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    I've had a stalker for a few years. No violent threats, just cyber stalking and occasionally calling my phone. I've changed my number but now the guy has befriended dancers at my club and they listen to my conversations at the club to report back to him.

    For example I tell a customer. I'm going to Miami in march and this guy will post on his page. "Taking a trip to Miami in March. It's lit"

    any input? Any ever deal with a creeper?

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    Lie and saying you're going to Hawaii next.

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    Lol ya I'm going to go big and say Tahiti. The Miami trip was a lie. I just had suspicions and him posting that confurmed it. I'm not trolling here.

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    I had this problem with a guy. My advice, take a break from social media & travel far the f away from wherever he lives.

    & Now with the amount of info on the Internet about pretty much everyone you can stalk him back, see how he likes it. lol

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    I would tell him im going to North Korea

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    Restraining order for him
    Have a discussion with management about the other dancers sharing your personal information with a stalker.

    Guys who stalk are dangerous. Those other strippers are stupid because one day he might decide they are the one he wants to stalk. This is your life & safety at risk.

    I don't play victim well and have a very bad temper when being followed & stalked. Take your phone out & record him everytime & post it on social media. Take pics look him in the eyes & tell him sending this to the cops, my family & friends in case something happens to me.

    Then I would trash those girls to all the others who worked there, telling everyone how they cant be trusted & are putting your life at risk by being informants to a stalker. Do it loudly & in front of their faces.
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    Yes! Unfortunately... many people do not take stalking very seriously. They think it is just a person being clingy or trying to get with someone who doesn't want them. Until it happens to them !!

    I don't want to go super into detail about my stalker experience but I do want to share so maybe I can help somebody??

    I worked at this one club... I was leaving and dropped off 2 of the girls up the street because they were staying in a hotel (drove north from club), then turned around to head toward my house, south and east. I saw a car following me. I had seen them pull out of the club's parking lot but didn't think anything of it until I started driving to a different part of the county.

    Immediately I was worried about the person trying to rob me or sexually assault me. I don't think anyone's first inclination is "I have a stalker situation". So I tried to lose the person. I got to a main road (US 1 if you are familiar with South Fl). He pulled up beside me to get my attention. I cracked my window and he told me I had a flat tire.

    I drove a BMW with drive flat radials at the time so I knew he was lying to me. I was scared. I sped off and went through a residential neighborhood. I didn't see him anymore so I went back to the main road and pulled into a well lit gas station. He pulled in in front of me and blocked my car in. He got out and began pleading to talk to me. He was saying crazy shit like "We just have a special connection", "Please just talk to me, for one minute" he was trying to convince me that if I gave him the chance he would be able to explain this magical connection between us. I had never spoken to the guy in the club or danced for him. I do recall seeing him in there that night- alone at a table near the back drinking a dark colored liquor.

    The guy from the gas station came out and asked me if everything was ok. I asked him to call the cops. Cops came, escorted me home and even stayed outside for a few hours until the sun came up. They told me to file a report the next day with the cops in the city where my club was. I did but I didn't have a clue who the guy was except to give a description of the car.

    Over the next few weeks my home was vandalized when I stayed the night at a guys house, someone tried to break into my apartment and my neighbor told me she had seen a car parked outside several times. I found a piece of paper on the ground that had the name of my counselor written on it and my class schedule for school. She had seen 2 different men, one of them was bald headed. She saw a sticker for special forces or marines or something like that. This is an important detail because he probably was following me around and could possibly have gotten into my home and done whatever else and I wouldn't have known because he had training in this. He even got his sicko friend in on it too somehow.

    I see him again in the club a few weeks later. I was scared shitless, but the club and management knew I was having the issues with him. I know it was not the smartest thing to do but I told the manager I was going to go up to him. On the one hand I wanted to get his name and some info so I could give it to the police and also to the club so they would know not to let him back in. I could not really have the "guy with the white jeep who wears glasses" banned. Also, part of my thought if I actually talked to him I could say something that would make the stalking stop or turn him off.

