Just curious....What are your best tips for men who have no clue wtf they are doing....
Have you ever been the first man that gave a woman an orgasm?
Just curious....What are your best tips for men who have no clue wtf they are doing....
Have you ever been the first man that gave a woman an orgasm?





To be completely honest, I do not think all women are they same with regard to what they like sexually.
I remember as a teenager and in my early 20's, my BF would go down on me and I would cum really fast (one time, literally in less than 30 seconds). Now, I feel like I have more orgasms from penetration.
Then, I had a friend who had a baby when she was like 20 or so and admitted to me she had never had an orgasm (a few years later)- like- dude, you're doing this all wrong! Lol.
I do think, in general; though of course there are exceptions to anything- with hetero sex; many times it is not understood that many women need more of a build up to climax. With a man, it's obvious that blood needs to flow to his penis for sex to occur. A women can still have sex (or have sexual things done to her body) without the increased blood flow, though the increased blood flow wis def. necessary for her to climax.
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I was going to put it in Ladies only but .... hell, some of them really do need advice lol (however if they don't chime in soon I may ask it get moved)
The tongue and sex toy thing (for me at least) is good advice although .... what is with men feeling insecure by a vibrator?
This is great gia!
I can relate ... I had sex many times which I would describe as mediocre. And for the longest time I just thought 'eh maybe its me'. And maybe it was as in I fucked but wasn't all the way in the mood - hence your theory on increased blood flow.
But I've had a handful of times where orgasm was really easy and uncontrollable. In my mind I was like 'dude where did you learn how to do THAT?" lol
So I guess I was curious if those courses like "How to make a woman multi-orgasmic" are valid or do men just learn from experience/their partner telling them what to do?
***I will say one thing I think men should do more often is massages to help the woman relax and get in the mood.
Last edited by miss.a.p1600; 11-17-2017 at 11:06 AM.
BATHE and brush your damn teeth thats a huge step
and dont beer belch before or after a kiss..... get those taken care of first and were ready for step 2
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I do a long screening process, otherwise as known as ten dates before taking on a new lover.
If the kiss doesn't set me on fire, no more dates. Great kissers make for great lover.
Not my job to teach men how to be great lovers, I like them already at their A-game. .
Men who care about women's pleasure take it upon themselves to study & learn. If they have not learned by the age of 22, they just don't care.
What about the "motion of the ocean" ???
Bored and decided to youtube....
This lady right here though ... lol
^^^Interesting point. But what if after 10 dates - everything was perfect.......so ya'll would literally ditch a dude after sex if it wasn't good? Would you tell him to withdraw during sex like you wouldn't even allow him to complete the act? Or would you coach him a bit, and give him a couple chances to redeem himself?
Just wondering because it could be possible you though a guy was a good lover (ex. sexy, good kisser, etc) but when it came down to the action it was less than stellar?
Last edited by miss.a.p1600; 11-17-2017 at 06:14 PM.
Learn about our anatomy. In particular our clitoris. It is NOT a “button.” It is a large organ, 4 to 6 inches in size. The “button” is just the very tip, the glands and the rest is internal. You can pleasure it by stroking the outer lips and mons pubis. And vaginal orgasms are actually internal clit orgasms! I wish more men knew about this lol
^^^True. I remember this dude told me his adult son ask him "hey dad where is a woman's clit?" lol
I think this lady has some good points too....like make the woman feel comfortable (lighting, background sounds, towels, lube, remove std risks, cleanliness, etc)





YES!
Why should I sign onto more bad sex?
There is no guarantee I will have sex after 10 dates, he had up to 10 dates to wow me. Most drop out after 3 dates of not getting laid. 10 dates is to see just what are there intentions towards me are really about.
Nope, I don't coach. Men get lazy in a relationship as it is now at foreplay. If he is bad at sex to begin with, hoping later on he will improve is a mistake. If he wanted to be a good lover then he would be. How many magazines for women are there articles on how to be good in bed, how to give the best blowjob?
Men's magazines tell them how to lie to females & get away with the most for the least amount of time, emotions & money spent. How to condition us into demanding less while giving them more. Why should I reward a man who didn't take the time to study sex in order to be good at it with MORE SEX?
All my greatest of lovers, stated they studied, they watched, they listen for the breathing in what excites the woman they are making love too. Cause if you fuck her right the first time, she is coming again & again & again for more sex.
Why all need to stop rewarding mediocre sex with more sex in hopes they will improve.
I don't owe it to any man a second chance. Why should I live life with another memory of sex I didn't enjoy? Why should I make that sacrifice for their dicks? We already sacrifice so much, when do they step up to the plate & be what we want?
That is a good point. Because it is possible you give them a chance to improve but it could go the other way and.....it just doesn't improve and youve wasted your pussy 3 times.
Also, I am assuming you are a more mature woman (b/c you mentioned young adults in their early 20's still learning) so as we get older we tend to have less patience for that sort of thing. So I am guessing you would do either #1 or #2
I know from personal experience, back then, the dude I had my first g-spot orgasm - I had to coach him. He was fairly skilled lover but for me I needed him to customize his technique for my liking. However, if he were naked right now I would not fuck him and tell him to put his clothes back on.
The older I get ---> the less patience I have.....





