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    Dizzy How to keep stripping secret from parents?

    I’ve been dancing over a couple of months and currently work 2 jobs a day job and my strip job. My club is the nicest club in the city and it’s fair only topless no physical contact etc. I told my parents I work as a bar maid my dad briefly asked me today what my job entailed and that he hoped I wasn’t pole dancing as he said he brought me up to have more respect for myself. I just said i only do bar work nothing else he worries about me walking the streets at 3am and being in the city so late. My mother asked me if I go top less too I got so annoyed and told them to mind their own business. At the same time I feel quilt I feel like I’m letting them down and that If they found out they’d be very disappointed and would change how they think of me. I started stripping after being in a on again off relationship for years with a narcissist he left me high and dry was so depressed that I needed to get out and do something so I started stripping it was something I felt I wanted to do and to be honest it’s helped me get out of my depression and see things more clear. I’m very worried that my parents will find out and will treat me different how have you girls kept it from your parents?

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    I'M sorry to tell you but they already know. My parents figured it out too. My mom cried but then she got over it when I explained that it wasn't prostitution. She's supportive now.

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    Default Re: How to keep stripping secret from parents?

    do you live with your parents? is the club in a nearby area to where they live? I agree with ariel. they likely already know and you'd be better off just being honest cos you kinda blew your cover as soon as you told them that you worked in a strip club.

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    Yes, they know & are just feeling you out to see if it is true. Since both have asked, they want you to tell the truth. The fact they keep reaching out to you even if they don't really approve means they won't stop loving you.
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    Yeah I just let my parents think I only have my day job. But when I had to move home for a little it was so hard to hide, I cut back my days and stayed with the guy I am dating when I worked. IME trying to tell someone I’m a bartender has never worked. If you live at home it sounds like you’re screwed but if you don’t why not just tell them you’re not working there anymore?

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    I hid it and danced out of town,they still found out. My dad wasn’t mad. My mom hates it,but we just don’t talk about it. My parents are Muslim and from the islands;if they didn’t disown me...I think you’ll be okay.

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    I agree with the above posters that they probably already know. It's odd they both questioned you. My parents divorced when I was 12, my Dad moved far away. I am not certain he ever found out unless maybe my sister told him.. he's Irish so he likes to not talk about feelings. Or see a Dr. separate issue, lol.

    My Mom did find out, she called me a whore, which is funny because the reason they divorced was her affair with a married man, aside from lot of other transgressions. She did however, visit me many times when I was living in a different state and dancing and also let me and a friend stay with her when we "strip tripped". I know she didn't like what I was doing but at the same time I know she was proud I got out of the "shit hole" place she raised me in and she did get to see me retire from dancing and start a business before she passed away.

    My God father, who is like a 2nd Dad to me also found out and had gotten some shit (and still does I guess?) from some friends.

    But, none of them (all of the people mentioned above were raised Catholic- AKA the worst) NEVER stopped loving me or disowned me. What you are doing is legal and to be honest we are sexual, lustful beings. I find it quite natural.

    They may not like it but they still love you.

    You really have 2 options , fess up or live in denial/fantasy land where you all pretend you are bartending. You have like a 25% chance of making it more than 3 years as a stripper. Anyone else can step in and debate this with me but most girls don't last and the ones that are career strippers tend to really have their shit in order. If you fall into the latter category your family will have to just get used to it.
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    I’m Irish too and my family are old school catholic they know I like to dress in heels and have a pole in my room etc as I have done for years they started questioning when I came home with a lot of cash and spending etc I’m a very good liar I just told them not to be worrying and they said fair enough it’s your life I’m not gonna admit it to them they are pretty crazy to talk to about things like that incredibly judgmental they haven’t a penny to their name and I’m never gonna be in that position not when I can work 2 3 nights a week at the club and make more than I do in a month at my day job. They have it stuck in their heads women who are lingerie models or women who model for sex shops are slappers and that women who take their clothes off are no better than prostitutes. Growing up I had to keep a lot of secrets from them too they really are not easy to talk to in general they blow up over react and make everything way worse than what it is. I’ve mastered keeping things to myself for years over it..

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    Default Re: How to keep stripping secret from parents?

    Well, they know so you're going to have to deal with that talk eventually.

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    Default Re: How to keep stripping secret from parents?

    Quote Originally Posted by KandiKanes View Post
    I’m Irish too and my family are old school catholic they know I like to dress in heels and have a pole in my room etc as I have done for years they started questioning when I came home with a lot of cash and spending etc I’m a very good liar I just told them not to be worrying and they said fair enough it’s your life I’m not gonna admit it to them they are pretty crazy to talk to about things like that incredibly judgmental they haven’t a penny to their name and I’m never gonna be in that position not when I can work 2 3 nights a week at the club and make more than I do in a month at my day job. They have it stuck in their heads women who are lingerie models or women who model for sex shops are slappers and that women who take their clothes off are no better than prostitutes. Growing up I had to keep a lot of secrets from them too they really are not easy to talk to in general they blow up over react and make everything way worse than what it is. I’ve mastered keeping things to myself for years over it..
    Yes, I mentioned my family's heritage because I know what it is like- with the judgement but also not actually speaking about things so... you said you only work a few days a week. Can you move out and maybe work one more day a week? Even if it is a tiny apartment you will have more privacy.
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    Default Re: How to keep stripping secret from parents?

    Well I personally would not confirm anything given how judgmental your parents seem to be. Unless they have seen you with their own two eyes, stalked you/trailed you to the club/captured your license plate/took a photo of you entering the club, or you are a bad actress then they just have a wild guess.

    Sometimes people cannot handle the truth.

    And what do you think will happen when you admit to them? Most likely they will judge you or throw it in your face later.

    If you do tell them they will have to understand you will not tolerate any disrespect from them regarding your decisions.

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