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    I’m in a somewhat unique situation, well for me anyways, with a bouncer at my new club. I work a topless club in LA and really like it aside from him. I’ve been working here a while now and am used to the really rough high mileage clubs so this is a nice break. I’m familiar with the rules of working in a topless joint and this fuckin bouncer just DOES TOO MUCH... like actively walking to me when I’m doing a dance and telling custys I’m dancing for “hands off” and shit like that which I get but seriously it’s just like every other fucking dance I do and it gets old and interferes with me hustling them.

    he also makes a point to get right next to my stage in front of everyone and YELL I’m too close to custys on stage topless etc when I’m perfectly far away. I feel like for whatever reason he targets me (I am white and blonde and he is African American)
    I’ve complained to the manager twice now and he’s been talked to both times. But seriously, it is very annoying.
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    well... what makes you think he is attacking you because you are white?are you the only white person there?is he attacking all the white girls? I highly doubt it!!!because if he did all the white girls would be complaining not just you..Does it make sense?
    In my opinion first and for most you have to look at yourself and ask "what am i doing wrong?" .You must follow the club's rules hands off means hands off!I mean is he really coming to you when customers aren't touching you? if you say they touch you a little bit.... its still touching!BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF...So first your obligation is to follow the rules!!!!But i have to say that by the type of question you ask if he is attacking you because you are white, makes me wonder if you are just a little bit too much into yourself (IM NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN I AM THE SAME WAY)to the point that you do things and you don't realize they are against the rules! IF you are really following the clubs rules go to the manager and ask him to look at the cameras tell him that you think that for whatever reason and you don't know the reason he is TARGETING you, and this makes it hard for you to work and sell rooms/dances.If the manager doesn't do anything just ignore and do your best and if you feel like its truly effecting you switch clubs. Hope I helped by the way i am also learning how to deal with people so Im not here trying to tell you that i know better.Its just a personal advice.Good luck.

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    well... what makes you think he is attacking you because you are white?are you the only white person there?is he attacking all the white girls? I highly doubt it!!!because if he did all the white girls would be complaining not just you..Does it make sense?
    In my opinion first and for most you have to look at yourself and ask "what am i doing wrong?" .You must follow the club's rules hands off means hands off!I mean is he really coming to you when customers aren't touching you? if you say they touch you a little bit.... its still touching!BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF...So first your obligation is to follow the rules!!!!But i have to say that by the type of question you ask if he is attacking you because you are white, makes me wonder if you are just a little bit too much into yourself (IM NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN I AM THE SAME WAY)to the point that you do things and you don't realize they are against the rules! IF you are really following the clubs rules go to the manager and ask him to look at the cameras tell him that you think that for whatever reason and you don't know the reason he is TARGETING you, and this makes it hard for you to work and sell rooms/dances.If the manager doesn't do anything just ignore and do your best and if you feel like its truly effecting you switch clubs. Hope I helped by the way i am also learning how to deal with people so Im not here trying to tell you that i know better.Its just a personal advice.Good luck.
    Okay, this is why I feel targeted- I am the only very white looking blonde girl in this club and for the record I am half Latina and bi lingual in Spanish so not 100% white. However I know some people are prejudice towards blonde white women and have preconceived notions. This bouncer also made a comment to my friend saying”Your blonde friend doesn’t follow the rules”, so another reason why I feel singled out because he mentioned me as “blonde friend”. I know I bend the rules a little by allowing SOmE contact sometimes, depending how slow the club is and how hard I must hustle seeing how it is a topless club in LA and all the guys just go to the nude clubs with VIPs.(and I refuse to work those brothels)

    ALL the dances are out in the open so the bouncer can see me from all sides and I see him staring at my dances and watching me like a hawk while the girl next to me is rubbing her tits and ass allll over a guy. So yea it is annoying and I feel harassed and watched constantly- like dude just let me work ffs. I think because it’s so slow and dead most of the time he is just bored.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Missdoll View Post
    Okay, this is why I feel targeted- I am the only very white looking blonde girl in this club and for the record I am half Latina and bi lingual in Spanish so not 100% white. However I know some people are prejudice towards blonde white women and have preconceived notions. This bouncer also made a comment to my friend saying”Your blonde friend doesn’t follow the rules”, so another reason why I feel singled out because he mentioned me as “blonde friend”. I know I bend the rules a little by allowing SOmE contact sometimes, depending how slow the club is and how hard I must hustle seeing how it is a topless club in LA and all the guys just go to the nude clubs with VIPs.(and I refuse to work those brothels)

    ALL the dances are out in the open so the bouncer can see me from all sides and I see him staring at my dances and watching me like a hawk while the girl next to me is rubbing her tits and ass allll over a guy. So yea it is annoying and I feel harassed and watched constantly- like dude just let me work ffs. I think because it’s so slow and dead most of the time he is just bored.
    Are you the only white person there yes or no ?im not asking if you are the whitest? Just because someone describes you ask blonde doesn't make them racist.If let's say someone would tell me to describe someone I could say something like"She has blonde hair blue eyes" anyway I believe there is an underlying issue with you.Im sorry you are not making sense at all.You are too hang up with the idea that people hate you because you are white...Maybe you have past trauma of someone who was actually racist towards you but I'm not sure it's the case NOW!!!!maybe someone told you something about people hating you cause you are white and now you became obsessed.By the way people pay attention to me also more at the club.other girls could be touching dicks all day long but when I do it I get in trouble.Some people are just more noticeable...it's not fair I know.You say to yourself" why can they get away with it and I can't? "?i advice you to stop looking at what other girls are doing and how life is not fair and do what works for you.Maybe touching dicks or letting men touch you doesn't work for you because as I said people notice you more so don't do it.Please stop comparing.Look at yourself.stop thinking the whole world is against you.You are there to work it's nothing personal.And follow the rules.Also talking to a therapist might help you just to let your emotions out.

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    I usually have a problem getting bouncers to tell customers to get their hands off.
    Sorry not much help.

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    Are you the only white person there yes or no ?im not asking if you are the whitest? Just because someone describes you ask blonde doesn't make them racist.If let's say someone would tell me to describe someone I could say something like"She has blonde hair blue eyes" anyway I believe there is an underlying issue with you.Im sorry you are not making sense at all.You are too hang up with the idea that people hate you because you are white...Maybe you have past trauma of someone who was actually racist towards you but I'm not sure it's the case NOW!!!!maybe someone told you something about people hating you cause you are white and now you became obsessed.By the way people pay attention to me also more at the club.other girls could be touching dicks all day long but when I do it I get in trouble.Some people are just more noticeable...it's not fair I know.You say to yourself" why can they get away with it and I can't? "?i advice you to stop looking at what other girls are doing and how life is not fair and do what works for you.Maybe touching dicks or letting men touch you doesn't work for you because as I said people notice you more so don't do it.Please stop comparing.Look at yourself.stop thinking the whole world is against you.You are there to work it's nothing personal.And follow the rules.Also talking to a therapist might help you just to let your emotions out.
    I agree with a lot of points made here, some I don’t but it’s an insightful way to see it none the less.
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