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https://nypost.com/2018/01/27/stripp...her-a-bad-mom/
In a case of a toothless man in a topless bar, a Manhattan chef claims a sensitive stripper slugged him for insulting her mothering skills.
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https://nypost.com/2018/01/27/stripp...her-a-bad-mom/
In a case of a toothless man in a topless bar, a Manhattan chef claims a sensitive stripper slugged him for insulting her mothering skills.
He sounds like an asshole douchebag which we deal with everyday here in NYC. They think they can talk to us however they want without any repercussions. On the other hand, who in the hell is going to hire that dancer now? She's fucked.
Oh geez. He shouldn't have insulted her like that. That is true though, that clubs might not want to hire that dancer now if she has that incident on record. Then again, depending on the club they might not even care.
In manhattan, all they care about is not getting sued... she’s a liability now.


stupid question: why would the club get sued instead of the dancer?




It’s insensitive to call her a bad mom, but she obviously over reacted. She obviously shouldn’t share her personal problems at work, especially with customers. A customer will take anything negative and use it against you later. Unless they are a good regular, I don’t share my private life at work.
lol...I don’t know how many guys I’ve warned to be respectful to dancers. Ya never know when there’s too much bullshit and she can’t take it anymore



I'd be concerned that the club AND the dancer might be liable to a lawsuit.
I don't think that the dancer overreacted. As said above, a lot of customers think that strip clubs are places where they can go to abuse the women who work there. Strip clubs are there for entertainment purposes. We are there to bring ppl joy via entertainment, not to be abused or degraded. I don't understand how ppl do not understand that. I feel that how women are sometimes treated by and in the industry is a good proxy for how little respect and power women still lack in American society.
Regardless of whether the guy was a jackbutt, assault is never the way to resolve problems.
Both she and the club will most likely be sued. She will find work, just most likely not in the higher end Manhattan clubs. They are terrified of lawsuits and avoid them at all costs.





Why tell a customer all of your problems??
This is not entertaining...
"She told me all about herself and her family and her children . . . and how they were f–king up with the police."
Not trying to defend the guy. Yes, he was rude. He could've excused himself or tip her 20 to leave....but he was drunk and from NY(state of the brutally blunt ppl).
She should've kept her cool and kept it moving.
Now she has no job, and he has no teeth.
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I'm sure that the club will settle this for the cost of the dental work and a little extra bone for the girly man and his lawyer, but what a testament to the character of grown men in NYC that the clubs there are constantly worried about being sued over scuffles and interactions between these men and the dancers. There was a time when a man in his 30s would have been too ashamed to admit that he got punched out by a girl, but of course men like that also had the decency not to say something so snarky to a woman in the first place. Yet one more reason that I'm happy to be far away from NY now.



Dental work is expensive! A single tooth in NYC can cost upwards of 8k. Then add, 'emotional distress' to the big baby...
I don't think it's necessarily NYC caliber of men though. I've overheard of strippers talking of men who have made them cry such that they had to leave early for home. As I'm on break right now, just thinking of some of the stuff guys do and/or makes my skin cringe. I had one guy at Sapphire NYC on the UES who practically assaulted me in the VIP (as many girls are, just read this forum), and to top it off at the end of it all, kissed me on the way out, with an apology, "I'm so sorry I made you do it. I wish you would have enjoyed it." I understand that there are specific protocols by which to deal with a situation, but sometimes when emotions run amok, as in fear and paralysis during sexual assault or harassment, the fight or flight may shut down. In a situation as this girl was probably dealing with, some people fight response certainly goes into overdrive, as there are some missing teeth to prove, lol. I've had plenty of East Coast men who have spent generously, either on me, or colleagues. When they don't spend as much as I wish, most of the time they are at the very least incredibly respectful. I think East Coast is generally more uptight than West Coast, which works in our girl's favor, in that the guys are more inclined to follow the etiquette of a particular situation.
I think all this mess comes with the territory of working in an environment with a bunch of drunk idiots. You add naked ladies to the mix, ladies for whom society has no regard for and in an industry being entertainment, whether it be mainstream (as we are now seeing with the scandals) or adult (as we've known all along), the men make room for all sort of abuse just because we are women. In good clubs, management will throw the guy out for being rude. In really really good clubs, management will call the cops on a man who shorts you and/or assaults you. Many a times management does not care. There are times when management even works with the po po to have it's own girls arrested, when that route is much cheaper and legitimate, than paying off the cops to continue running itself as a whorehouse (e. g. Sapphire NYC).
The upside is that there is more money to be made in this industry here than other places in the world. That is, bc of stigma and misogyny that is sometimes coming from the very management for whom you work.Or so I think. Because as Americans, we all like to think that our country is best in some way, even though we haven't seen enough of the world to know otherwise.
Also, I'd like to say that maybe this girl should not have divulged as much info about her situation for the guy, in his drunken state, such that he came to this conclusion. But at the same time, sometimes customers are super super pushy and have no bounds. It's the nature of this work. It's the nature of customers who are the most high maintenance and thrifty. They do not oblige by any sense of boundaries.
I hope it works out for both of them. I don't think it sounds as a good situation for either party.





Related note...I saw a stripper get her face punched by a female bartender for saying the same types of things. In that case it was justified.
I agree with Rick though overall....just ugh!!!!!!!





It happens all the time. In fact, just two nights ago I was regaled with a story of a girl who lost custody of her two older children while she was in jail. At first she had stuck with a simpler version that she had 3 kids, but she quickly offered up the additional details.
In some instances, I think that these girls become conditioned to share personal information because some guys want/need to feel a connection in order to spend $$, especially in smaller town/city clubs with dancers reliant upon regulars. I've also noticed that the girls who are prone to sharing often cough up the information quickly and then look carefully to see if they're being judged, which is no doubt a conditioned response from dealing with guys like the d-bag in this story.










Me too, lol.
Now the example I gave you was both coincidental in its timing and extreme, but I experience versions of this fairly often and I'm usually not prying very hard. Of course I spend a lot of my time in clubs in smaller cities like Bridgeport CT, Greenville SC and Jacksonville FL, to name a few, which I think makes a big difference. These types of places don't have the same amount of tourist and other foot traffic as bigger city clubs, so a much higher % of spending comes from salty club regulars who, IME and IMO, don't really respond well to the "I'm the fantasy" type of hustle. Hence the girls adapt, for better or for worse.
Now I'm sure as heck not advocating that approach, but I've heard shit like that so often that it doesn't faze me anymore. She was far and away the hottest girl in the club and, after spending a half hour being fascinated at the bar by her story (and getting her toasted up at her request), I spent another half an hour with her in the back. I'm not saying that her life story was the reason (obviously), but I did find her to be pretty interesting. Idk. All I'm really trying to say is that this is more common than you might think.





This is really politically incorrect to say but I've noticed the only club regulars I've dealt with that love saying below-the-belt insults to strippers are either literally handicapped to a point where they can't even pay for sex...OR they have mental illness issues to where even "bag whore" sex workers are too terrified to fuck them. Basically a creepy loser who is unable to get off sexually will vent his tension/aggression in other, socially unpleasant ways.
YEAH I'll probably get some hateful PMs on here for putting that out there. But look, it is what it is.



Agree with the above. The guys making the insults are usually not model customers.
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