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    I have a good tipper who also unfirtunately sends me very long emails. I responded to couple of these and now he is into this writing almost every day. Am talking emails that are so long is like several pages of information if there were pages in an email. Everything about his life and hobbies. He also opened his wallet though and all emails are accompanied by offline tips and tips me every day in room too when am online and okay amounts. I dont know what to do though at this point his emails are getting longer and longer - money is good but reading his stuff constantly and responding to all this is very draining. I would not mind it if it was shorter email but.... Reading his email is like reading a long magazine article each day though and then I have to respond acordingly. I dont even remember all his facts at this point. Is this type someone who will ever stop writing at some point and just write somethung short or tip in room? Any advice on what to do and keep him on as tipper appreciated.He tips regularly and that is good.

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    Default Re: very long emails from tipper - how to handle this

    I have a customer who when we first met online he would write me emails that resembled long magazine articles as well. I simply told him that his emails are too long. I could no longer read them without proper compensation. I told him that the best way for us to communicate in the written form is really through texting sessions. He apologized for being inconsiderate. I told him that it was alright. Once I expressed my boundaries clearly to him everything was fine. I now do long texting sessions with him. I charge him in 60 and 90 minute blocks of time. He has been a devoted customer for going on 5 years.

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    Default Re: very long emails from tipper - how to handle this

    Is it possible to scan through the emails and respond to just a few points? Maybe write a short response once every other day, and let him know you’re super busy, but that you appreciate him sharing his life.

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    Default Re: very long emails from tipper - how to handle this

    Allowing him to email whenever he wants and then allowing him to tip whatever he wants sounds like he has too much free range and gives him the upperhand which isn't good imo. If that works for you great but I'd make it more structured and set your own pricing and have set a time frame. I don't allow guys access to my email anymore instead I've set up an option for them to be able to email me like on the per hour, day, week and month bases. Like EE I would increase the amount he pays and tell him that his emails are too long or ask him to break down his message per email like 3 paragraphs per email. Sometimes you have to get assertive.

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    He wants you to read emails and reply in your FREE TIME? err no. He would need to pay you to read them and pay you to reply, otherwise he will no doubt expect "special treatment" whenever he feels like it.

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    I ignore customers who want special attention on their terms. It always leaves me feeling icky when I allow them to have their way. Right now, it’s his way. He sends you emails when he wants telling you what he wants tipping you when he wants. The needy customers confuse our kindness for weakness because they can only think of their needs. Remember that. When he feels empowered by the experience you’ve given him just like all men in this industry they move onto other girls for a new sense of wholeness. Don’t be afraid to do what’s best for you. What’s best is never feeling drained and in the driver seat of your life and career. It’s OKAY to tell men...I know you need a lot. But this is what I’m giving you for what you are paying for. Want more? This is what I need. And in my room, I run the show. The only special attention is the attention I’M getting. Because we’re the Goddesses here

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    Quote Originally Posted by xCamLovex View Post
    I ignore customers who want special attention on their terms. It always leaves me feeling icky when I allow them to have their way. Right now, it’s his way. He sends you emails when he wants telling you what he wants tipping you when he wants. The needy customers confuse our kindness for weakness because they can only think of their needs. Remember that. When he feels empowered by the experience you’ve given him just like all men in this industry they move onto other girls for a new sense of wholeness. Don’t be afraid to do what’s best for you. What’s best is never feeling drained and in the driver seat of your life and career. It’s OKAY to tell men...I know you need a lot. But this is what I’m giving you for what you are paying for. Want more? This is what I need. And in my room, I run the show. The only special attention is the attention I’M getting. Because we’re the Goddesses here
    I know what you mean by that icky feeling...like the cam gods are frowning upon you. LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZafinaX View Post
    I know what you mean by that icky feeling...like the cam gods are frowning upon you. LOL
    That feeling is real. It’s getting into the passenger seat or even, the backseat (oh god no!) of your own happiness and letting some nameless stranger take u for a ride.

    I have two custies who spent close to 12k on me in the last six months and I let them both go. I just didn’t like being available on their whim. The entitlement they felt to disrespect me or be a misogynistic piece of shit got old. “where were you last night? With your boyfriend?”

    “Living my life doing bad by myself motherfucker.”

    I also love throwing shade when they freak out “You have a boyfriend now don’t you? You aren’t here for me”

    I say “Ha! Boyfriend? I don’t want one of those. All they’ll do is stalk me and ask me my whereabouts when it’s none of their business.”

