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    BTW, in the above post, i wasn't talking about every Dancer/Camgirl/Escort. They are a diverse group, not a monolith. I was illustrating my point.

    Edit to add: How about awesome it is to date a WOMAN? Because that's what they are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kamiliam View Post
    would you give any woman the third degree like this if she wasn’t in the adult industry?
    Like I already said, if she was in a profession that had inherent risks to it, yes. If she was in the military - absolutely. If she was a police officer - absolutely. If she was a teacher in a school with gang violence - absolutely. If I'm going to get seriously involved with someone, I want to know that she is safe and responsible. If I learned that she is in the military, she is going to the Middle East, and she is anxious to be in the front lines of combat - that would be a deal-breaker. If I learned that she is a dancer in a club where the patrons are dangerous thugs, the dancers are not adequately protected by the club, and she gets drunk and high every night - that would also be a deal-breaker.

    Quote Originally Posted by kamiliam View Post
    These are really personal questions that are none of your business and not exclusive to the adult industry.
    If I'm just having a casual good time with you, then, you are absolutely right - none of business. But, if we are in a seriously relationship that may lead to marriage, then, your 'business' is my 'business' too and vice versa.

    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    She isn't JUST a Stripper, Camgirl, or Escort. She is a whole person.
    You're stating the obvious. Look, my career does not define me - yes, I am more than just my career. Yet, my career is a big part of my life. My career is very demanding and very stressful. Some weeks I work 50-80 hour. I get two weeks of vacation a year, but, I cannot take time off longer than a week at a time due to the demands on my work. Clients call me on weekends and even when I'm on vacation. My career also affects limits my personal freedom - like, where I live, the people I spend time with, etc. [Hitting 'enter' now to make it easier for you to read.]

    The POINT is - a person's occupation/career is a big part of his/her life and affects many aspects of that person.

    There may be women that cannot be happy in a marriage with someone like me. I accept that. If I was starting to date a woman and she had questions about my career - like how many hours I work, whether or not I can take time off during the week for the kids' school events or sporting events, how stressful my job is, how I cope with the stress, what geographic limitations are imposed by my work, etc. - I would not resent these questions.

    I think it would be smart for her to ask these questions. If she is thinking that I may be 'the one' with whom she will spend the rest of her life with, she should certainly give a shit about what I do for a living. After learning about my work and the commitments and limitations that it imposes on me, she may decide early on that my line of work is incompatible with the life she wants. The sooner she makes this realization, the better it is for both of us.
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    Better with the enter button, anyway.
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    I don’t think I would mention it.

    Last night I joked around and told my dude I had an OnlyFans. (I don’t have one but have considered it)

    The disappointment look was written all over his face. Like a deflated ballon.

    Granted I did say this after we’ve gotten pretty close so if this were true it probably should have been divulged sooner but I still can’t help but feel like Most guys can’t handle the information. And WILL judge a woman for it and will probably reconsider marriage despite the honesty.

    BTW I think we may have had this debate further upthread or another thread in that no one is 100% honest. Not even with their spouse. I mean we strive to be as honest as possible but I personally don’t think EVERY single detail about your past has to be divulged especially if it will have no effect on the future.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    I donít think I would mention it.

    Last night I joked around and told my dude I had an OnlyFans. (I donít have one but have considered it)

    The disappointment look was written all over his face. Like a deflated ballon.

    Granted I did say this after weíve gotten pretty close so if this were true it probably should have been divulged sooner but I still canít help but feel like Most guys canít handle the information. And WILL judge a woman for it.
    They shouldn't. It's not like you are out there sucking cock. It's an internet thing. These dudes don't even know where you are.

    I wouldn't give two shits if my Girl had an Onlyfans.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    ^ I disagree that guys who don't give a shit are the best partners. How can you not give a shit about her job, which is a very big part of her life and her identity? If you really do not care, you must have a very shallow level of emotional involvement in the relationship. Sex work comes with a lot of work hazards and can lead to many problems. If a woman I was starting to date told me she was a police officer or in military service, or, any job with serious risks, I would be concerned, I would not - not give a shit. This does not mean I'm not going to handle it, but, I do give a shit. If I started dating a lady and she told me she was a stripper, I would have some questions, like: (1) Was it your choice to become a dancer or were you forced into, (e.g., to support a child, pay overdue bills, etc.)? (2) How do you feel about being an exotic dancer? (3) Do you feel safe at the club where you dance? (4) How much alcohol do you drink while you work? The dancers in this site tend to be very mature and smart about their work, but, not all dancers are like that. I would be happy to date a dancer who is a strong independent smart woman who chooses to dance because of the flexible hours and good pay, who is proud of her body and feels comfortable in her skin, who is responsible with her alcohol or drug consumption and who realizes that this line of work has a short life span and she is already thinking of her next career path. On the other hand, I would not date a dancer that hates dancing, but, feels like she is trapped and has no other option, has low self-esteem, has alcohol or drug dependency issues, has no ambition or goals for the future, etc.
    By the way, since i forgot it the first time. The real questions you should be asking are these: 1) What do you like to do in your free time? 2) What's your favorite color? 3) What movies do you like? 4) What music do you listen to? 5) What are your thoughts on (Whatever, X i guess).

