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    So, today I went to audition at an ex club,cause my current club has a bunch of bullying.I can't stand it anymore.Anyway,at first everything went well there was a new manager and I can tell he liked me,and everyone tipped me and the hostes told me I did great. But,then the effing house mother started saying loud"I know you what happened why did you leave" and I'm trying to stay away from her so she can shut up.(they fired me because I would let men touch me too much but I cleaned up my act I don't let men do that now)anyway she screwed me up.Now I have to go to the old club. I mean I can try to audition at a different club but the problem is that you gotta pay taxes and than I cant be on benefits (health insurance)

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    Really you cant work there because of that one comment??? I dont get it. Im not trying to be rude but after seeing lots of your threads I dont think you need to find a new club you just need to find a different type of job. I dont think youre cut out for it at all. Its not a big deal and its not meant to be an insult, I mean there are plenty of jobs I couldnt do, but this just isnt working for you .

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    Do you need the health insurance for like a current problem or just to have it?

    Because you should just work a better job, pay into a health insurance plan and pay your taxes. Not paying taxes will eventually cause you problems... The irs knows you are living somehow so if you aren't claiming any income they'll figure it out eventually.

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    You are not being rude at all.I really appreciate your honesty.Thank you so much.Can I ask what makes think that I'm not cut out for this job?maybe you see something that I don't see.Thanks again

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    Well I am paying but other clubs make you pay for everything

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    I'm making money it's just the bullying that bothers me

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    I think you're new & not used to stuff yet..
    I did worse stuff actually, I was immature & didn't have the benefit of this site.
    I say you need to read more on here & try to ignore stuff, & then if you find it still gets to you, move on.
    You can always come back..
    Also, maybe you can retry that club another time, after a while?
    Also, as I previously said, there's gonna be jealousy, backstabbing, etc @ every job pretty much, in a club it's more out in the open

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    I think you're new & not used to stuff yet..
    I did worse stuff actually, I was immature & didn't have the benefit of this site.
    I say you need to read more on here & try to ignore stuff, & then if you find it still gets to you, move on.
    You can always come back..
    Also, maybe you can retry that club another time, after a while?
    Also, as I previously said, there's gonna be jealousy, backstabbing, etc @ every job pretty much, in a club it's more out in the open
    You are a doll.Thanks you I needed to hear that.You are absolutely right bullying can happen anywhere.i need to grow thicker skin.Or just learn to deal with it.

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    I agree in that you don't seem suited for it. I have known girls who can make decent money but can't handle the rest of the job, be it the late hours, the other girls/drama, the rude customers, etc. My club just fired one actually because she was making money but cried at the drop of a hat and just didn't fit in with the house girls.

    You seem to have a very thin skin; think about it - every time someone is even the slightest bit rude to you, you come crying back here. That does not bode well for your mental health long term.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anyaoscar123 View Post
    You are not being rude at all.I really appreciate your honesty.Thank you so much.Can I ask what makes think that I'm not cut out for this job?maybe you see something that I don't see.Thanks again
    It just seems like things that shouldnt be such a big deal (like the house moms comment) make too much of an impact on you and interfere with you making money and your overall happiness. Unless im mistaken and you meant the house moms comment persuaded management not to hire you back or something. It just sounds like you let a rude comment run you out of that club. Stripping isnt a good job for someone whos sensitive or lets other people have an impact on them easily.

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    Some people are highly sensitive empaths..
    It took me a lifetime to deal with stuff & actually I'm still learning
    Should I never work because it's everywhere
    I do know I've experienced it across the board on different types of situations..
    I' bumped the Empath Thread in Life Support, please read it OP, maybe it'll help

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    Nobody said "shouldn't work", we said "shouldn't work as a stripper". There are other industries that don't require dealing with sometimes very bad energy people.
    "People jack off with the left hand and point with the right."

    "You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave."

