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    Default how do you deal with disrespectful clients/bad experiences mentally?

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    do you ever get clients that make you feel bad about yourself or your job? lately things have been slow over here and I'm finding myself occasionally taking a client that I normally would have turned down. I have a hard time emotionally disconnecting from the appointments after.

    And how do you handle the situation when a client is disrespectful or does something you do not like? Do you suck it up to try to do the best job possible or do you bitch them out?

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    Default Re: how do you deal with disrespectful clients/bad experiences mentally?

    I’ve had clients that try to make like I should be so blessed that they grace me with their presence since I’m just a lowly sex worker. Well guess what Mr. Big shot? You f’ing called ME! I just don’t listen to it. If they wanna pump up their ego at the expense of my sanity then I end the session and ask them to leave. In the end they’re the one with a problem not me.

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    Default Re: how do you deal with disrespectful clients/bad experiences mentally?

    lol thanks! but do you give them the money back? I guess I'm always scared of confrontation or things turning ugly.

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    Default Re: how do you deal with disrespectful clients/bad experiences mentally?

    I guess that depends on what you mean by "disrespectful." To me, there is a difference between a client that gets out of line trying to physically do things that you are not ok with (being too rough, trying to slip a condom off, etc), and a client that just says kinda stupid shit like "Well, you know you can't do this forever/you need to find yourself a good man and get out of this business/blah blah blah 'white knight' disparaging crap."

    If a client is pushing boundaries, I give them a warning, then, if they try it again, I get up and make it very clear that I am not fucking playing and am 2 seconds from walking out the door if they don't shape up. I've never had it escalate past that point, thankfully. If a client is just spouting dumb shit, even if it's derogatory, I just kinda do the nod/smile-mentally roll my eyes-keep doing my job thing. I could honestly give a shit what their opinion is of me and my job as long as they're paying me. If I bitched out every client that just made a dumb comment, I'd have almost no business left. Of course, there's also a difference between that sort of thing and actually making super derogatory comments that are obviously meant to hurt and humiliate you. You should leave those clients immediately.

    I've never gotten to the point where I have had to actually walk away from someone mid-appointment, but if I did, honestly, I would probably just leave the money. If someone is that bad, they're probably unstable, and I wouldn't risk my safety to grab a few hundred bucks that I could make back elsewhere. Assess the situation accordingly. Pride, and not getting screwed over is one thing, but it doesn't outweigh your safety if you think the situation is so dangerous that you need to leave.
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