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    Duh falling for a regular

    Ok girls, tell me what I already know, Im crazy.

    I've had this regular older man in his late 40s since I started dancing 6 months ago. From day 1 we had a great time and connection, I normally have to fake that I am having a good time with other guys as I don't really enjoy stripping. Anyway this guy who has been going to the club for years stopped getting dances or talking with other girls since we met and always spends great great money on me.. He started going more often to the club to see me and I couldn't say no anymore to his proposal about meeting outside the club.

    We both feel so attracted to each other... the first times we just met for coffee or drinks but of course you know what happened eventually and it's been amazing every time.. he is also very good looking, in shape and loves to take care of me always tip me even if we just meet for coffee...we've been like this for 5 months and it only gets better..

    Yes he is married, and I'm not expecting him to leave his wife or anything.. NO THANKS!!! but this is the first time I get involved with a married man or a client from the club, it does bother me because I don't think it's the person I am, this is something that just happened and I didn't look for it...

    I've been trying to put distance between us but he's told me he really misses me and doesn't want this to end and I feel the same way. He is amazing like no man I have been with before and well the financial support is awesome too.

    What would you girls do in my situation?? Settle to be a misstress?

    The other day this dancer that has been in the club for years and I know he used to go and see, sat with him when I was on stage and i felt jealous cause I know he finds her very attractive... but many girls are and I never care before!! I didn't like the feeling... he left her there and came to join me on the stage but I now wonder if I am involving with him too much i don't want to get crazy... help please!! Sorry about the long post...
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    A married man will NEVER leave his wife for a mistress, but you stated that you know this. I really don’t recommend you continue with the affair. This stuff always ends badly, even deadly. How will you feel when his wife finds out and he cuts contact with you? I think you need to stop seeing this man outside of the club, and only pay him any attention when he comes in and buys your time.
    I won’t lie, I have definitely felt strong sexual urges for married men from work(vanilla job) in the past, even considering actually going for a sexual relationship. BUT I never did, and now that I have moved on and matured, I am grateful to myself everyday for this. I just couldn’t do this hurt to another woman. Think about if you were married, how would you feel your husband having a mistress?! I don’t mean to come off as rude or judgmental. I just really hope you end this and move on before things get too complicated to walk away from.

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    NOT his first Rodeo.
    He has done this before with other strippers. He knows what it takes & has the money & looks to do it.

    No sense in getting jealous, you are just his favorite for right now in this particular club.

    Just get as much money out of him as you can before he moves onto another newbie at that club.

    You are getting emotionally involved with a man who uses that emotional connection on his wife & every other stripper & more likely other females outside the club.

    Hope you are using condoms. He gets around.

    He is going to cheat on his wife regardless of her having sex with him or not. NOT like if she says no then he will NEVER EVER have sex with another female than his wife again. His Wife knew exactly who she married. Whether or not she is happy or unhappy in that marriage about her husband sleeping with other women is NONE of our business.

    Puts all the guilt & work upon women to help keep someone else's husband faithful. The "OH, he wouldn't cheat on me if other women just kept their legs shut." defense absolves the Husband of all responsibility. NO one forced this husband to go a strip club, no one is forcing him to chase other women.

    He & He alone is responsible for staying faithful to his wife. NOT the job of other women to keep him from cheating.


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    You're not crazy.
    This guy just turned the charm up past 100 on you.

    As Sam says, it's probs not his first time doing something like this. And you're the women he chose to turn the charm on with.
    Sucks you caught the feels though, but as long as he keeps paying and you figure out how not to stress it then. Hey, why not try to enjoy it?
    Hope things work out!
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    I agree with Sam, this is just what he does. Get as much as you can from him and see him as a client not a boyfriend. Goodluck
    xoxo

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    I think it's very normal to have feelings for the people we work with or work for.Its just something that can happen.But the question is what do you really want?what is your goal? You are working to make money.He is a client you are a dancer.Your job is to create a fantasy but I think now you're in the fantasy.He is married do you really want get involved in this?to be the "girl on the side" and fall in love with him even deeper? Hun I understand your confused because you have a lot of feelings but if you think about it logically you're getting into a very unhealthy relationship.its good that you're aware of your emotions so take of yourself.

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    It is completely normal to feel emotionally bonded to someone you are having sex with. Men feel it too, only this one is using it to keep you at his beck and call.
    When sex is good, really good, the brain releases chemicals that bonds us emotionally to that person.

    Now, he is an expert at this game. He can string you along as he is with many others for years. What do you want? Get all the money out of him you can while it last.

    DO NOT stop dating & having fun with other men. You don't owe him loyalty or exclusiveness.

    Do try to get something worthwhile out of him like REAL jewelry, stocks in Amazon, a Rolex. Best way to get rid of him is NOT the jealous angle, it is eventually get to be too expensive. At first flowers ontop of the cash he is giving you, then go to a jewelry store & put a $300 piece on lay-a-way. Then on the way to Starbucks with him, stop by there to make a payment, have him go inside with you. Pay like $50 on it but pout about how much you want it.

    Work your way up to stocks in Amazon and such.

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    Sam's an expert

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    Never get emotionally attached to someone who is emotionally unavailable

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    Easier said than done, to remain unemotional. You can flip the script & use that emotional pull to get even more money & goods out of him.

    Meanwhile, get a few others too. This way you stay balanced, it is how he is doing it.

    Once upon a time, a porn director was telling a famous male porn star how I was just head over heals in love with him. The porn star laughed, "Just spent the weekend with her" and WE are all in love with Sam. I know this game, so in porn when the male porn stars & directors tried to pull it on me. I flipped it on them. And this is how a BBW Older gal gets shot by every major porn company instead of just by bbw companies. I worked the men, instead of them working me.

    Always have your eyes on a bigger goal. Which for you should be stock options.

    “She's the kind of girl who climbed the ladder of success wrong by wrong.”
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    "Players only love you when they're playing"

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    enjoy it while it lasts. you wouldn't want to be in a committed relationship with a serial cheater anyways.

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    I kind of feel like the others...he’s done it before. I totally get it,I’ve had to recently slap myself like he’s a CLIENT...and this isn’t his first dance. Get everything you can and turn off your feelings,don’t make yourself so available to him. He may be a great guy,but not anything serious.

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    Girls thank you so much for all your advice!!!

    I decided to stop seeing him outside and inside the club.. I unfortunately can't see him just a client, I think it's too late for that I am super hooked, and although he was always awesome to me and money was so good I prefer my sanity and to be in 'peace'. I do well anyway and there's always other guys to make money from. I do miss him already and it's going to be hard seeing him with the next girl, But I am sure the feeling will pass and it will be for the best. We didn't have any future together anyway, there was only drama to come...

    Again thank you so much for all the awesome advice! it helped me to realize I was in a bubble where he was perfect.. but it was only an illusion...

    I hope all of you are making tons of money!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jackiema View Post
    Girls thank you so much for all your advice!!!

    I decided to stop seeing him outside and inside the club.. I unfortunately can't see him just a client, I think it's too late for that I am super hooked, and although he was always awesome to me and money was so good I prefer my sanity and to be in 'peace'. I do well anyway and there's always other guys to make money from. I do miss him already and it's going to be hard seeing him with the next girl, But I am sure the feeling will pass and it will be for the best. We didn't have any future together anyway, there was only drama to come...

    Again thank you so much for all the awesome advice! it helped me to realize I was in a bubble where he was perfect.. but it was only an illusion...

    I hope all of you are making tons of money!

    Good for you. He’s not acting crazy since you discarded him first ?

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