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    House Mom asked a totally normal question. You are making a bigger deal out of than you should be.

    When I first started dancing in Dallas EVERYBODY hated me. Every bachelor party picked me, I never worked a slow night, pranced in on Friday night, get a lecture for the manager how I needed to work a Sunday or Monday night. NEVER did, just worked Friday & Saturday night. All the other girls in the club hated me because I got away with it. Didn't care. Didn't talk to any of them. Nor did I hang out in the dressing room.

    I was there to make money. I laughed or ignored all the other strippers there. All of them who said a lot worse than the House Mom did to you.

    Every office, every business isn't always nice or welcoming. You seem to think everyone is against you, when most are more worried about their own bills & their own lives.

    Everyone gets shade thrown at them, I got good at throwing it back. Respect is NOT given, it is earned. Especially in high pressured sales jobs like strip clubs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    There are other industries that don't require dealing with sometimes very bad energy people.
    Really, I have yet to find one. Maybe those that have less of those type, but there's usually @ least 1, & normally a couple, Thanks for yourpost

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Some people are highly sensitive empaths..
    It took me a lifetime to deal with stuff & actually I'm still learning
    Should I never work because it's everywhere
    I do know I've experienced it across the board on different types of situations..
    I' bumped the Empath Thread in Life Support, please read it OP, maybe it'll help
    You have not learned to protect yourself properly & cleansing rituals. Which you can do through meditating.

    How do you think I'm able to read people so well?

    You have to put up mental walls. I learned how to do it in my late 20s, otherwise my place would be a parade of ghost. One of Sylvia Brown's books helped me with it.

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    All jobs have shitty people but theyre forced to hide it better because they arent working in a strip club where people can just get away with so much more. Youre just basically on your own in a strip club especially if it isnt a high end one that doesnt tolerate as much BS. And other professions have stricter hiring standards, background checks, etc. that weed out the type of girls that are usually causing problems in the club.

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    When I read House Mom did you dirty, I think ripped you off.

    Think it is nice that she remembered you. I think you are reading females wrong and have strong mistrust of them.

    In any job you are going to have to deal with difficult to grouchy people. It is life. There are books I think should be required reading in high school or college but they are not.

    How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age by Dale Carnegie https://www.amazon.com/dp/1451612591..._FXogAbMT2JR1W

    Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill https://www.amazon.com/dp/1912032996..._GZogAb5V795Q5

    Jack Canfield's Key to Living the Law of Attraction: A Simple Guide to Creati... https://www.amazon.com/dp/0757306586..._00ogAbSSWCVV2

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    When I read House Mom did you dirty, I think ripped you off.

    Think it is nice that she remembered you. I think you are reading females wrong and have strong mistrust of them.

    In any job you are going to have to deal with difficult to grouchy people. It is life. There are books I think should be required reading in high school or college but they are not.

    How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age by Dale Carnegie

    Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

    Jack Canfield's Key to Living the Law of Attraction: A Simple Guide to Creati...
    Thank you Sam your amazing.I will read those articles.And will try to learn more about inter personal relationships.I didn't people also hated you.How did you deal with it emotionally at the end of the day?did it ever stop?if so how?did you talk back to them or ask the management to help you?im very curious.Thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by Anyaoscar123 View Post
    Thank you Sam your amazing.I will read those articles.And will try to learn more about inter personal relationships.I didn't people also hated you.How did you deal with it emotionally at the end of the day?did it ever stop?if so how?did you talk back to them or ask the management to help you?im very curious.Thanks
    There is a saying "What other people think of me, is NONE of my business."

    You are young, which also means you assume everyone is thinking & judging you. It is all about you , you, you. Realize in their heads they are mainly concerned about their own lives & NOT you.
    You are making mountains over mole hills, because what they may or may not think about you last about 20 seconds & then they move onto the next thing. Like their grocery list, did the kids do their homework, did I pay the water bill.