I am older.
Majority of men don't care, if they can get fucked 3 times before you cut them off. Well, that is to be celebrated. If you are having sex with a 22 year old then yes, he might be teachable. If you are having sex with 38 year old not so much.
While you are having sex with someone the first time, you can correct them then and there on technique & have great sex the first time. If they didn't take the hint the first time around then the 2nd & 3rd time won't be any better.
Now, if more women stopped rewarding men who are not that great in bed with more sex n hopes they will improve. Well, you are setting a bad precedent in which other females will have to deal with in the future.![]()
I don't reward men who are bad in bed with more sex. I don't care about their egos when they dont care about my pleasure.





His name wouldn't happen to be Kyle would it?
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Well I don't know about Kyle's theory..... It's sounds like he misunderstood and gave up trying. Maybe if he had some pointers, improved his mindset, etc he could prove his theory wrong. But it could be possible he is just stuck in his ways, assumes women don't experience sexual satisfaction (at least not physically) and not trying to help any of his female partners achieve such satisfaction because in his mind - it doesn't exist.
Either Kyle doesn't care or he can't fathom what he has never experienced.
As long as the woman is satisfied (orgasm or not) that's all that matters - mutual satisfaction a plus. For example the people who are paraplegic or paralyzed from the waist down may not have vaginal orgasms or penile orgasms. but I bet they still find sexual/intimate satisfaction.
Also There is a percentage of women who have never had an orgasm - neither with a partner nor through masturbation.
And I am sure no one intentionally says "hey bob last night your performance was D- so lets do round #2 next friday" ... But I could see where narcissist or sociopathic men could use women by lying saying "the more we have sex the better it will get" but they with the same mediocre sex skills just to bust a nut and not caring about the woman.
There is also the fact that some women can't just ditch a man who doesn't please them the first time. Such as women who wait until after marriage to have sex. Or say two virgins who have sex with each other for the first time. Sometimes a learning curve of bad, mediocre, etc sex may happen. Like if you know what you don't like and what doesn't work then it is easier to find what does.
And what a better way to learn how to please a woman than .... from a woman ....
Last edited by miss.a.p1600; 11-18-2017 at 03:17 PM.
Not quite sure why this thread reminds me of the "vibrating cock ring" dude in that other thread.....
But on the note of vibrating - I do think sometimes toys can be a nice enhancement to otherwise mundane sex





No evidence of the female orgasm? Kyle is a fucking idiot. It would be so easy to obtain evidence. All you have to do is scan the brain waves of a woman experiencing an orgasm, and you would clearly see the pleasure centers of her brain light up. Also, her pulse would quicken, her skin would flush, and her muscles would tighten up. All would indicate a rush of pleasure, which would be evidence of an orgasm. Also, when a woman orgasms, she has contractions.
As a side note, it pisses me off when I hear people ask, "What is the point of the female orgasm?"
The same reason the male orgasm exists. For the propagation of the species. Sexual pleasure propels us to have sex, and therefore, breed. If women never enjoyed sex, why the fuck would they ever have sex? (Aside from monetary benefit, I'm not talking about that.) I'm talking about sex in its primal state.
The question just irks me because it suggests that female pleasure doesn't matter, or that women shouldn't have bodily autonomy. As long as male pleasure exists, that's all that needs to exist in order to propagate the species?
This male dominated world needs to fucking go. Females need to take over.
Sorry....had to rant.
Men need to care and learn how to please their woman. It's all about the clitoris. Learn where it is. Be GENTLE with it. Start slow. Lots of foreplay. Ask her what she wants and likes. Be attentive. Put her pleasure first, then you can focus on your own.
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Yes. I believe Masters and Johnson did actual lab studies on couples during sex (brain, heart, physical reactions, etc.)
I'm not sure if the story in reference was Kyle not giving a fuck or Kyle being inexperienced.
Foreplay is a great tip.
And asking the woman what excites her/what her fantasies are - not all women like the same types of things





