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    Angry Hate from a female customer (a little venting)

    So,I don't hide my job or my other job(porn). So while I was dancing onstage at my club the DJ was
    doing what he normally does and he announced that I have been in porn. So anyways after I had
    Got off stage I was talking to a couple. And the woman began shaming me for doing
    Porn and asked if I had children that were girls would I be proud if they did porn..
    And that if I had any children If I would have any they would be embarrassed and ashamed of me. I didn't honestly
    know how to handle how she was speaking to me but I was damned if I wasn't going to defend myself in some way.
    so I told her. 1) my decisions as an adult are mine, so I feel like my children's decisions as an
    adult will be theirs. Now I'm not going to walk them down my path or encourage them to do what I
    do or have done. But like I said when they get older, I want them to be happy with their own choices and
    if they chose to be a dancer or hell even porn I would support them.. Ffs I would support them no matter what they do.
    Then I told her 2) as far as them Being ashamed or embarrassed. I honestly don't think it'll be an
    issue. Because I do what I'm doing (dancing and porn) to be able to. Give then the things they need
    or want in life. And when they are old enough I will gladly give them the reason behind why I did what I do.
    I taught them to not be judgmental. They are respectful and I have never seen them shame or be rude to
    Someone because of how they live.

    I told her that before she acts like I'm the most horrible person she's met, maybe she should consider
    The people who are off doing way worse then me making my living. I ended up getting up and going out to the smoking area
    To cool down.

    I normally don't get mad at people judging me for what I do. But she brought my children into the conversation
    and that just activated the bitch in me.

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    Oh I feel you. I'm wondering what this porn phobic woman was doing in a strip bar?


    & Personally my worst interactions with abusive customers have been women acting in ways they should not.

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    ok not to be weird but i think we work at the same club lol

    but yeah i stopped working thursdays when they turned it into some ladies night thing. because of shit like this.. women can be horrible. i can't believe someone would feel like it's okay to say that to someone they don't know. why was she even there? her husband/bf probably dragged her there and she's butthurt because he likes strippers and porn.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    ok not to be weird but i think we work at the same club lol

    but yeah i stopped working thursdays when they turned it into some ladies night thing. because of shit like this.. women can be horrible. i can't believe someone would feel like it's okay to say that to someone they don't know. why was she even there? her husband probably dragged her there and she's butthurt because he likes strippers and porn
    Are you in austin? I work like 3 different clubs in austin.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett Monroe View Post
    Are you in austin? I work like 3 different clubs in austin.
    yep i PM'd ya

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    Female customers need to be banned or their movements severely curtailed. They are nothing but a detriment to our financial and psychological well being.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Female customers need to be banned or their movements severely curtailed. They are nothing but a detriment to our financial and psychological well being.
    ugh, yes x1000

    our club encourages them and it's so annoying. i die a little inside every time i have to act fun and nice towards a sloppy drunk or bitchy woman who comes to my stage expecting the world for $3

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Female customers need to be banned or their movements severely curtailed. They are nothing but a detriment to our financial and psychological well being.
    I agree!!! & In my experience a lot of strip bars kick out lone females because they assume she's either soliciting or is an angry wife. However I work in the Midwest so this might not apply to all regions.

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    Ugh this women sounds like a insecure bitch, why the fuck is she asking you stupid questions fuck her!, her man will probably come back alone.
    xoxo

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    Fuck ‘em. Simply cannot be bothered to approach women or couples, even knowing full well I’m leaving some money on the table. Sounds like you handled it graciously!

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Female customers need to be banned or their movements severely curtailed. They are nothing but a detriment to our financial and psychological well being.
    can this be a psa? and to the lady i would have said 'I'm sure your man will cheat on you and leave you one day for a woman that's more open minded".
    petty but satisfying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crystalize View Post
    can this be a psa? and to the lady i would have said 'I'm sure your man will cheat on you and leave you one day for a woman that's more open minded".
    petty but satisfying.
    I'll be honest I'm petty, I just didn't think of anything mean atm. And I totally agree woman's movements should be watched or at least their attitude.ive seen way too many arguments outside the club where the woman bitches her man out for looking at another woman.. Yet she is either the one that suggested it to him to be cool... Or he dragged her along and she went along with it thinking she could handle it. I have told a few"sorry yo, but as women we are extremely territorial."they never listen and still stay until something
    Pisses them of. I normally don't like couples but i went over anyways cause I think my brain forgot that couples suck ass.

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    Seldom have I had a good female customer. Female customers that consistently tip you a good amount, don't try to 'dance' with you when you're on stage, don't dance in front of the stage and do basically everything negative stated in this thread are like unicorns. I also don't even bother approaching women groups or couples though I know sometimes couples do spend money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett Monroe View Post
    So,I don't hide my job or my other job(porn). So while I was dancing onstage at my club the DJ was
    doing what he normally does and he announced that I have been in porn. So anyways after I had
    Got off stage I was talking to a couple. And the woman began shaming me for doing
    Porn and asked if I had children that were girls would I be proud if they did porn..
    And that if I had any children If I would have any they would be embarrassed and ashamed of me. I didn't honestly
    know how to handle how she was speaking to me but I was damned if I wasn't going to defend myself in some way.
    so I told her. 1) my decisions as an adult are mine, so I feel like my children's decisions as an
    adult will be theirs. Now I'm not going to walk them down my path or encourage them to do what I
    do or have done. But like I said when they get older, I want them to be happy with their own choices and
    if they chose to be a dancer or hell even porn I would support them.. Ffs I would support them no matter what they do.
    Then I told her 2) as far as them Being ashamed or embarrassed. I honestly don't think it'll be an
    issue. Because I do what I'm doing (dancing and porn) to be able to. Give then the things they need
    or want in life. And when they are old enough I will gladly give them the reason behind why I did what I do.
    I taught them to not be judgmental. They are respectful and I have never seen them shame or be rude to
    Someone because of how they live.