    It is a lot of wasted energy worrying about what another person thought for 20 seconds. We've all done it & been at that stage in life. Then we all grow up & realize the world does not evolve around us, that people are focused on their own things & not you.

    Do you think they are spending hours going over again & again about every look you gave them or every word? NOPE They have lots of other things to attend to in their lives.

    How did I deal with people hating me, I laughed & walked out the door with lots of money stuffed down my boots. Was making money so fast on the floor & on the stages didn't even have time to count it.
    Only time I talked to management was with a fake smile & lying about how I'd work a slow night next week.
    They didn't matter to me, didn't care what they thought. I had my bff with me. We fly into Dallas about noon on Friday. Got a hotel room, worked Friday & Saturday night then flew back to Little Rock on Sunday.

    I didn't work in clubs to make friends or socialize. I worked in clubs to make money. There are some clubs I did make friends at, some of which I am still close with today. There are plenty of clubs I couldn't tell you one dancers or managers name. And I worked at them for years, I was there to make money. What everyone thought about me didn't matter.

    Rarely ever talked to managers, most are creeps. They all were lucky if I gave the time of day. Now, I feel that way about pornographers, they are all creeps & just get in my way of my dreams.

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    In any industry where there is a high turn over rate of employees, there is a waiting period. Everyone who has been there a while are not going to be friendly, they are going to wait to see if the newbie last. There is hazing period in some clubs too.

    Which the ladies here are all been through & know about. Why should someone who has been there 2 years or more be friendly, invest time & energy into a new person who much just last 3 days or 2 weeks. Also they keep their distance to see what kind of person you are.

    If you are upset at the club over little slights they know you are not going to last long. It is NOT their job to jump in & save you too. Management will feel the same way. It is a sink or swim situation. If someone is friendly & you start dumping on them like you do here, that kind of negativity & drama will run them off. The negative energy is bad for making money.

    The girls will run off those with negative energy fast. The job is hard enough as it is now, much less deal with someone who causes drama or gets upset every time in the dressing room. They have to deal with enough as it is with the customers, having it in the dressing room & no place to get away from it. Is way to stressful.

    People like to be around Happy go lucky people. It is called fake it till you make it. How much fun are you to work with? You want everyone else to treat you better, meanwhile you come on here & trash them. You trashed this house Mom for merely remembering you & asking what happened.

    House Moms are there to help everyone out. You have a common theme of everyone being against you, that chip on your shoulder is keeping you from being welcomed & apart of the team. You can't assume it is upon all of them to go out of their way to welcome you. They don't even know if you are going to be there the next week.

    Going to the manager, will be a mistake. No one will respect you, for something that really isn't that important. If they really hated you, they'd steal your money, rip your clothes up, stand around the stage when you are on & stare you down. Trip you when walking through the room, get in your face & try to get into a fight with you in the dressing room.

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    That is part of the housemom's job- To alert management if a girl that has previously been fired is trying to come back. There are some offenses they won't hire girls back for.
    Secondly, pay your taxes. They're going to get you eventually.

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    I honestly understand why people have said you aren't cut out for it , because I'm a lot like you.
    I also think that right now youre probably a bit overwhelmed and found this site and have only been posting the negative issues that surround you right now which without having ever seen you work all anyone has to go by is your grievances.
    That being said, I know for me personally, dancing is a very on and off thing because sometimes it's great for me and I can not only handle it but I am happy. Until it becomes hell. Or sometimes I go back and instantly feel like I'm in hell.
    I also have had thoughts of needing to never return somewhere and left to find a new job because of being embarrassed or feeling like no one liked me.
    (I seriously regret not returning to some clubs I could be making so much more money)
    From your posts you're having some bad luck , I think Mercury retrograde just ended recently , but I've felt like you feel and during retrograde I don't dance. (if you have no idea about retrograde you can ignore this I'm a weirdo sometimes. )