    I went over and sat with him. His name was Andy. He WAS in the military. He complimented my hair. It was dark/dirty blonde and curly. He told me it was the exact same and his ex-wive's hair. That was when i realized where the obsession stemmed from. He begged and pleaded for me to get dinner with him. I told him I had a boyfriend; got away from him and went on with my day. The bouncers got his DL from him and took a copy of it. The cop who took the initial report came back and we gave them Andy's information. I know he did speak to him at some point because the guy was a detective and he followed back up with me later.

    Anyway, stalking got much, much worse. I was in constant fear. I was actually dating someone at the time and he was a drug dealer. (Yes, I know this was also stupid but I was like 23 and I am a huge Golddigger) I was worried Andy would call the cops on him or confront him or something and someone was going to get shot. Also, forgot to add earlier- initially I thought some of the surveillance I was under was because of the boyfriend but I think it was really the stalker. He may have already been obsessing over me since before the incident at the club. I became so paranoid I started doing things like changing my number. I got a different car. I constantly worried he was going to break into my house and kill my dog. No clue why I thought that. It's just it got to the point where my own thoughts were becoming irrational.

    I remember calling my Mom from a payphone and crying I wanted to go home but I didn't tell her about the stalker because I didn't want her to worry or I somehow felt like I was to blame. I don't know why I blamed myself. For being a stripper or for talking to him that day or because I couldn't get rid of him?

    Anyway, I did go home. For I pulled out of school for the semester and went back to New England for six weeks. It was pretty shitty. I didn't want to strip while I was there so I mostly hung out with friends. I got my ex-boyfriend to give me some money. I began to feel safe again.

    Came back to Florida. I even went back to the same apartment. The landlord had replaced the door for me that had been vandalized and put a motion light up for me. It was so refreshing to feel somewhat back to normal.

    Three years later- I am at a different club. Who do I See sitting at the bar but f**king Andy and his bald headed friend. My stomach dropped. I thought- great he knows I am back and where I work now; here we go again! I immediately told the GM, who is a career strip club manager and he f**king laughed at me!! Laughed!! Said something like "Oh, your stalker, ok". This is unfortunately the attitude so many people have. Outside of California or the one detective who took the report... like it is not a big deal or I was trying to get attention or be dramatic.

    Anyway, I had changed my look quite a bit. I was wearing colored contacts and my hair was platinum blonde and straight. Andy's stupid fucking friend was looking at me and I am pretty sure not only did he recognize me but he knew that I knew who he was. Anyway, stalking did not resume. Not sure if he had moved on to some other poor girl or maybe it was literally my hair (also many serial killers have this thing with hair style and colors- so weird). All I know is it had stopped. I saw him a few times here and there at the club and made sure the managers all knew who he was. Since I did not have a restraining order on him and he was not bothering me or any of the other girls they never kicked him out. To be honest I can not even say I am mad about it.

    My older sister also had a stalking incident that was so bad the guy was sent to prison but I'll save that for another day.

    Now that I have shared all of this.. back to the topic at hand. I DID not have friends at that club who knew my real name. There was only one girl that worked there I ever hung out with and a bouncer from Boston I occasionally chatted with. They called me Gia, outside the club. My damn hairdresser even called me Gia back then. My car was not registered to the address of the apartment, it was still registered to my Mom's house up north. The night I know for certain he followed me from the club; I stayed at that gas station until the cops came and they escorted me to my house. I took all the precautions. It did nothing to prevent this.

    This guy still found out where I lived, where I went to school, my counselors name, my class schedule, my phone number, most likely knew where my BF lived since he spray painted WHORE on my front door when I slept there... I don't know what else. He could have been inside the apartment and gone through my things... he seemed like he was capable of nearly anything. I still don't know if he coincidentally showed up at my new club or somehow found out I worked there and went looking for me? But, this is why we use stage names in this industry. So when people make dumb ass comments about your real name or ask you about your real name, please remember this.
    XoXo Gia
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    He's just a really unstable person. I've had public boyfriends...told him flat out I'm not interested (per previous advice) and still....

    Gia... I relate to your post so much. I'm at point where I feel like I'm just "ranting" (which is sad) bc he just won't stop. It's been YEARS.

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    I agree with Sam you should file a restraining order and talk to club management to not let him in anymore. Show the facebook stuff to them if you can print it out. If they aren't supportive of you - that should be a big red flag.
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