Can somebody please explain to me what's up with the girls that just sit in the corner and text for the majority of the day.I don't get it.Why do they come to work?and do they care about loosing money?


Can somebody please explain to me what's up with the girls that just sit in the corner and text for the majority of the day.I don't get it.Why do they come to work?and do they care about loosing money?
Perhaps they like being at the club better than being at home for whatever reason. They don’t feel like hustling. They’re on their phone looking at job openings and applications. They’re waiting for a regular to hit them up. Their feet hurt and they need to sit down. I’m sure if they were worried about making money they’d be making it lol...





Leaves more money for you to make.
Why are you up in their business?
What they are doing and why is NONE of your business. You are there to handle your business and make money. You seem to have problems doing just that, with watching them to see if they are breaking the rules to now them on their phones at work.
yes there's lots of reason. i usually sit on my phone a lot when i go in early because it's slow. i figure i'd rather be on my phone @ the club instead of on my couch just to save money on fees. i rarely make money those hours but it still puts me ahead by 20-40$ just sitting there.
also i've been diagnosed with anxiety disorder since i was 7. i try not to let it run my life but it's a struggle. sometimes i have to force myself to go into the club and consider just showing up to be a victory. i end up spending a lot of time sitting alone trying to psych myself up or calm down or whatever. even if i only make a little it's better than letting my anxiety win and staying home. it's not because i'm a moron. i have friends and a boyfriend i frequently text for pep talks or to ease my mind.



This seems like another unspoken rule you haven't noticed, mind your own beeswax.




Everyone's listed loads of good reasons. I'd rather sit by myself and not talk to anyone that waste my energy socializing with useless regulars. The girls have probably been there longer than you and know their clientele and who is a total waste of time.





Stop focusing on your damn co-workers.





I was the same way. I needed time to myself, so while it may have looked as though I was losing money, I was really doing what a high-strung introvert with anxiety needs to do, before a high pressure sales job.
It's really common for girls in the SC to judge each other at a surface level... *she* looks like she's banking, *she* looks lazy and broke... but you don't always know what's in their wallet, or what kind of life they have at home, or why they're at the club.


This. I am seen on my phone alot and I've actually been on it so much that girls Don't Understand how I make what I make. I have bipolar disorder and PTSD so for me if I can concentrate on something else for awhile I feel better and more calm then sitting around with my own thoughts. And yeah I could do something else but I Wouldn't make the same amount of money I do In the clubs. Like it's been said a couple times already you don't know what's going on in that person's life. I Never judge because what they do or how they do something could be a coping mechanism. So please don't judge or assume.





I've been this girl. At the time I really didn't need to make that much & the bar was slow.
I sit out there with my phone because I don't really like hanging out in the dressing room. That's where all the drama goes down. Sometimes i'm just taking a little break or its slow and there's nothing for me to do so I just hang out in the club and mess around on my phone. I also like being out there instead of hiding out in the dressing room because i've had customers come up to me and ask to get a dance so that's good. I feel like im advertising myself while getting some rest lol.
SOme people have addictions to illegal substances, other have addictions to mobile devices ... candy crush is a motherfucker



When I worked at clubs that did not prohibit you from being on the phone, I'd apply for acting gigs, sift through and comment on sex worker forums such as this one, and do some reading that may or may not have been relevant to this job or any other job I was trying to get. So in a way, I was being productive.
There were a lot of times when the club is slow. Since the club is not paying you an hourly wage to decorate it's interior with your presence, I don't see anything wrong with being on your phone. As a matter of fact, I'd think it illegal for a club to prevent you from being on your phone considering you are an independent contractor, especially if it is dead. Also, inequitable club policies that allow customers to be on their phones texting away, talking and even photographing or video-ing the dancers without the dancers expressed consent and without consequence but do not allow dancer phone use on the floor, with Sapphire NYC being a prime example, are bs.



People have this idea that if strippers aren't making $1000 a night and constantly hustling, there's no reason to be there. That's just slut-shaming and whorephobia in action, the idea that we are wasting our time unless we are banking and hustling hard as fuck. Let go of the idea that you are worthless if you don't make money and you'll never be bothered by what others do or don't do again.
Sometimes I do that. It’s because I hate this job. :-)


I'll do this sometimes if it's slow and customers just walked in and I don't think they're ready for a dance or anything yet. Sometimes it's better to give them time to relax and save your energy and conversation for when you think they're ready to actually spend money, rather than burn yourself out.


Thank you so much beautiful amazing girls.Im sorry if I have offended anyone with the question.And thank you for telling me to mind my buissness lol, its true, I rather you tell me then my manager having to tell me this.So thanks I'm learning.❤️And for those who said they have ptsd or anexity you girls are brave, it's a good coping skill didn't think about it.





I'm usually texting my regulars to get someone to come in bc it's slow and I don't feel like hustling that day.
I highly recommend the book Superbetter by Jane McGonigal for anyone who struggles with anxiety! It’s science: games like Candy Crush that are visually engaging and require using strategy/cognition are effective for reducing anxiety! So if I’m sitting around on my phone, I’m soothing my anxiety by playing Tetris, Words with Friends, or Design Home when it’s slow and/or I’m not up to interacting with customers yet. I am neither lazy nor a low earner.
I've been that girl. Here is why I am on my phone...
*the club is dead. So I am texting customers, applying for other jobs, doing stuff pertaining to my next career, paying bills, just trying to make good use of my time because I know the 3 guys in the bar and I know they don't get dances, so why sit and talk for free???
Like others have said, focus on your own business.
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