    ....balls broken.

    The money is good when you are happy. When you are getting what u give. When the balance gets thrown off you feel drained and anxious.

    My neighbor is a psychotherapist making $150 an hour. I cannot low ball myself for being a valuable companion. The same motherfucker that will sit in a therapist chair for $300 is the same doofus that will low ball a woman for her time online. Nope. Bye Felicia. You payin today. You payin evryday.

    Girl power.

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    I say just be sweet for as long as you can to keep getting the $. Browse through the email, respond here and there, do your best and hope for the best. Thats what I would do.

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    Guide him to help groups for people who are lonely.
    Point him to volunteering at places where he can make friends & talk to people in real life.

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    Wow! once again you girls come up with brilliant stuff and loving the "being in the drivers seat" thing ! Yeah exactly am not going to be passenger on this .
    Truth is somethung else is strange here and I figured it out .
    He tips always same amount.
    Guys who get emotional tip different amounts and I can expect some whale tips down the road. This fucker always tips same exact same amount like if he was in a dime store. But the emails getting longer and supposedly emotional about him and me. I think he is just trying to use me at this point to ge his audience the reader and he will always tip me same amount because he is pragmatic fucker.
    Not sure what I decided yet but his last email is simply too long. It is much much longer than this entire thread all posts combined and I cant even believe anyone can send it to a friend even.To family member even . To anyone.I did not even read it yet except first sentence. It is so much and day before was also long email a bit shorter.How can he even do this.

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    Default Re: very long emails from tipper - how to handle this

    his email is much longer all posts here combined INCLUDING quotes about twice the size plus more...yes he send me email that long

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    He sounds like an unstable narcissist. I’ve found a lot of needy men to be passive aggressive. You might think you are guiding them but in reality they carrot dangle some money and you and clog up your productivity with their BULLSHIT. Watch, if you all of sudden don’t accommodate him 100% he will act like a little bitch. It’s a lot to ask anyone to read pages of rambles especially if it’s like “OMG I feel a connection with you” but then why would you ruin it with utterly boring me? Are you trying to dry my Pussy out with your dry and boring emails? He’s not really thinking. But the generic tips also could mean he’s copy pasting multiple girls the same dry and boring emails. Remember, men validate themSelves through the attention of women esp online. I stop trying to figure it out but just know that the more we put an end to men taking advantage the more we strengthen cam culture and that’s ultimately a good thing. Stand strong

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    Quote Originally Posted by xCamLovex View Post
    He sounds like an unstable narcissist. I’ve found a lot of needy men to be passive aggressive. You might think you are guiding them but in reality they carrot dangle some money and you and clog up your productivity with their BULLSHIT. Watch, if you all of sudden don’t accommodate him 100% he will act like a little bitch. It’s a lot to ask anyone to read pages of rambles especially if it’s like “OMG I feel a connection with you” but then why would you ruin it with utterly boring me? Are you trying to dry my Pussy out with your dry and boring emails? He’s not really thinking. But the generic tips also could mean he’s copy pasting multiple girls the same dry and boring emails. Remember, men validate themSelves through the attention of women esp online. I stop trying to figure it out but just know that the more we put an end to men taking advantage the more we strengthen cam culture and that’s ultimately a good thing. Stand strong
    oh yeah! needy are passive aggressive
    I noticed that too. Ah the silent treatment they give lol! But am ok with giving a guy special treatment if he is my vip. But this guy is a narcissist I think yes. He will never upgrade his game.
    I am not sure if is copy paste I think am getting custom mail from him and he got excited about it all. He needs to tip me much more if he wants to continue however I am also not sure if I want to continue. Am doing very well and there must be better fish out there.

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    Yes because if he is just lonely there is hope but with narcissist I will be dime store same tip every day for designer wear fuck him he needs to pay more or quit asking for these emails I realized thank you girls.
    He still welcome in my room at this point.

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    Finally read his email just now. Seems normal enpugh and kind and even interesting even if tooo tooo long. But I dont think he realizes completely I do this for a living and need money. Maybe he thinks is my hobby and and I have anothe job to pay for my hobby this being of course looking sexy and great on camera and be his email audience. He cant believe his luck at finding such a loving giving person he wrote. I think he is extremely self centered which is not news to me on any camsite but this one really is.