    You'll get further with her. Trust me on that. Be interested in HER rather than her job. If all you ever do is ask about being a Stripper or Camgirl, she'll go find a guy that won't do that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by miss.a.p1600 View Post
    Just curious if you would wife up a stripper, escort, cam model, body rub girl, porn actress, nude model, burlesque dancer, etc......

    Would she marry a "civilian"?

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    Slow, they usually do. I knew one girl that married a CUSTOMER.
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    They both knew what they were getting.

    No mysteries about their history.
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    Yep, they sure did. She's not a Dancer anymore, but they are happy, and that's really all that counts.
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    stripper: No problem. Most of them are very faithful, to my knowledge.

    escort: Don't know. I don't think i could marry an active one. As i said before, i really don't like the idea of other dudes fucking my girl. We can be buddies, though. An Ex Escort is a different story.

    cam model: No problem. Don't know much about them, as they are a very diverse group. But i'd give it a shot if i liked her.

    body rub girl: I'll be honest, i don't even know what this is. I imagine it's something like a Masseuse? I don't know, i can't answer this one. But if i liked her, sure. As long as nobody is sticking his dick in her.

    porn actress: Just like an Escort, i REALLY don't like the idea of some other dude sticking his dick in my girl. We can be buddies, though. I have zero problems being friends with a Woman.

    nude model: Sure. I have no hangups about the Female Body. I have a naked body, too! We all have one. Nothing is wrong with it. Yes, i would happily wife up a nude model if i loved her.

    burlesque dancer: I wasn't aware this was even part of the Adult Industry. But, yeah, absolutely. Frankly, i view burlesque as an ART.
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    Allow me to add one thing: They don't grow Strippers or on a farm out west (This goes for Camgirls, Escorts, I guess whatever a body Rub Girl is, all as well.) They got BORN, they grew up, they decided to enter the Adult Entertainment Industry. They did this because it pays well. It won't last, but that's why they did it. It's probably the same for the Guys who do it as well.

    We should cherish them. And, yeah, if you can, if you meet one and fall in love, wife them. Don't give them shit about their job, just love them. You'll be better for it.

    This goes for Librarians, as well. Or Schoolteachers, or really any Woman.

    All of them should be cherished. They are a blessing. Don't waste it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Slow, they usually do. I knew one girl that married a CUSTOMER.
    I know about a dozen dancers who have had either long term cohabitation [essentially married without the paper] and marriages.

    The ratio of success to failure in these cases is, surprising enough to those I have been exposed to, about the same as the general public. Four are still together, years later, and eight ended in various degrees ranging from amicable to acrimony.

    So my take on it is: when push comes to shove, folks be folks.
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    BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?

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    Yeah, i get it. I know a bit about the industry, too. I won't say how. But this shit is indeed possible. Might not be ideal at first, but a Dancer is a Woman, and when a Woman meets the right guy, sparks fly. And she's stupid if she doesn't follow it up. He could be Prince Charming. Not every Dude is a creeper. Some guys are pretty cool, even customers.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Golden_Rule View Post
    I know about a dozen dancers who have had either long term cohabitation [essentially married without the paper] and marriages.

    The ratio of success to failure in these cases is, surprising enough to those I have been exposed to, about the same as the general public. Four are still together, years later, and eight ended in various degrees ranging from amicable to acrimony.

    So my take on it is: when push comes to shove, folks be folks.
    Yeah, it's the same thing. Of COURSE it's like the general public! It's just People.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Raziel View Post
    Allow me to add one thing: They don't grow Strippers or on a farm out west (This goes for Camgirls, Escorts, I guess whatever a body Rub Girl is, all as well.) They got BORN, they grew up, they decided to enter the Adult Entertainment Industry. They did this because it pays well. It won't last, but that's why they did it. It's probably the same for the Guys who do it as well.

    We should cherish them. And, yeah, if you can, if you meet one and fall in love, wife them. Don't give them shit about their job, just love them. You'll be better for it.

    This goes for Librarians, as well. Or Schoolteachers, or really any Woman.

    All of them should be cherished. They are a blessing. Don't waste it.
    Just so you know, i was ass hammered when i wrote this. Like, WAY DRUNK. So if it doesn't make any sense to you, that's why. Just thought i'd clarify.
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