I know there have to be women who can relate to this being that we are in the adult business. Before I entered the industry, I was a horny lil slut. I could cum within minutes having oral, I would enjoy sex much more...I was actually horny and could get aroused very easily. Granted I was much younger and hormones were at play.
I am now 35 years old, I get horny only right before my period. I do not get aroused easily. My libido is non existent. I enjoy sex, but it is not the same. I literally need a jackhammer on my clit to get anywhere near close to cumming. I do not get very wet at all and it makes sex uncomfortable without lube. I do not cum from penetration, never have been able to easily. If I do it involves a lot of clit play with fingers or vibe. I love receiving oral but even then have a difficult time. I have the finest dude who has oral skills that cannot be described with mere words between my legs (that I fantasized about for months) and still can't cum.....and it gets frustrating!
I have read about sexual dysfunction and even this term makes me feel inadequate. I know if I saw a doc they would perscribe RX like xanas (so I could relax) and when I do take a xannie it does come easier, no pun intended, or some type of mood stabilizer. This does not get to the root cause of the problem...so I dug deeper.
I have been reading a lot of articles about tantra. To me sex was always just a physical and if attached emotional experience, hardly ever experienced sex on a spiritual level. In my research I have come across what is known as De-Armouring your vagina. I have also read similar articles on resensitizing your vagina.
According to these articles, the vagina can develop a thicker skin and spots kind of like pressure points. This happens due to being entered when the vagina is not technically ready, when you are penetrated without being fully aroused, etc. In sex work this is a daily occurrence. I have shut myself off for years. This can also happen because of sexual assault, etc. In the de-armouring process you massage the walls of your vagina, find any tense or painful spots, apply pressure and let out any emotions. The vag also stores emotions and like pressure points, you can massage and apply pressure to sensitive spots to let out these stored emotions.
According to the women who have de-armoured their vagina, the vagina becomes wetter, softer and regains sensitivity. Their libido is on fire. They can experience orgasms like g spot, cervical orgasms that they have never experienced before. Clit play is not the only way to cum after de-armouring. Orgasm can be reached just by penetration. Yes, it sounds too good to be true. Yes, it will take time...but in all my years researching this I am intrigued.
I am going to attempt to do this myself, I do not really want to use toys just yet but I can only get so far back there without one. There are special yoni wands that can be purchased to help in the process, often made of stone. There are a few different ways I can go about this but I am only going to use fingers and then work up to a dildo or yoni wand.
I am going to combine two articles. First, I will insert a finger into the vag only when it is ready. I will honor my no. I am to leave the finger in for up to 10 mins at a time. Eventually, this will leave me feeling very aroused. Then, I will begin massaging the vagina in a circular pattern, starting at the base and going deeper. If I reach any spots that are painful, I will gently press the vagina and express the emotions that were stored within. I am going to do the finger only method for a few days, then work my way into the massage. I in the end will massage the cervix, but as of right now find that very uncomfortable with a toy.
I am curious if any other ladies out there have done this and or with the help of a professional. Unfortunately here in the USA I know a yoni aka vaginal massage is not legal. I wouldn't mind seeing an expert in tantra eventually but they still cannot perform the actual yoni massage.
I am posting a few of the articles I have read about this. These articles pretty much sum up the way I feel, and what has been going on with my vag in recent years.
https://www.blissrunner.com/reawaken...l-sensitivity/
https://www.dearmour.com/de-armouring
http://tarao.com.au/tip-de-armouring-vagina/
https://www.elephantjournal.com/2016...-orgasm-adult/
There are many more where this came from! I have not honored my no in the past and mostly due to being in the industry and doing toy shows, hence why I prefer not to use a toy in this process.. I was also in a very long term relationship and pretty much ended up going thru the motions and not really enjoying sex. I am looking forward to this process, reconnecting with myself and will update my progress.



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