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    I have this high high tipper in my room and he is my regular for a while. I started getting more and more fans over time smaller and medium tippers and was happy about that but as my room grows my income stays the same because this high high tipper adjusts his tips based on what am getting in room
    . He is tipping me less or even nothing on some days depending on what others tip me and he watches that all the time.
    Then on days I have less tippers he tips me big again what he used to.
    Is he doing this on purpose?
    The thing is if he kept his tipping same then with the all the added fanbase (am on toke site) i would go off the charts and make more and more money each day. But am staying same all the time as he adjusts his tips.
    Am trying to understand is he controlling me and trying to keep me in line , upset that am getting more fans or simply did he run out of money.
    This information is important as am trying to figure out how much attention to continue to give to this tipper and if he is simply some kind of passive aggressive mode because I have more members.
    I know a lot of you here understand their psychology so am goving it a shot asking here as I thought before all I need is more fans to have more money and with that high tipper in room is a sure thing and now he is behaving like I dont need extra money since others tip me and is getting on my nerves his tipping should not be affected by what others do?

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    No, I don't think he's doing anything wrong. He probably is hoping that other members will chip in too, instead of just sit back watching him do it all (while they benefit off his tips, which is unfair). Think about it. If other members (whether they have money or not) are used to seeing this one guy tip the entire amount all the time, they will get spoiled by it and used to it...and they will think "Oh, cool. I don't have to spend any of MY money, cuz this guy's doing it all. Ooh, and now she's gonna flash us again!"

    Wouldn't you rather have several people chipping in towards your goal, rather than have the one person do it all?

    Back in the day when things were going great for me on MyFreeCams, my #1 reg would do almost all of the tipping, and I'd feel bad and fear that one day he would get sick of it. I always wished that more members would contribute, rather than sit there relying on him to do it all. Also, he was the kind of person who, when he ran out of tokens, he made sure to not come into my chat again until he had more. He felt that it was wrong to be in my room with 0 tokens (even though I told him I don't mind...he contributes a lot, and chats). So when he did run out of tokens, the next camming shift he wouldn't be in my chat at all. And that would bum me out, because I always looked forward to having him in my room. Not just for his money, but for his conversation too.

    So think of it like that. Wouldn't you like to have different people spending in your room, rather than just the one guy? Especially if he is the type to bow out of the conversation/chat when he's down to 0 tokens (or GOLD or wahtever). In a perfect world, tipping in a public chat room would be a GROUP EFFORT...not just one guy doing it all while others freeload off him.
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    Thanks BrownFox! yeah well I prefer when more people chip in being depemdent on one tipper is a nightmare. However I worked hard in getting new fans interested in my room and I assumed it will take me higher and make me more money. Instead he adjusted his tips so much that am same income now. I just dont undestand hos behavior if he tipped me same as before or close i would be so high now. I feel he is punishing me to some degree but maybe am gettung paranoid and you are right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dorothea View Post
    Thanks BrownFox! yeah well I prefer when more people chip in being depemdent on one tipper is a nightmare. However I worked hard in getting new fans interested in my room and I assumed it will take me higher and make me more money. Instead he adjusted his tips so much that am same income now. I just dont undestand hos behavior if he tipped me same as before or close i would be so high now. I feel he is punishing me to some degree but maybe am gettung paranoid and you are right.

    No, I don't think he's punishing you. Be glad that you have a regular who tips you so much, because if this is MyFreeCams you're talking about (a site where regs make up most of your paycheck), losing your #1 reg could be really bad for your earnings. Trust me...I know.

    If you're no longer happy with your earnings and want higher amounts, maybe you can adjust your room topic goals to higher amounts. Like if you did X tokens until topless/nude, increase it to a higher amount. And maybe start adding more incentives to get these cheap fuckers to tip. I, personally, think it sucks ass when we have to add all this extra bullshit to our topics just to get guys to tip. But we're dealing with changes now, and guys just aren't satisfied with tipping for flashes anymore. Now they wanna tip to see you go into convulsions, and watch your eyes roll to the back of your head. Lmao.

    I still think you're being too harsh on your regular. Like I said, it sounds like he's trying to encourage the tipping to be a group effort. Don't take your frustration out on him when the people you should be annoyed with are all the premium/paid members who sit there in your room not spending. What's worse is some of these guys probably be in other rooms tipping other models, but then come to your room and don't contribute a damn thing. You'll start to recognize familiar screen names as frequent lurkers (won't tip and won't talk). On MFC, I kick these people. They continue to do it, then I ban.
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    ok well you know how men are
    is always good to keep track
    but yes I think you are right and am overeacting here thanks !

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