    As someone who has said many of the same things as you and seeing someone else say it , one thing that will help you to get past this awkward point is to stop keeping yourself stuck. People here have given you good advice that you've shot down. I don't think you feel like you are because you have valid points for why it would be hard to do this or change that , but that's what's making people say maybe your too sensitive or whatever I didn't really read everyone's responses fully. Try changing your perspective to a more positive one. Until you do that you'll come across like you have negativity floating around you and that will make you a target for all types of bullshit.
    Also remember the people you work with don't think or talk about you outside of the club most likely. So why are you giving them free rent on your mind ? Take back your power get a cute manicure or change your hair up do something to make you look brand new and go back to work or to a new club thinking how youre the shit and you're going to make money and act like you forgot how mean the girls are or whatever you used to do at the old club bc your brand new, that's what's wonderful about being a stripper , you can recreate your stripper persona whenever you want and not end up on crazy pills.

    I don't mean anything mean by this , I'm just giving you some insight about the similarities in some of the things I've experienced and some of the things you're saying and what's worked for me or helped me get past it.
    Like I said I'm currently regretting my club hopping habits. I hope things get better soon.

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    But that's the thing.They do get in my face and yell at me and when I'm on stage they say "you wished you looked like me" or " take a shower " one of the customers came up to me and asked me "why do they hate you so much?you are right I need to learn to ignore the world doesn't revolve around me.Again thank you are a goddess.You just saved years in therapy for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meowxo View Post
    I honestly understand why people have said you aren't cut out for it , because I'm a lot like you.
    I also think that right now youre probably a bit overwhelmed and found this site and have only been posting the negative issues that surround you right now which without having ever seen you work all anyone has to go by is your grievances.
    That being said, I know for me personally, dancing is a very on and off thing because sometimes it's great for me and I can not only handle it but I am happy. Until it becomes hell. Or sometimes I go back and instantly feel like I'm in hell.
    I also have had thoughts of needing to never return somewhere and left to find a new job because of being embarrassed or feeling like no one liked me.
    (I seriously regret not returning to some clubs I could be making so much more money)
    From your posts you're having some bad luck , I think Mercury retrograde just ended recently , but I've felt like you feel and during retrograde I don't dance. (if you have no idea about retrograde you can ignore this I'm a weirdo sometimes. )

    As someone who has said many of the same things as you and seeing someone else say it , one thing that will help you to get past this awkward point is to stop keeping yourself stuck. People here have given you good advice that you've shot down. I don't think you feel like you are because you have valid points for why it would be hard to do this or change that , but that's what's making people say maybe your too sensitive or whatever I didn't really read everyone's responses fully. Try changing your perspective to a more positive one. Until you do that you'll come across like you have negativity floating around you and that will make you a target for all types of bullshit.
    Also remember the people you work with don't think or talk about you outside of the club most likely. So why are you giving them free rent on your mind ? Take back your power get a cute manicure or change your hair up do something to make you look brand new and go back to work or to a new club thinking how youre the shit and you're going to make money and act like you forgot how mean the girls are or whatever you used to do at the old club bc your brand new, that's what's wonderful about being a stripper , you can recreate your stripper persona whenever you want and not end up on crazy pills.

    I don't mean anything mean by this , I'm just giving you some insight about the similarities in some of the things I've experienced and some of the things you're saying and what's worked for me or helped me get past it.
    Like I said I'm currently regretting my club hopping habits. I hope things get better soon.
    You are right after all it's all about perspective and how we see the world.The reality is mostly in our heads

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daniellaa View Post
    All jobs have shitty people but theyre forced to hide it better because they arent working in a strip club where people can just get away with so much more. Youre just basically on your own in a strip club especially if it isnt a high end one that doesnt tolerate as much BS. And other professions have stricter hiring standards, background checks, etc. that weed out the type of girls that are usually causing problems in the club.
    true.when people get drunk they can be even more aggressive.

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