I feel like my biggest fear, is approaching guys in the club, I think my fear is rejection. But what’t are some things I can do. Like do I touch the customer. Wink at the customers ? Just start dancing. Like wha do I do lol ?
I feel like my biggest fear, is approaching guys in the club, I think my fear is rejection. But what’t are some things I can do. Like do I touch the customer. Wink at the customers ? Just start dancing. Like wha do I do lol ?
Hi BlueDiamond.
I'm still new at this, too, so I'm following this thread. I hope my shared experiences help you.
I've worked at a Seedy club in a third tier town, a So-So club at a shopping mall, and a club downtown.
At the seedy club, I find that just walking up and saying "hi, how are you" works, like I'm talking to a stranger on the train. This leads to whatever conversation you or he takes it.
Earnings were based on stagework and just having a good 'ol time with custies, so there wasn't much pressure to perform spectacular first impressions... just say hi, introduce yourself and mingle.
At the so-so club, "hello there, Mister. Did you like my dance?,"
"Hi... I couldn't help but notice you looking at me *wink*" with a sexy, suggestive intonation, while the silence afterward gives the custy an opportunity to say "yes, I love those long legs of yours" or blah blah,
or "Whoah, you're wearing your military hat/your eye color is striking/you're wear a very distinctive dress. Are you an officer/hazel/ a professor?"
There's a little more competition here, so I try to keep the custy focused on me.
If I can identify his personality and ego, I try to use that info first. Then I watch his reaction (hoping it's positive), piece the situation together as I go along and then react accordingly. This is with the intention of cracking his guarded "fuck you, stripper" self.
These lines help me learn the custy's likes/life so I have a better angle to open him up and get money. Him revealing his sexual likes gives you fantasy fodder, and learning about what kind of person he is helps me change personalities and get closer to him.
I've had 50/50 success at the higher-end club, since I'm probably below average regarding class, looks, and education compared to the other dancers and that affects how custies see me. In spite of that, finding custies whom I share knowledge and experiences works.
Acting like a hostess/confident dancer gets me by: "hello there, how are you? ... Thank you for watching me dance. ... Yes, I agree. *add whatever opinion here* And welcome to *club name here*,"
"I cannot believe this guy! He asked me to *bleh bleh.* I would be flattered if he were asking this in my apartment, but hey man, you're at the club!*
One, if I can make an instant, deep connection and add a little sexy, BOOM tip.
If a custy has class and he isn't in there explicitly for cumming his briefs, the hostess thing might spark something in him.
The confidence thing is to engage and gauge. This is good for being funny or.just starting up a conversation.
Here, you don't have to be fabulous all the time. It's good to be authentic and have real convos every once and a while... just don't lose track of money!
So pretty much, all of my lines are ice-breakers/conversation starters. Going from lower to higher prestige of the club, the requirement for creativity in content/delivery and sensitivity to the customer increases in my case.
For rejection, just remember that custies = money. I was shy... still am, kind of,
but once I realized how many custies I missed staying in the dressing room/not finding compatible buyers, I had more courage to try to get some money. I've had slightly better earnings after that.
Rejection is normal. It's just a custy's way of saying your not his type of fantasy/not in the mood/already eyeing someone. Just brush it off nicely "OK, thanks for watching anyway. *smile*" and move on to the next one.
if you're not comfortable being super aggressive and going up to everyone it helps to walk around the floor and just look at everyone while smiling at them. it feels stupid at first but you have to smile and look super happy/upbeat. try to make eye contact and see who bites without actually talking to them. the guys who are an easy sell will usually eye you up and down or smile back, sometimes wave you over. they will at least keep eye contact when you look at them. if someone looks away when i glance their way, i don't bother.
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