BTW, in the above post, i wasn't talking about every Dancer/Camgirl/Escort. They are a diverse group, not a monolith. I was illustrating my point.
Edit to add: How about awesome it is to date a WOMAN? Because that's what they are.
BTW, in the above post, i wasn't talking about every Dancer/Camgirl/Escort. They are a diverse group, not a monolith. I was illustrating my point.
Edit to add: How about awesome it is to date a WOMAN? Because that's what they are.
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Like I already said, if she was in a profession that had inherent risks to it, yes. If she was in the military - absolutely. If she was a police officer - absolutely. If she was a teacher in a school with gang violence - absolutely. If I'm going to get seriously involved with someone, I want to know that she is safe and responsible. If I learned that she is in the military, she is going to the Middle East, and she is anxious to be in the front lines of combat - that would be a deal-breaker. If I learned that she is a dancer in a club where the patrons are dangerous thugs, the dancers are not adequately protected by the club, and she gets drunk and high every night - that would also be a deal-breaker.
If I'm just having a casual good time with you, then, you are absolutely right - none of business. But, if we are in a seriously relationship that may lead to marriage, then, your 'business' is my 'business' too and vice versa.
You're stating the obvious. Look, my career does not define me - yes, I am more than just my career. Yet, my career is a big part of my life. My career is very demanding and very stressful. Some weeks I work 50-80 hour. I get two weeks of vacation a year, but, I cannot take time off longer than a week at a time due to the demands on my work. Clients call me on weekends and even when I'm on vacation. My career also affects limits my personal freedom - like, where I live, the people I spend time with, etc. [Hitting 'enter' now to make it easier for you to read.]
The POINT is - a person's occupation/career is a big part of his/her life and affects many aspects of that person.
There may be women that cannot be happy in a marriage with someone like me. I accept that. If I was starting to date a woman and she had questions about my career - like how many hours I work, whether or not I can take time off during the week for the kids' school events or sporting events, how stressful my job is, how I cope with the stress, what geographic limitations are imposed by my work, etc. - I would not resent these questions.
I think it would be smart for her to ask these questions. If she is thinking that I may be 'the one' with whom she will spend the rest of her life with, she should certainly give a shit about what I do for a living. After learning about my work and the commitments and limitations that it imposes on me, she may decide early on that my line of work is incompatible with the life she wants. The sooner she makes this realization, the better it is for both of us.
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Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde
Better with the enter button, anyway.
Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it
I don’t think I would mention it.
Last night I joked around and told my dude I had an OnlyFans. (I don’t have one but have considered it)
The disappointment look was written all over his face. Like a deflated ballon.
Granted I did say this after we’ve gotten pretty close so if this were true it probably should have been divulged sooner but I still can’t help but feel like Most guys can’t handle the information. And WILL judge a woman for it and will probably reconsider marriage despite the honesty.
BTW I think we may have had this debate further upthread or another thread in that no one is 100% honest. Not even with their spouse. I mean we strive to be as honest as possible but I personally don’t think EVERY single detail about your past has to be divulged especially if it will have no effect on the future.
Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it
By the way, since i forgot it the first time. The real questions you should be asking are these: 1) What do you like to do in your free time? 2) What's your favorite color? 3) What movies do you like? 4) What music do you listen to? 5) What are your thoughts on (Whatever, X i guess).
You'll get further with her. Trust me on that. Be interested in HER rather than her job. If all you ever do is ask about being a Stripper or Camgirl, she'll go find a guy that won't do that.
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Slow, they usually do. I knew one girl that married a CUSTOMER.
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They both knew what they were getting.
No mysteries about their history.
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Yep, they sure did. She's not a Dancer anymore, but they are happy, and that's really all that counts.
