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    I have this huuuge crush on this host and I know it’s a bad idea to even get involved with someone you work with so I have tried to ignore it and push it away and sometimes even changing hours to avoid this guy but I can’t seem to get it off my mind.

    We have locked eyes a bunch of times and I can tell he tries to avoid me also. I’ve caught him staring at me plenty of times. I don’t know if he has a crush on me or not for sure but my intuition tells me he does. It’s really starting to become a problem because I think I’m making it painfully obvious I like this guy and I come home wishing he would talk to me even though I know it’s a terrible idea and I’m avoiding it. I’ve kept it between myself for months.

    What do you girls suggest I do?! And has any of you had a similar problem at work? Please help!

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    Do you work at my same club...LOL. Yes! It’s a bad idea. I only know of one happily married couple from work. I’ve seen a shit ton of drama because the bouncer fucked two different girls.

    dont do it girl! Watch some porn take a mental picture for later, but unless there’s lots of clubs to work at if things go south I wouldn’t!

    just makes a joke of it to get the tension out of the way, then focus on money $$$

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ifyouseekamy View Post
    Do you work at my same club...LOL. Yes! It’s a bad idea. I only know of one happily married couple from work. I’ve seen a shit ton of drama because the bouncer fucked two different girls.

    dont do it girl! Watch some porn take a mental picture for later, but unless there’s lots of clubs to work at if things go south I wouldn’t!

    just makes a joke of it to get the tension out of the way, then focus on money $$$


    Maybe! Haha and I avoid him and any eye contact so much that it’s actually obvious I’m avoiding him! Ugh! And he totally does the same thing but sometimes he will come up and talk to me and he will be a little awkward. I know I’m not going to do anything I just can’t get him off my mind

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    I say go for it if you enjoy drama and an extremely likely loss in earning potential.

    Seriously though, it’s almost never a good idea on ANY job. Make your stacks and go home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MedusaUnleashed View Post
    I say go for it if you enjoy drama and an extremely likely loss in earning potential.

    Seriously though, it’s almost never a good idea on ANY job. Make your stacks and go home.


    Yes you’re absolutely right!

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    Default Re: I have a big fat crush on a host

    Distract your thoughts as much as possible concentrate on your $/ custies.
    Avoid him as much as possible (which, it sounds like you're doing!)
    Good luck!

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    NO girl just noooo. I had the same kinda crush when I was new. Foolishly we hooked up once and it was disappointing, didn’t do me any favors and likely worked very much against me in the long run. They are usually playing a game much like us and I’ve learned never getting too close to anyone at these clubs is the best idea.

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    Yep stay away! I have found that if I find out their name I will general do some MASSIVE online investigation, like google them and look up their Facebook or instagrams. This might be creepy but frankly I've started doing this when I meet potential dating opportunities too. A lot of people true colors come out online and they don't even know it. Like them having multiple Facebook accounts, or IG's, or following 1000 girls on IG (insecure fuckboy), etc.etc. You can weed thru all the red flags really quickly if you do some investigation, also it really really helps you lose attraction to. Because you find out who they really are.

    There is this host/cp guy at the club I work at who I totally have chemistry/sexual tension with, like I can tell he really likes me etc.; we've talked a few times and each time he's come to me. Anyhow, I found out his name cuz he's best friends with one of the bartenders, and I researched him online and just found out SO much crap like I would NEVER date him, ew, just no. So it's helped me just appreciate his pretty face and energy and go NO FURTHER than that.

    A general rule of thumb I like to keep is to never date someone while dancing that I would date when I stop dancing. Like theres no way in hell id be in a strip club if I wasn't just at work, so no way Id date a guy their either. Keep your standards and dignity girl.

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    In all my years, I have never seen a successful in-house relationship. It just does not work on any level. Jealousy always sets in, drama starts, and it's never a good idea. It's not a good idea to get involved with someone if you live a vanilla life and work in an office together, let alone in the very complex world of the strip club. This is not a wise idea to pursue. The saddest tragedy I ever saw of a relationship unfolding in a club, was when one of the managers began dating a dancer at my home club, and he wound up taking all her money, telling her that he was helping her invest it, and he simply took it all and opened a bar for himself. Very bad scene to get involved at work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by NYC.Bianca View Post
    Yep stay away! I have found that if I find out their name I will general do some MASSIVE online investigation, like google them and look up their Facebook or instagrams. This might be creepy but frankly I've started doing this when I meet potential dating opportunities too. A lot of people true colors come out online and they don't even know it. Like them having multiple Facebook accounts, or IG's, or following 1000 girls on IG (insecure fuckboy), etc.etc. You can weed thru all the red flags really quickly if you do some investigation, also it really really helps you lose attraction to. Because you find out who they really are.

    There is this host/cp guy at the club I work at who I totally have chemistry/sexual tension with, like I can tell he really likes me etc.; we've talked a few times and each time he's come to me. Anyhow, I found out his name cuz he's best friends with one of the bartenders, and I researched him online and just found out SO much crap like I would NEVER date him, ew, just no. So it's helped me just appreciate his pretty face and energy and go NO FURTHER than that.

    A general rule of thumb I like to keep is to never date someone while dancing that I would date when I stop dancing. Like theres no way in hell id be in a strip club if I wasn't just at work, so no way Id date a guy their either. Keep your standards and dignity girl.

    I accepted that this is my weakness and instead of let it get the best of me and work against it I decided to work WITH the weakness and let it motivate me to work harder and have been making more money thinking that way. I can’t help that I like him more and more and our eyes keep locking and I don’t even intend it to happen, it’s just getting really difficult! Ugh!

    Thats good advice but I only know his first name :/

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    Quote Originally Posted by BondGirl007 View Post
    In all my years, I have never seen a successful in-house relationship. It just does not work on any level. Jealousy always sets in, drama starts, and it's never a good idea. It's not a good idea to get involved with someone if you live a vanilla life and work in an office together, let alone in the very complex world of the strip club. This is not a wise idea to pursue. The saddest tragedy I ever saw of a relationship unfolding in a club, was when one of the managers began dating a dancer at my home club, and he wound up taking all her money, telling her that he was helping her invest it, and he simply took it all and opened a bar for himself. Very bad scene to get involved at work.

    It’s just getting really difficult! I’ve been crushing on him for months! And he makes strong eye contact which makes it even more difficult! ��

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    I had a crush on a manager once and used it as motivation for better job performance. I could still follow that desire to impress him, without acting on the crush directly. It made the resistance more tolerable, too. My crush became an asset instead of a distracting weakness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by roserose View Post
    i had a crush on a manager once and used it as motivation for better job performance. I could still follow that desire to impress him, without acting on the crush directly. It made the resistance more tolerable, too. My crush became an asset instead of a distracting weakness.
    this!!! ^

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