    I told her that before she acts like I'm the most horrible person she's met, maybe she should consider
    The people who are off doing way worse then me making my living. I ended up getting up and going out to the smoking area
    To cool down.

    I normally don't get mad at people judging me for what I do. But she brought my children into the conversation
    and that just activated the bitch in me.
    Without sounding too sexist I have to say, I honestly wonder if it's more often women that very vocally shame other women for their choices in sex work? I mean- does that not make it appear like it's a jealousy issue within herself? I don't hear a lot of men shaming women for it(besides the obvious evangelical politicians maybe, but they're just catering to their crowd). I really do wonder how much of it is jealousy and insecurity versus legit concern for the debauchery of modern society LOL

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    Good for you girl.You handled it with a class.And you know what I don't get ?people have respect for lawyers who steal money from innocent people.But, being in porn and not hurting anyone is concidered a crime because it's not socially acceptable .Bullcrap.I would also add that she has to be ashemed for the way she speaks to people.And why the f is she in a strip club if she has a problem with the sex industry?what a low life person she is.Again good for you girl.

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    Quote Originally Posted by magicgembliss View Post
    Without sounding too sexist I have to say, I honestly wonder if it's more often women that very vocally shame other women for their choices in sex work? I mean- does that not make it appear like it's a jealousy issue within herself? I don't hear a lot of men shaming women for it(besides the obvious evangelical politicians maybe, but they're just catering to their crowd). I really do wonder how much of it is jealousy and insecurity versus legit concern for the debauchery of modern society LOL
    Bingo!!!!! Yes women are the absolute worst slut shamers of other women.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SnuffleUffleGrass View Post
    Bingo!!!!! Yes women are the absolute worst slut shamers of other women.


    Exactly, yet I personally don't give a shit how a woman makes her living. As long as she is happy then who should stop
    Her or judge her? I've never been a judgemental person.. And I honestly don't get the hate the some woman produce..
    I haven't only experienced hate from civilian women (women who aren't in the industry). I've experienced it from other
    dancers. I've had other dancers announce that I was a slut all because I did porn. I was like
    Bitch do you know my life? Do you know who I am as a person? Gtfo of my business and maybe worry
    about your damn self. Anyways. Can't we all just get along?!?!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Scarlett Monroe View Post
    Exactly, yet I personally don't give a shit how a woman makes her living. As long as she is happy then who should stop
    Her or judge her? I've never been a judgemental person.. And I honestly don't get the hate the some woman produce..
    I haven't only experienced hate from civilian women (women who aren't in the industry). I've experienced it from other
    dancers. I've had other dancers announce that I was a slut all because I did porn. I was like
    Bitch do you know my life? Do you know who I am as a person? Gtfo of my business and maybe worry
    about your damn self. Anyways. Can't we all just get along?!?!
    strippers are just as bad you're right. some people always wanna find someone to look down on because it makes them feel better. lame cuz all sex workers should be understanding towards each other at least. but nope it's always "well at least i don't don't do extras/porn/escorting". like, so? you still grind on boners for a living loi who tf are you to judge

    i don't like when girls do extras in the club while i'm there because it hurts my money and isn't fair. but whatever someone does on their own time is none of my business and idc cuz it's not affecting me. i agree that most people who get their panties in a bunch about sex work don't REALLY care about our well being like they say. they are just assholes. that lady doesn't give a crap about your kids cuz she doesn't know you or them she just wanted to make you feel bad

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    Quote Originally Posted by Girl Anachronism View Post
    strippers are just as bad you're right. some people always wanna find someone to look down on because it makes them feel better. lame cuz all sex workers should be understanding towards each other at least. but nope it's always "well at least i don't don't do extras/porn/escorting". like, so? you still grind on boners for a living loi who tf are you to judge

    i don't like when girls do extras in the club while i'm there because it hurts my money and isn't fair. but whatever someone does on their own time is none of my business and idc cuz it's not affecting me. i agree that most people who get their panties in a bunch about sex work don't REALLY care about our well being like they say. they are just assholes. that lady doesn't give a crap about your kids cuz she doesn't know you or them she just wanted to make you feel bad
    Her goal wasn't met though lol... Instead she succeeded in pissing me off and if I had met her outside the club and she said that shit, you can bet I would've kicked her ass.

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    I don't know what was in the water last night but I bagged 2 unicorns in a row.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    I don't know what was in the water last night but I bagged 2 unicorns in a row.
    "Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I don't know what was in the water last night but I bagged 2 unicorns in a row.
    I belive those are definitely rare.. Now you won't see one for another year lol. But glad you got lucky

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    I don't know what was in the water last night but I bagged 2 unicorns in a row.
    I hope the whatever is in your water comes over to my area!

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    Ugh I hate that. I aaaaalways go up to couples because most of the girls at my club avoid them so sometimes I'll get a cool chick who's happy to see me and she'll mention that no other dancers have come by. When a female customer is nasty to me I just remind myself how sad it is that she can't even trust her boyfriend to go to a strip club by himself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tempest666 View Post
    Female customers need to be banned or their movements severely curtailed. They are nothing but a detriment to our financial and psychological well being.
    The only female customers I like are dancers/former dancers themselves. Because they "get it" whereas civvies just don't.

    OP, her judgemental attitude says more about her than it does about you. She probably got pissed bc her guy enjoyed you and it made her feel insecure.

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