone on your side.I would have tipped her more than that actually cause she is so sweet.its just the principal that I'm just thinking "you don't need to lie"I'm scared that it will get worse.
    She didn't charge you for that advice.
    You are probably over thinking the whole thing.

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