Well unlike Sam I would 'get to the bottom of things' long before ten dates. And also I don't know if I happen to have good intuition or if I've just been lucky, but I feel like you can read a guy beforehand. I don't ever see myself being taken by surprise and ending up disappointed because of this. I'm not even sure what you mean by asking a guy to just stop in the middle of the act because I would know way before that point what was up. If a guy sucks in bed I feel like you're not going to suddenly discover it for the first time mid-intercourse, you will have had advance warning.
But if everything else was perfect and the sex sucked, the guy would no longer be perfect and I'd have to get rid of him. Sexual chemistry is extremely important, at least it is for me. Honestly too now that I'm thinking about it, if I ever ended up in the situation of having to end things with a guy because of shitty sex I think I would give them the real reason and tell them that I felt no sexual chemistry. I feel like how are people supposed to learn things if no one ever tells them?





LOL NO guy EVER gets past 10 dates before having a fit of why we aren't fucking already. I do it because they assume sex with me is a given. See how serious they are of just want a one night stand. So I'm trying to get them to spend as much money as possible with just a peck on the cheek each night. I love seeing them all confused.
Kyle's story cracked me up & the responses to it on twitter are just a riot. I posted it here because I thought it was funny.
I have known a woman who said she discovered this dude had a "pencil dick" and I guess since she preferred to be filled up so to speak she realized after several strokes that it wasn't pleasurable - thats what I meant.
....at least this is according to her story
I guess in the grand scheme of things if you done already commenced the fucking and it aint hitting on nothing and you don't feel like coaching then the only thing to do is to tell him just "withdraw your penis and put your clothes back on"
I mean for size queens its hard to tell the dudes size before you see him erect. Because some men can look small flaccid but grow a lot when erect or can look big flaccid and be even bigger erect. etc....
I agree some form of honesty is acceptable so a person can get feedback and decide from there what they want to enhance/improve/etc





My tips are many but here are a few
Women like tamed or barely controlled strength. A lot. She must sense that you’re strong and confident, but that those things are on her side, not to be used against her. It is ok to show her how much you want her, but also show that you have control of yourself.
When you kiss, at first try to be gentle, and dont’t start tonguing immediately. Don’t slobber, etc, again all of this should be done with confidence and strength. The first kiss, it is ok to let her get very close to you. That creates an electricity that will help later.
If you have good pecs, abs, good hair, etc, let her put her hands on / in - know what assets you have and let her experience them. Don’t just focus on her beauty and that you want to fuck her. Let it be a bit of a two way street.
Confident touching is good, with a lover. If she wants you to touch her, do it with confidence.
Let things build, always. Sometimes women orgasm quickly but don’t time things.
When it comes to oral, watch everything. Her body will give you a lot of cues. Pay attention to involuntary vs. voluntary. Most likely voluntary is her wanting to entertain you. The first time, she might be worried if you’re any good. Once she knows you are, she’ll get into it.
There are two schools of thought on where to lick - some women swear by repetition on clitoris, others want variety. Watch her to see what works.
Some women enjoy penetration during orgasm, some don’t. Again, her reactions will tell you.
And one that may piss off some dancers - many women fake orgasms. Some few even have convinced themselves that what they’re having is an orgasm when they unfortunately aren’t. If a women fakes an orgasm and she does it on purpose, that usually means “I’m ready to stop having sex but I want you to be happy so here is some acting”. Stop, tell her she is beautiful, and laugh or talk about something. It takes time to get to the level of trust where she’ll tell you the truth. Don’t get insecure and don’t constantly ask her what she likes etc.
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Women vary so much in what we like that it can be tough. Some women have clitoral orgasms, while others have vaginal orgasms. In all honesty I don't know of a lot of women who cum from vaginal penetration alone. Usually some clit stimulation has to be incorporated in there during. Just pay attention to the particular woman that you're trying to please. What worked to make an ex lover cum might not always work for the next woman. I once had an ex suck my clit really hard. His ex had loved that so I guess he thought that I would, too. I hate having my clit sucked on, especially hard. I prefer licks and gentleness there. I had a clitkey(clit hickey) for like a week. Just find out what works for the individual woman instead of making assumptions.
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