Hi folks!
I'm not sure how to begin this I will just write a brief summary.
I have never been much of a guy to go to strip clubs. I never was at one until early in my career on a business trip, one of our sales reps took me and a small group of our customers out to a very nice club. I felt pretty awkward because I had no idea how to behave in the situation so I mainly just sat and watched. What a show! I was really impressed by the dancing but afterward I never really felt like I needed or wanted to go again.
The second time was with a group of friends and again I felt pretty awkward (partly because my one friend's sister joined us with her husband). I really enjoyed myself but again never went for a long time.
The third and most recent time, I again unexpectedly was taken to a club with my brother-in-law and an old friend of his. It was a very slow afternoon (actually Christmas Eve) and we basically just chatted with one of the dancers for a while (she was in no real hurry to hustle us it seemed). We had a couple of beers and tipped her fairly well before leaving.
So, my total trips to strip clubs is 3. I still have no idea how to tip or anything.
A couple of years ago, I became good friends with a new employee at work (we are both engineers) and I kind of fell for her but for various reasons including the fact that she had a boyfriend and I had a girlfriend, I never tried to push it further than friendship. She had been rather circumspect about some holes in her work history that she explained away as having worked as a bartender.
But over time she dropped some hints that I never quite picked up on until much later. Looking back, I can see that she was giving me some basic info on her past and implying she had danced for a number of years. I will not go into specifics to protect identities but she gave me plenty of info and it almost seems she wanted to tell me but couldn't for whatever reason bring herself to do it.
At one point, early in our friendship, she asked me what I thought of strippers and strip clubs. We were on a business trip together and our hotel wss near a strip club. She jokingly (I thought) asked if I wanted to go, and I sort of awkwardly mumbled that it wasn't really my thing.
Of course, I now wish I had said something different but I was terrified of having this discussion with a female colleague, especially one whom I was just getting to know.
She has now moved on to another company in another city but we still correspond occasionally.
My question to you ladies is, will it ever be apprppriate to bring the subject up with her? I am certain she eventually expected me to find out because of the nature of info she shared with me, but I was too dense to get it at the time.
Will I ever be able to talk with her about it? I have zero problem with it of course. I have the highest respect for sex workers in general and do not at all judge. It's obvious she told a white lie about her work history because she didn't want it to be widely known in professional circles.
I can respect that choice, but I wonder why she gave me such specific information that led to this conclusion. (by the way she is not the only engineer I know who worked as a stripper during and after college.)
I really would like to talk with her about it but I have no idea if it would be appropriate to do it. Of course, the very fact that I am asking probably meeans that I already have my answer.
So anyway, can any of you offer advice on this?



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'Bob the bartender' LOL..
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