I've lurked around here for a while looking at the site and the conversations going on. I've been a casual SC customer for many years. I enjoy the interaction and I have a good time. Now, I humbly approach with a situation that I need some honest feedback on.
At a local club where I frequent, I ran into my ATF after having not seen her for over a year. We talked for a little bit and I bought dances with her. I asked her if she still works for the same company I do (we work in completely separate departments so we never interact at work). She said she did and on a whim (for the first time ever at a SC) I asked for and she gave me her real name. I messaged her at work the next day (not about the SC) and we chat regularly there about regular everyday happenings, plus I stopped out to see her a week ago and plan to try to visit once a month to get dances. She only goes to the club twice a month, so she is not a regular dancer and does this for extra income.
I am in virgin territory here (pardon the pun), because I had never done this before. I know that when a dancer gives a customer their real name, to me that is the ultimate in trust. Last time I was out there, we had a good talk about that and set what we expected, etc. We consider each other work friends as well as have that stripper/customer relationship. She said she appreciates the honesty and we'd see how things go.
So, ladies, is there anything else I can do? I know for a fact I don't want a personal dating relationship with her, I'm married and she is in a long-term relationship. I'm also fully aware of the pay-to-play ramifications of the business and I am a willing participant. I just want to be able to show that her trust was not misplaced because in my world when someone puts their trust in me I don't want to violate that (more important in this day and age considering how many people don't keep their word). I want to do the right thing by her.



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