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stripper: No problem. Most of them are very faithful, to my knowledge.
escort: Don't know. I don't think i could marry an active one. As i said before, i really don't like the idea of other dudes fucking my girl. We can be buddies, though. An Ex Escort is a different story.
cam model: No problem. Don't know much about them, as they are a very diverse group. But i'd give it a shot if i liked her.
body rub girl: I'll be honest, i don't even know what this is. I imagine it's something like a Masseuse? I don't know, i can't answer this one. But if i liked her, sure. As long as nobody is sticking his dick in her.
porn actress: Just like an Escort, i REALLY don't like the idea of some other dude sticking his dick in my girl. We can be buddies, though. I have zero problems being friends with a Woman.
nude model: Sure. I have no hangups about the Female Body. I have a naked body, too! We all have one. Nothing is wrong with it. Yes, i would happily wife up a nude model if i loved her.
burlesque dancer: I wasn't aware this was even part of the Adult Industry. But, yeah, absolutely. Frankly, i view burlesque as an ART.
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Allow me to add one thing: They don't grow Strippers or on a farm out west (This goes for Camgirls, Escorts, I guess whatever a body Rub Girl is, all as well.) They got BORN, they grew up, they decided to enter the Adult Entertainment Industry. They did this because it pays well. It won't last, but that's why they did it. It's probably the same for the Guys who do it as well.
We should cherish them. And, yeah, if you can, if you meet one and fall in love, wife them. Don't give them shit about their job, just love them. You'll be better for it.
This goes for Librarians, as well. Or Schoolteachers, or really any Woman.
All of them should be cherished. They are a blessing. Don't waste it.
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I know about a dozen dancers who have had either long term cohabitation [essentially married without the paper] and marriages.
The ratio of success to failure in these cases is, surprising enough to those I have been exposed to, about the same as the general public. Four are still together, years later, and eight ended in various degrees ranging from amicable to acrimony.
So my take on it is: when push comes to shove, folks be folks.
Fiat justitia, pereat mundus.
BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?
Yeah, i get it. I know a bit about the industry, too. I won't say how. But this shit is indeed possible. Might not be ideal at first, but a Dancer is a Woman, and when a Woman meets the right guy, sparks fly. And she's stupid if she doesn't follow it up. He could be Prince Charming. Not every Dude is a creeper. Some guys are pretty cool, even customers.
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Would I?? Like right now? I feel so pressured. Can we go out to dinner first?





Fiat justitia, pereat mundus.
BTW, while we are on the subject, is it needed to point out the obvious: That it is just possible that if you are willing to judge the worth of someone simply by what you read on a website about them it might say a whole hell of a lot more about you than it says about the person you are judging?
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I. Miss. Greek. Food.
They do not have it here.
Where Am I? Missing NYC
Too bad, so sad.
I get the plate Bahuba.
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I've seen so many posts on Twitter (from both men AND women, which is disappointing) talking shit about women who have OnlyFans...or how women on OnlyFans don't respect themselves." *eye roll* I do believe one of those people talking like that was some chick who'd just posted a pic of herself in front of the bathroom mirror doing some duck lips pose...while wearing a revealing top with no bra. Oh? But you mad at other grown-ass women for making money off of sexy photos? Girl, BYE.....
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I will not Wife anyone unless i love her. Wifing up a Woman that you don't love is a recipe for disaster.
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I donÂ’t have tons of experience with marriage so take this with a grain of salt but I do believe in some instances love is secondary. In some cultures itÂ’s moreso about maintaining n building assets (ex marrying others with same or more wealth), marrying people who would manage a household effectively/raise successful kids/etc.
Plenty of people marry to have a better life and if they love the person or grow to love the person then even better.
Disaster would be marrying someone you love but they are horrible with earning n managing money and certainly marrying someone abusive. Too many people get murked by their spouse unfortunately
I guess this is a different topic but yeah I think the ideal for marriage to people in adult industry would be marrying for the “right” reasons. Whatever is right to your situation
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I believe in love. Can't help it.
Wife up a woman you don't love is a recipe for a future Divorce. I'd rather just stay single. It's less expensive.
BTW: You really think abusive Husbands love their wives? They don't. They might say they do, but a man that loves his wife doesn't ball up his fist and hit her. A man who loves his wife DEFENDS her and takes care of her, she is precious to him. Abusive men want nothing but to rule them. It's sickening.
Sarchasm (n): The gulf between the author of sarcastic wit and the person who doesn't get it
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