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    Just curious if you would wife up a stripper, escort, cam model, body rub girl, porn actress, nude model, burlesque dancer, etc......

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    I don't believe in marriage, but if I was going to marry anyone right now, it would probably have to be someone in the industry. Because from what I've seen, women are pretty much as possessive as men. They just demonstrate it differently.
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    Assuming I did get married, yes. From this site it seems like the dancers, cammers and SWs with their heads on their shoulders are pretty sharp people, although I'm not naive enough to think this site is a representative population. I'd be looking for more of a Theodora than a person I had to "save".
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    I would only remarry for Love and I don't believe Love gives a solitary **** about the career or past of the person(s) involved. Wouldn't and shouldn't matter if they are the right person imo.

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    Sure, why not, long as we have an open marriage!

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    In my younger years, probably not, because, I held traditional views of love, romance and monogamy, which were not compatible with having a wife that performs sexual acts with other men.

    However, my older, wiser 40+ version of myself is more versatile. I could turn off the 'possessive, jealous husband' switch, and my wife and I would each have freedom and flexibility to perform sexual acts with other people, whether for money or pleasure. So, like Whirlerz said, as long as we have an open marriage, my wife would be free to pursue adult entertainment or sex work - the assumption being that she has her head on straight, knows what she is getting into, approaches it with business savvy and respects herself.
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    Would you marry a man in the adult industry?
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    I don't think I would. I'm sure there are exceptions such as many members here, but it seems the ones I run into have too many issues. Commonly, I see a lot of alcohol, and drug issues. They don't seem to spend money wisely, and are always out of money at the beginning of the month. Frankly, even under the best of scenarios, marriage in the US is a pretty bad deal for men, without bringing those issues in as well. And, I think working in the sex industry hardens women toward sex and intimacy. I think this is a defense mechanism to deal with the nature of the work, so I don't blame anyone for it. I would do the same. But, I would be leery of bringing all that into a marriage. Again, I'm sure that isn't true of everyone in the industry, but I've seen way too much it to want to risk a serious relationship with someone in the industry.

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    I would, man or woman because I think they would understand, not judge, and not get jealous. It would have to be an open marriage, for sure unless it was someone who was fine with the fact that I'm not monogamous at this point in my life. Maybe someday I'll settle down but not yet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by gameover View Post
    I don't think I would. I'm sure there are exceptions such as many members here, but it seems the ones I run into have too many issues. Commonly, I see a lot of alcohol, and drug issues. They don't seem to spend money wisely, and are always out of money at the beginning of the month. Frankly, even under the best of scenarios, marriage in the US is a pretty bad deal for men, without bringing those issues in as well. And, I think working in the sex industry hardens women toward sex and intimacy. I think this is a defense mechanism to deal with the nature of the work, so I don't blame anyone for it. I would do the same. But, I would be leery of bringing all that into a marriage. Again, I'm sure that isn't true of everyone in the industry, but I've seen way too much it to want to risk a serious relationship with someone in the industry.
    appreciate hearing your thoughts. I get it - marriage/marriage to a person in adult industry - is not for everyone.

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    Would you marry a man in the adult industry?
    Good question!

    It depends.

    Honestly (and this is only because I want the man to be available for a family) I would marry a man in adult industry if he worked behind the scenes.

    Like porn producer/director, club/brothel/escort agency owner, investor, adult entrepreneur like webcam software developer, etc. Men working in the trenches seem like they grind too hard (which is respectable cause you gotta do what you gotta do) to have the type of family I'm looking for.

    And I do think that even though the stigma is worse for women, it exists for men too....
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    Quote Originally Posted by gameover View Post
    I don't think I would. I'm sure there are exceptions such as many members here, but it seems the ones I run into have too many issues. Commonly, I see a lot of alcohol, and drug issues. They don't seem to spend money wisely, and are always out of money at the beginning of the month. Frankly, even under the best of scenarios, marriage in the US is a pretty bad deal for men, without bringing those issues in as well. And, I think working in the sex industry hardens women toward sex and intimacy. I think this is a defense mechanism to deal with the nature of the work, so I don't blame anyone for it. I would do the same. But, I would be leery of bringing all that into a marriage. Again, I'm sure that isn't true of everyone in the industry, but I've seen way too much it to want to risk a serious relationship with someone in the industry.
    And those men in the clubs are usually doing what?? drinking? drugs? running up their credit card balances?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    And those men in the clubs are usually doing what?? drinking? drugs? running up their credit card balances?
    I wasn't trying to sell you on marrying a customer. And sure, some customers have those issues and others as well.

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    Friend of mine married a strippah, she was horny and he has a big dick

    they have been together for 20 years now.............

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    Also, I see stripping/adult entertainment/sex work as a means to an end rather than an end. You generally have, what, about a 15-year window? You don't want to be the 50-year old stripper that doesn't take the hint from everyone and does desperate things to keep her job.

    So, if a woman was doing this type of work to pay for college or to raise money to start a business, I would respect that, and feel comfortable planning a future with her. But, a dancer who has no plan regarding her future would raise flags for me. When she gets older, is she going to do desperate things (that she regrets later) to grab on to her customers (no pun intended)? How will she deal with rejection when customers prefer younger girls? Has she locked up all of her self-esteem in her stripper persona? I know that a lot of my own self-esteem and self-worth is locked up in my career, but, I will not be retiring and confronting those esteem/validations issues until my 70s or 80s.
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    Quote Originally Posted by jack0177057 View Post
    In my younger years, probably not, because, I held traditional views of love, romance and monogamy, which were not compatible with having a wife that performs sexual acts with other men.

    However, my older, wiser 40+ version of myself is more versatile. I could turn off the 'possessive, jealous husband' switch, and my wife and I would each have freedom and flexibility to perform sexual acts with other people, whether for money or pleasure. So, like Whirlerz said, as long as we have an open marriage, my wife would be free to pursue adult entertainment or sex work - the assumption being that she has her head on straight, knows what s
    e is getting into, approaches it with business savvy and respects herself.
    So I need to date a guy in his 40’s. Makes sense too me. I think guys in their 30’s are still trying to prove something. They still think they can have the perfect woman. They don’t realize there’s isn’t a perfect woman. I’m going to start dating young guys or older guys. 30 something’s can suck it.

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    When I was younger, I would have thought I would have been cool with it and then eventually freaked out. Now, I doubt it would bother me at all. Of course, I’m already happily married, so this is purely theoretical. ����♂️

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ifyouseekamy View Post
    So I need to date a guy in his 40’s. Makes sense too me. I think guys in their 30’s are still trying to prove something. They still think they can have the perfect woman. They don’t realize there’s isn’t a perfect woman. I’m going to start dating young guys or older guys. 30 something’s can suck it.
    I'm sure not all 40s are perfect guys but a lot of 40s at least know when to be grateful
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bahuba View Post
    I'm sure not all 40s are perfect guys but a lot of 40s at least know when to be grateful
    No ones perfect...lol.
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    ^ Exactly! There's no perfect person out there. Generally speaking men in their 40's usually tend to have their shit together and not have unrealistic expectations, as the younger guys tend to. Of course there are always exceptions. Each individual is different so it's hard to tell at first glance who is mature and worth your time and who's still stuck in a junior high school age mentality.

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