Do you believe in Love?
When was the last time you fell in love?
How do you stay in love?





Do you believe in Love?
When was the last time you fell in love?
How do you stay in love?
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde
naturally. wont matter if its a biochemical reaction or not, the end result is the same- a mental, emotional attachments to individuals that benefit a whole host of different biological, sociological needs.
if we are talking on a purely biological level, we by default " fall in love" with out caregiver first at infancy IE a mother etc purely for survival reasons. That said i assume you mean it in the purely romantic sense? in that case? id say i made that jump from crushes and stuff to what id consider a real love in hs ( im not really counting more adolescent notions ) though i had " girlfriends " in middle school and such the first real one that had major impacts on me was in HS.. and that lasted 5 years, and were still really good friends with each other and each others families. now married my self for almost 2 decades, child in collage, one just starting hs and so on.. i think its a safe bet now to say i still have no issue feeling that.
now how do i stay in love? I can't answer that. the issue is a whole cocktail of conditions, situations, natural bonds, experiences and so on. you run into problems imho the second you try and look at it as something you can quantify as an element or a skill. it's neither of those. the best question to ask is how to maintain a relationship, as that can be worked through more or less...
but the " emotional condition " itself? id have to say. Let the myriad things rest and carry forward. truth of ones nature be it desire, love, or other states of being are no different than the moon, even reflecting in a pool it is what it is. you can analyze it a million times...yet it simply remains what it is
Hatred does not cease by hatred but only by love; this is the eternal rule.
" What is Reality? An icicle forming in fire."
-Dogen Zenji
Yeah I believe in love but I don't believe in "the one" or whatever. I think there are lots of people for everyone it's not that serious.



I love love. I've learned over time though, that I'm not a huge fan of monogamous love. I agree with Daniella that we can love multiple people. No two people are perfect fits. I believe that we can find multiple close enough fits, or people that fit one niche really well, satisfy one part of our personality.





I believe in love but not romantic love. For example, love of family,home, and one's culture is more important. Falling in love and staying in love is not important in my relationships with people. However, duty,honor, care,respect, financial responsibility to your home,and happiness of your partner are important. Romantic love was never needed for bonding in any of my ancestors' marriages and it's no different with me.
Wolves may lurk in every guise / Now as then, 'tis simple truth / Sweetest tongue has sharpest tooth.
I didn't believe in love in the romantic sense until I met my dude, up until then there was lots of peeps I liked but didn't feel the way I did when I met him
really though, without friendship I don't think romantic love can last. ours has for about 14 years now. ya can't be fucking 24/7 and have to actually talk to each other sometimes. yeah my dude is my 'husband' but really he's my best friend and that's an indispensable aspect of my love of him
I believe it exists but not like 24/7. It ebbs and flows.
I chose not to have romantic love (unless it's on my terms) because it's tied to brain chemicals and many young people out here are quick to use "love" as a manipulation tool. Ever been in love? Feels like being high....on ecstasy. Experienced heartbreak? Feels like going through heroin withdrawls.
Like mentioned above there are different types of love. Romantic love is more risky.



Risky? More like terrifying! Putting yourself out there like that, completely at someone else's mercy is absolutely terrifying.
Great analogies as well. I've blown out a knee, been stabbed, run over, but the most painful experience of my life was the end of a serious long-term relationship. It's physically and mentally debilitating with much longer lasting effects than a simple injury.





I don't know. I think real love is a choice we make. You must decide every day to take the good with the bad.
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I do believe in love. I think if you spend a lot of time with a person whose company you find to be very enjoyable and who enjoys your company eventually you start to care about that person in such a way that you find yourself including them in your picture of the future and you want to do what you can within reason to try to make their life better.
you stay in love by realizing that loving doesn't mean that you have to like the person all the time lol. my boyfriend can be a bit of a dick at times but I never stop caring about him or his happiness.
Not sure anymore.





I think (romantic) love is a combination of two things: (a) someone you admire and are very attracted to, and (b) someone that reciprocates the admiration and attraction. When you are with that person you worship them, and, also feel worshiped by them. They are your biggest fan, cheerleader and advocate. And, you are the same to them. You build each other up and make each other the best version you can be.
This is easy in the beginning, because you are high as a kite with the love hormones/chemicals in the brain (e.g., oxytocin) and only see the best in each other. You ignore all the imperfections and red flags.
But,... the high wears off, and time reveals all, and you become aware of the less desirable traits of the person.
Five years later...
She: Why did you forget to do that? Why can't you do anything right? You're so irresponsible! I have to do everything and I am tired and feel underappreciated! I don't know why I married you!
He: I had more important things to do! Why do you always nag me about such petty shit. I get no credit for the important stuff I do! You used to be fun, now you're just miserable, and you try your best to make me miserable, too!
Last edited by jack0177057; 02-01-2018 at 02:50 PM.
Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood.
- Oscar Wilde





If we're talking the romantic type. Yes, I do... even though I am not in one myself. I don't think it's something ppl should go looking for. It has to happen naturally.
I know couples who have been married for lots of years, still act as like when they first met.
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