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    Angry My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    Thanks to Instagram, my camming career has been exposed to my friends and family. I hate social media and this is exactly why I wanted nothing to do with it. I literally want to disappear right now.

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    Default Re: My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    Sorry to hear.

    Do you know how it happened?

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    Default Re: My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    Instagram exposed me by putting me in all my friends and families "people you may know" list. It somehow stole information from my personal Instagram and Facebook accounts and linked them without my permission.

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    Default Re: My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    Ahhh! Yes Instagram and Facebook are one in the same since FB owns Instagram. And Facebook is THE most privacy invading social network right now! So it only makes sense Instagram is the same.

    Sorry this happened to you. I started a group a while back but didn't grow it - I may now but there are a few threads on protecting privacy.

    It's best NOT to:

    use mobile apps
    stay logged in
    use your real IP address
    add any of your real data (name, phone number, schools attended, etc) in FB or Instagram
    etc.

    And that's the tricky thing - I do believe I've seen ladies post before of their personal/business accounts being linked without their knowledge/awareness thus outing them and the best way to combat that is not to have personal accounts if you have work/business accounts you don't want your real life colliding with the work life.

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    It's sickening how these companies get away with stuff like this. Linking accounts without someones knowledge or permission should be illegal. Stuff like that ruins people's lives and can put someone in danger. I wish I could sue them. I didn't add personal info, but I was unaware of the mobile app and ip address issue.

    Either way, life is ruined. Time to change my name and move out of the country.
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    Default Re: My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    Im so sorry this happened to you im sending you love and happy thoughts and Facebook sucks so bad I hate them for various reasons.

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    Default Re: My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    How do they know for sure?

    I’m sorry. Growing up with progressive albeit neglectful family, I didn’t know I needed to hide it. My aunt shamed my on Christmas and now I’m trying to transition out, but it’s hard because I never thought people could be so judgmental.

    My heart goes out you. There negative reaction isn’t about you it’s about the way our society has been brainwashed by dogma that sex is a moral issue. There are ethics involved, but sex in of itself isn’t bad or good. In addition, people’s inability to see nuances and just use black and white thinking.

    They are probably more concerned than anything?
    I hope your family can accept your choices with love and respect.

    It’s a tragedy we have to deal with this.

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    Thank you! I understood the risks involved with camming and planned on telling people in the future, but on my own terms. I don't know who else knows besides a few friends/people from school and my mom, but I have my dad and sisters on there as well as my husbands friends and family. So far, no one has said anything negative but I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. Just them knowing makes me want to cry.

    I already have issues with my dad and that side of my family, this will only make it worse. And I don't know my husband's friends and family very well yet, but he grew up heavily religious, even though he isn't now, most of his family and some of his friends still are deep within the church. I don't want to be judged by this. I moved away from my friends and family to be closer to his and if this ruins my relationship with them, I won't be able to stay here.

    I hate how people view this industry. I've been dancing for 7 years and still hide it from all but a few people in my life. I want so badly to be open about my job but I just don't feel comfortable with people knowing. It sucks so bad and keeping this a secret only adds to my depression. I can't wait to quit for good.

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    Default Re: My life and reputation have been destroyed thanks to Instagram.

    There are no secrets anymore. Between governments, hackers & Social media data basis, your ip address & search history easily bought & shared.

    I don't have any personal accounts, the internet is all about work for me. i don't have any personal social media accounts either. I don't allow friends & family members to post pics of me om any of their social media accounts.

    If you want any kind of private personal life, then keep it all off the internet.
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    OMG! Can't say I'm surprised. But yes it's infuriating that the apps will just do something like that on their own. Sending you hugs and hope the best for you.

    Now I'm considering deleting the work account I had set up not too long ago..

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    I'm so sorry! That makes me really nervous about my own IG account... ugh, social media just keeps getting worse.

    If it makes you feel better, a lot of us have been outed against our will. It sucks, but usually only for a little while, and then people get used to it/stop feeling the need to bring it up/remember that you're still the same person. The way you feel right now is probably the worst it's going to get. <3

    And... at least you don't know for sure if all of these people clicked on your IG, or if they realized it was you. Hopefully no one added you as a friend. You can make that IG account private/delete it/change your profile pic/hide face pics, etc.

