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    Dizzy want to dance, can’t “dance”

    this forum has been so helpful, however i’ve searched everywhere & haven’t found any related posts to my biggest concern!
    im currently a cocktail waitress @ a SC. i’ve been there for about a month now. as most people probably know, it sucks. a ton of work for little to no money.
    I want to start dancing, really bad. I think i’d be really good at the hustle, etc. my only problem (and my initial reason for cocktail waitressing) is the fact that I can’t “dance”. lol I feel like I look stupid dancing when I go out drinking,, etc. i generally avoid it. I can twerk a little bit, move slowly, I REALLY want to take a pole class because I think I could be really good at pole work & it looks like so much fun. (girls at my club doing pole work seem to make great money, too) but before I can afford a pole class... i’m gunna have to start dancing. a lot of people have said dancing isn’t a huge deal when it comes to the strip club, but is that really true? I mean... you are a dancer, lol. are there any girls who had a similar problem/insecurity? is it really a learned skill? does rhythm, etc, really matter? or do I just have to be a wiley temptress who looks like she’s interested in customers lol. any tips for how to dance during an audition? should I just practice floor work? etc. help!!!!

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    In most clubs actual dancing ability doesn't matter. There are plenty of girls who don't really dance that do well. Just move slow and sexy and interact with the customers at your row.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    thank you for your reply! I can do the slow & sexy thing. my club isn’t topless, so I can’t waste time doing a strip tease or anything. how would you recommend spacing my time during a 3 song set? like floor work, walking around, any specific moves that would be easy? I feel like i’ll look stupid just walking around! maybe it’s just my nerves lol. also, we have a 2nd stage that is basically one of those shaky poles with a base in the middle of the floor in between tables. how will I survive on that thing without twerking or pole skills �� lol i’m a worry wart right now.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    Just, read up on here, watch the other girls..
    You'll catch on

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    There are tons of burlesque dance moves & stripper dance moves on youtube.

    Then there are stripper dance classes online & old dvds.
    Pussycat Dolls music videos

    Practice at home with a mirror.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    Is your club the sort that you will look out of place if you don't do polework/twerk/dance very well? Most clubs have girls that can do all that and then girls who are bad at dancing. At most clubs it doesn't matter if you are bad at dancing, but you should learn enough things that you always know what to do next on stage before you start dancing. Maybe learn a basic routine or move combinations to get you by that you don't have to think what to do next so much?

    Also at some clubs the bartenders/cocktail waitresses often make more than many of the strippers, although maybe not at your particular club idk lol.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    Wait, you said the club wasn't opless OP- is it a bikini club?
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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    I started as a cocktail waitress and got stuck there for a year before finally making my move up to stripping! I started as a cocktail waitress because I didn't have the balls to start dancing yet so I took pole classes and just really paid attention to other girls, which made me feel like a creep but they didn't care lol. I also talked to the girls who I trusted about making the move and they gave me a ton of tips, especially about clubs in this area. I have a friend who dances with me and we always go together if you know anyone who would wanna start with you.

    Sooo my advice to you is take pole classes and just do it.

    The best advice anyone has ever wrote on this website in reference to dancing is that you're not DANCING, you're moving from one sexy pose to another. (Best advice ever)! Keep us updated.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    very few girls at my club can do polework. twerking is a different story, it seems to be everyone’s go to move. so not doing that might make me stick out.
    that’s what I was thinking, too. i’m going to watch some floorwork videos later. thank you! I guess what I was really worried about is if this is a common theme with new dancers, or if most everyone goes into it knowing how to dance. but you just told me my exact plan so that makes me feel A LOT better lol.

    at my club everything is under the table. there’s a mandatory $20 tip out for bartenders, & if it’s super slow all night it’s not uncommon for anyone to come out of pocket. for some reason our clientele understands that they should tip the dancers, but doesn’t quite get the concept of waitresses also providing a service for money. stupid lol

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    Quote Originally Posted by ellexoxox3 View Post
    I started as a cocktail waitress and got stuck there for a year before finally making my move up to stripping! I started as a cocktail waitress because I didn't have the balls to start dancing yet so I took pole classes and just really paid attention to other girls, which made me feel like a creep but they didn't care lol. I also talked to the girls who I trusted about making the move and they gave me a ton of tips, especially about clubs in this area. I have a friend who dances with me and we always go together if you know anyone who would wanna start with you.

    Sooo my advice to you is take pole classes and just do it.

    The best advice anyone has ever wrote on this website in reference to dancing is that you're not DANCING, you're moving from one sexy pose to another. (Best advice ever)! Keep us updated.
    it’s funny that you say that, because one of my coworkers from my other job actually got hired as a cocktail waitress at the same time as me & we planned to start dancing together. her first night dancing was last night, though. i’m still nervous �� but I think you’re definitely right about the pole classes. I think that would help a lot, as soon as I can get my funds up thank you!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gia2608 View Post
    Wait, you said the club wasn't opless OP- is it a bikini club?
    ohp I should’ve specified. yes, it is

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    I do not know where this club is and wouldn't pretend to be an expert on dancing in every part of the world but I do not think money is so great in bikini bars.
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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    I've been dancing for a while and to be honest with you, I still barely know any pole moves. I pretty much just stalked SW and followed the advice of moving slowly and sensually. .. and it works for me! There are girls who can't dance at all at my club and actually look GOOFY but have customers coming to their stage every time they're up just because of their smile / eye contact / interaction. In contrast, there are girls who are actual pole dancing professionals who make $4 at most simply because they don't interact with anyone or attempt to make sales while on stage. Unless it is a 'make it rain' club where pole is basically required, you'll be fine.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    practice dancing at home. you don't have to really dance but it helps and trust me it's not as hard as you think it is. most people who "can't dance" are just self conscious.

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    Default Re: want to dance, can’t “dance”

    thank you guys! before I could actually make the move myself, the dance manager approached me & asked me to work this weekend �� soooo if I can scrounge up the money for a pair of pleasers, i’ll let you guys know how my first night goes! in the mean time, i’m freaking out. gunna go watch some floorwork routines now. lol

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