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    “There are no good girls gone wrong - just bad girls found out.”
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    I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you. That's the downside of social media and technology in general these days. People can easily go on Google and use reverse image search to find pictures of you and sometimes even your personal social media accounts. I have had that happen to me before but with stupid Facebook which is why I deleted my personal Facebook and other social media accounts. It still could've happened even if the accounts didn't end up linked. All it takes is one asshat to recognize you and blab. Has anyone in your family mentioned anything? If so, once the initial shock gets over with, you might find that they will come around. Some people are so quick to judge others harshly when their hands aren't exactly clean either. I hate the stigma that exists in the adult industry. I hope everything works out for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ravenskyy View Post
    And I don't know my husband's friends and family very well yet, but he grew up heavily religious, even though he isn't now, most of his family and some of his friends still are deep within the church. I don't want to be judged by this.
    Um you do know those people in the church are "sinners" themselves. They have a past just like everyone else. Just because they go to church every sunday does not make them all of a sudden innocent and holy.

    And if they are true church going people they technically cannot judge you - only the creator can do that.

    Only people who are innocent are fresh out the womb infants and babies because they are blank slates and haven't been influenced by environment, etc yet

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Um you do know those people in the church are "sinners" themselves. They have a past just like everyone else. Just because they go to church every sunday does not make them all of a sudden innocent and holy.

    And if they are true church going people they technically cannot judge you - only the creator can do that.

    Only people who are innocent are fresh out the womb infants and babies because they are blank slates and haven't been influenced by environment, etc yet
    Truth. My father went to church every week, volunteering at bingo and festivals and here he was at home, being a narcissistic asshole, messing with his children's minds, raping them and telling them that they were crazy for thinking they were really being raped. So there's that.

    I'm sorry this happened to you. I've learned to be careful with social media and what you put out there, just because these things can happen.

    This could be a blessing in disguise. At least you'll see who your real friends are.

    Again, so sorry. I know how judgemental people can be, and it's only to make themselves look good despite their own closeted skeletons.

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    I'm sorry this happened to you Does Twitter also link to other platforms like IG does? I was thinking of makin one to promote my texting sites but def wanna delete my fb if so. IG almost linked me but i deleted ALL my social media before it got started. Hate that linking BS
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    My in-laws got a bit too curious about what we did a few months ago and flipped their shit. I had no idea people could be so incredibly hateful. They'll only even see their grandchildren now under the most sanitary circumstances, and only if the kids initiate contact. They used to call our house about twice a week to talk to me or them or both, and we did Sunday dinners like normal every other weekend. They treated it like we were cheating on them for years by not telling them who our clients were (we maintained we worked with "freelancers"), and my mother-in-law even said as much.

    Its so incredibly strange and hurtful and altogether frustrating. They can't square their love of family with their "Christian values," which apparently simply means, "We hate naked people." I never thought it would be like that in a million years, but months later they still haven't calmed down. Hubby went off on them telling them this isn't some Hallmark special where we gave people herpes and to knock off the melodrama, but they fired back that we were in some kind of "darkness" and they always knew "there was something evil going on."

    On the flip side, my hubby told his mother (not father/step-mother above) that he worked in porno to get a rise out of her. She barely batted an eyelash. There is a plus side to narcissists - they could care less about anything that doesn't flatter or insult them.

    We weren't outted by Instagram/Facebook though. I barely have a Facebook, and I keep it on an entirely separate computer. I absolutely don't and won't have and IG account. Hubby absolutely refuses to even carry a flip phone, much less a smart phone or do anything on social media.

    My deepest sympathies to anyone going through this with their family. We told others for years "count on being found out", we just didn't imagine it would be this stupid when it happened to us.


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    As for suing them, I don't think there's actually a case:

    http://www.wassom.com/common-law-inv...uest-post.html

    Check out #5 as it seems to be the most relevant.

    The court considers you a public figure as a media personality, not entitled to privacy. Further, you would need to prove damages that aren't "speculative".

    About the best you could do is tell everyone you know to dump Facebook because they aren't legally obligated to keep your professional and personal life separate.
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    I hope you’re doing better now that it’s been a few days.
    I know it’s hard but you just have to tell yourself this is a big part of your life and if somebody is going to leave you or talk down on you they do not need to be part of your life. Those who love you will look past this and make sure you’re safe.
    Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t stress about the opinions of people that are judgemental and hard to please!!!

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